Posted: 2017-10-26 23:01
I love my cub even if he s only 9 years than me, I feel like I am the luckiest woman alive. He adores me and he really likes the attention and devotion I give him. He s very shy and quiet, and I think most girls his age overlook him, although he has a rockin body and the most lovely amber eyes like liquid maple syrup. He s been completely captivated with me and now we live together in a house we bought together. Other people say they see how happy he is. After a 75 year marriage and four kids that ended in a brutal divorce, it s just heaven for me to have his simplicity and sweetness instead of the nasty head games that men my age just can t live without.
Maybe the nice guys need to be recognized more somehow by getting in kind responses from women. If you get a nice initial message, at least say no thank you and even a brief idea of how good the message was. Us guys get no clue whether we are sending out the right message or not. It would even be nice to get some kind of rating system going like eBay or something. SOMETHING to clue us in whether we are just a little off and need to tune up, or to just forget it. This weird limbo of never knowing if it was the message, the profile, the pictures or if who we messaged is overwhelmed is really tough to deal with. It would also be nice to have women realize that if they are getting decent if not outright nice messages more than once from a guy, that these guys are just trying to stay on top of the crap that that woman is otherwise getting that they aren''t stalking or pestering, they are just wondering if they are getting heard at all.
My situation is like yours, but more new and more analysis on the front end. I feel he is more mature than I am, although he is half my age. So, I am looking all all HIS best interests and options in advance in case those issues ever come up. I cannot birth babies, but I CAN afford a surrogate Not too worried about the old lady syndrome as I seem to be getting Odd as that is. After reading your story, I am keeping ALL my cards on the table not just dismissing this as a temp situation for sure. Thank you.
i found the first series about reasons to date a white man to be debasing, putting all black men in one category, telling the world that we don t think much of each other, and now you retort with this. that s the problem, that s the cycle in our community. no answers, just repeitition of slander and name calling and you did this, bu t then what? in the meantime there is a %75 percent out of wedlock rate, boys are growing up without fathers, clueless as to what manhood is, they need mentors, so do girls. so many of our men are in prison. marriage rates are low, we lag behind in education. but this is what matters?
I agree..we go after what we want more
It is just sad that he would leave the one he loves and the one who loves him back maybe he will never find love like that anymore,maybe he won 8767 t be able to have children,maybe he was not in love with her at the first place lots of 8775 maybe 8767 s 8776
It looked like my husband wanted a child more than I did and I can guarantee to you that he is the worst father I have ever met, in every sense of that word.
Many people have children for all the wrong reasons and a lot of them do regret the decision,because they had no clue what they were getting into.
But.. we all make our own choices
So I think there is a misconception among some male (and maybe female daters) that you are owed a 8775 not interested 8776 message. Its a strange belief to be held, really no one owes you anything. When I was looking for a job I would send resumes and individually tailored cover letters to several employers a day. Despite my efforts, I never heard back from 95% of them. Sure, it would be nice for them to let me know I wasn 8767 t the right candidate but their silence was enough to let me know as much. Likewise, I 8767 ve sent many silly/funny/flirty messages to men when I was dating online and heard nothing, again their silence spoke. Why can 8767 t people just understand that just because they sent someone a message they aren 8767 t owed a response, a response is sort of a nice surprise.
I have gone with married woman when I was One of my married girlfriends quit her husband and married me. I was then married to a woman with a history of quitting a husband for a boyfriend. It never occurred to me that once we were married I would no longer be a boyfriend, but now I was her husband. It didn t take her long to trade me in on a newer model. That was my last marriage. Now I only go with unattached, unmarried trustworthy ladies.
im 95 and my mate is were married but gotten been together seven have our sex use to be like fire,but now its basically trying to keep him satisfied due to my age,woman question is will he end up leaving me?..i love him just dont know how to keep have no children dont have a foundation together to build can i
The next day while I''m at work, he calls and texts while I''m away from my phone. Although I text some, I''m not one that wants to live with my phone attached to me at all times and work does not permit personal cell phone use over productivity. So he calls and texts a few more times. When I get a break I responded that I''m at work and cannot talk to which he replies that he''d prefer that I always answer his calls.
i just dont know
so i am playing very stern and kinda putting him in his place, but its like water off a ducks back and he listens but comes back with a powerful question
hes definately the kind of guy that i admire
and direct no beating around the bush, and not for a minute believing that would actually reject him and walk away from this
and he wants me to think about it
but mostly he wants to hang out with me and spend time with me and get close enough to me so that i can feel his breath near to me, his hand close to mine
Dating stinks. Not all guys are arrogant, self absorbed jerks wanting one night stands. So, it seems all men are thrown into the same mix of dirtbags. I''ve dated a lot of ladies and yes I have my standards. Who wants to settle. The gals I''ve dated were attractive and my ex wife was good looking. The head games played by women, empty profile or blatant ignores makes online dating a serious crapshoot. "Lets go for coffee" crickets.. very frustrating.
Just remember you might never know why your newest attraction has this type of baggage. Every woman with a child is a woman who did not choose to abort or give that child up for adoption. So the woman without children does not necessarily have better (sex) life management skills. And ladies, because the brother does not have a child or 7 tugging on his shirt tail does not tell you anything. Because men are not kangaroos and do not bear the tangible fruits of pregnancy (unplanned or not) in a physiological manner, this does not mean he may not be a daddy to somebody!!! Hello!
I am now 79 years old (she 6 year my senior) and I feel like, simply put, dedicating my life to her will lead me to the lifestyle of a second class citizen. I don 8767 t want to say I don 8767 t love her, but I 8767 ve completely lost all respect for her. Every time we have gotten to the point where a major decision in life needs made, my opinion is brutally ignored even if she agrees with me or has come to me with a very wise decision. Somehow she always winds up paying more attention to some f*** up friend or an idiot family member who is worse off than we are. Each time it drags us both down financially while ruining her children 8767 s livelihood.
And the age appropriate men that DO look good and take care of themselves, have their act together etc. want the 78 year old Barbies! I am 96 and tend to either get the 75 year old kids wanting a 8775 cougar 8776 or the 58 year old men who want a pretty woman (but one who is free to travel and without kids!!) Finding a good looking, funny, smart 95 year old man is like finding a unicorn, and when you do find one, he is chasing the fairies!!
I don''t know what to do about the jerks. I think a lower percentage of guys that are like this are out there. But for some reason these idiots are taking up all of the dating bandwidth. And about the only thing I can see nice guys who really want this to work bringing to the table is to just not get bitter and disappointed. I don''t know, it is really hard to see how to break this cycle that is destroying online dating for the majority of us. It would be helpful to know that possibly a new kind etiquette be understood by women that repeat messages that are nice should be acceptable and that we men kindly engage them with these that we get a chance to overcome the idiots by countering them somehow. Also, maybe people could work up some kind of meta-dating situation (something like responding to websites about online dating or, as I said above, some kind of rating system)?
Thanks for sharing your situation. It might not be the most morally right thing for me to suggest given that the woman is married, but perhaps letting her know in so many words that she is in your mind (without telling her about the 8775 constantly 8776 part) and see how she responds is a good idea. If nothing else, you will know how she feels about the whole situation. An older, married woman is likely to be more open about being able to handle something like this and/or share whatever she has to say about this. At the very least, you won 8767 t feel like you didn 8767 t explore something you should.
On the other hand, one of the ways I spot real profiles is in how bad they are. The scammers at least TRY to make what they put up look presentable. The legitimate ones almost universally feature poorly taken pictures of people who would have MUCH better luck at the nearest dive bar or neighborhood drunkfest where no one present is in any shape to get behind the wheel. Those horrible pictures taken by/of the most unpresentable individuals the community has to offer are often accompanied by, well, nothing! They say nothing about themselves, and many times when they do post a few characters in an attempt to do so, not saying anything at all would have been the wiser choice.
I have stopped online dating after meeting my boyfriend, so I don 8767 t know if they still have that (or if whatever site you 8767 re on has that). However, it 8767 s just an idea maybe you can ask the site administrator if they could do a thing like that for you. If you could set something like that up, it would make your inbox more manageable. Yes, you 8767 d get less overall quantity, but I 8767 m sure you 8767 d rather get a few people who could possibly be right, than a ton of people who definitely aren 8767 t. Quality over quantity! Good luck!
I just don 8767 t understand or accept that anyone would leave someone they truly love?(or maybe they think they do?)
As I said before in my comment above,what if someone does the same thing to you?Leave you because you can 8767 t have children?
Many women can 8767 t have children..
Nothing in life is a guarantee,we can 8767 t control some things(maybe anything)but I think we should always stay with someone we love and when that someone is loving us is the greatest gift!
As for the nice guys, they will take the time to read your profile and message you about a common interest you have. Or they will ask questions about you and genuinely try to get to know you. They should have manners and compliment you in a gentlemanly way, not in a perverse manner. I''m actually supposed to meet someone this week and I feel quite confident in saying that he''s one of the good ones on plenty of fish.