Posted: 2017-09-11 19:47
I never planned to be in love, at my age, with someone but it happened. 8775 We 8776 are in love, and that is all there is to tell. He has decided that he wants what we have together. He has been free to sojourn out in pursuit of happiness, and it is here he wants to be. People no longer influence him like before as he has, in earnest, found he has no reason not to be with me. Through it all, it has made our thing,the best thing either of us has ever wanted.
Hello Dear, in terms of the age gap we are almost in the same situation. I am 86 and my boyfriend will turn 76 in November! and we ve been dating since August 7567. Such a long time, believe me I couldn t imagine that I am still with him after 7 years :)) BTW I met his Mom three times since we began dating, I also met his Grandma twice and his Father once !! and some other relatives :)) the point is that both of us are living in another country and we are also sharing the same house. I guess at the beginning his family was kinda worried but since he has a complete independent personality, no one from his family never says anything about his stuff. consider that his mom is too she is 96!! what a coincidence !!
I just deleted my profile on OKCupid and I''ll tell you received many messages from men, some creepy ''hey Baby blah blah blah, some down right offensive, the few that warranted responses, very few I might add, became a back and forth of messaging, I do not understand if the purpose is to meet in person and find if there''s any chemistry why the back and forth messaging? Seems that a lot of men are quite happy to remain behind a screen and those who are up to meeting right away are seeking sex..which is funny really because a woman could go out pretty much any night of the week to a bar and get sex if that''s all she certainly don''t need to go online for sex. One man messaged me and stated he found my profile interesting that we had much in common, we messaged back and forth and then he asked for my cell so we could was 7 weeks ago, never heard from him, it''s like why bother?
I''ve had the same experience as you''ve said. I don''t understand it. They keep ignoring everything I say to them about myself. They become fixated on the picture, even though my profile says I don''t think I''m wonderful and my hair looks awful. They don''t read it at all. I''m a whole person and this is wasting my time. I''m still at home on a Saturday night. If I''m that gorgeous (I don''t think I am), why aren''t they asking me out? I''ve tried to prompt them and get nowhere. Are they shy? Are they feeling inadequate? I can deal with that if the person is interested. If you can''t get past that to find out, then I give up.
What about the rampant lying about age, income, height and other things simply get into more peoples searches or attract more responses because people are shallow. I''ve read that some women won''t even bother with a man whose income is not high enough. LOL! So men lie about it try and get a shot and then it of course tanks. Or women lie about their age because they "feel and want to fall into a wider search. And then the man finds out.
Again, I am not limiting myself to only gorgeous women, but I do need to feel SOME sense of attraction, and some women have just not taken care of themselves as I know some men have not either. At my age, I only bother with messaging women up to ten years and several years older, as I have to feel more of a connection age wise. I hate to be harsh, but the years are harsh on some women. Again, a woman does not have to be gorgeous at all, but if my first feeling is that a woman''s picture depicts someone who was a woman in a previous life, then I naturally go to the next profile. Since I still enjoy cross country skiing and cycling, then women who have interests limited to restaurants and being a spectator, then I likewise will pass, regardless of attraction.
I honestly think a lot of the problem has to do the massive amount of attention the women receive. They might claim everyone on there is "creepy," but I think the problem lies more with the fact that they receive so much constant attention, that those of us who are decent just simply get lost in the shuffle. The girls I work with use online dating basically describe it like looking through a catalog. They constantly get bombarded with messages, they quickly glance at the profile, make a quick (often shallow) judgment, and then move on to the next one. Some have been on the site for several years now and I feel that the more attention they receive, the more unrealistic their standards become. It reaches a point where I''m not sure that ANY guy is good enough for what these women are looking for.
I wish I could date my college is 88 and I am 76 and I feel a connection between us,I know when I am liked,she always asks me if I do not understand something to come to her desk and ask her I just went to say hi and we spent like half an hour talking about all kinds of stuff,she seemed quite know that she was never married.
I also feel that she can 8767 t go 8775 wild 8776 with me because it would be wrong and unprofessional,in those moments I feel so sad that there are barriers between are moments when she just tries to ignore me but she always cracks a smile when I look at her.
I feel bad for thinking about her,I really shouldn 8767 t.
She even wakes me up later that night and has a smoke with me, then jumps into my bed. Tells me and my room mate that she wants to share my bed with me. Roommate again tries to get her away from me and gets her to go back into his room. Then she invites me to come along. Guy not getting the hint. Again after a bit he asks me for some privacy and i say no problem. Im chilling and girl comes back and says hes nearly asleep, when he falls asleep she will come and crawl into bed with me.
I am reading this guy Eric''s situation and it is EXACTLY the same as mine and from what I can gather, thousands upon thousands of guys out there.
For sure a lot of the girls are "saying" they want the nice guy but end up looking for the guy they have spent an entire paragraph saying they do NOT want. Not all girls are this way though.
I truly believe that a MASSIVE amount of the blame can go to the guys who act like asses and the girls who let them get away with it. Clearly it works on some girls so these jerks continue to try until they find that girl.
Also a lot of girls need to lose the attitude, I mean seriously no matter how good looking you "think" you are, if your head is up your butt you are going to come out looking like poop.
It is sad because I myself am an average/decent looking guy, look far than my age of 89 and am as nice as can be. Yet I will get not one single response out of 85 messages.
I think be reading the comments here on what women want, one can easily tell why men aren''t getting what THEY want. It''s always funny to see men saying what women really want and what we really think, and with such confidence! Oh, the laughs. Men, you can thank your fellow dudes here for spending too much time in pick-up artist forums, and tainting the dating pool so heavily with these wildly inaccurate childish perspectives they learn from other creepy men. Please do not blame women, for if you had to read dozens of messages from guys in the Red Pill community, who sound more and more like Elliot Rodgers the longer they remain single, you''d probably bow out of dealing with it after too long as well.
The more mature women may be interested in dating a guy out of sheer curiosity of what it feels like dating someone and also because usually guys are more 8775 agile, 8776 active, energetic. Being around a guy makes a woman feel as well. No woman is attracted to a guy who is a couch potato or who is unable to climb a set of stairs without being out of breath, especially if the woman herself is very active. guys have a stronger sex drive and are naturally hungrier for a woman 8767 s body. Few things are more flattering to an older woman than being with a guy who craves her body and who is more eager to be close to her physically than any older guy would.
Good advice. I have a 77 year old roommate who parties pretty hard. He brought over some 69 year old chick with a bunch of his friends. After sitting with them for a while she plunked her but down right beside me and we got talking. She went to the bathroom and i didnt want to anyone off so i asked whos girlfriend she was. They said nobody. I asked if anyone was trying to get with her and they said no.
Great site. Glad to be out.
Life too short to 8775 Settle 8776 so remember that ,when you 8767 re next time at a standstill in not going after the 8775 love 8776 you really want. With older lady you 8767 re getting it all imo and that is again most important mature conversation outside AND in the bedroom/in the sheets,and loyalty. You can 8767 t go wrong there ya know. and a mature partner in life unlike games drama that type drama filled chicks bring. GLAD i am wise enough since teen to know the 8775 best 8776 type of lady out here for me is not older.
But the reason women always slept around is they''re wired that way. As well as the evidence accumulated by Bergner you can look at "sperm wars" and paternity testing for proof. Why do sperm fight and kill one another? They have to if they want a chance at a fertilising an egg, because women have always slept around. And there were a lot of surprised people around when DNA testing of children first became possible.
It 8767 s actually the 8775 creepyness 8776 and the 8775 wrongness 8776 of it that turns me on sexually. When I think about the actual age of that guy and how wrong it appears that he specifically seeks out my age outside of the bedroom, I 8767 m automatically repulsed. Also having to tell my family and being seen in public with him would be extremely embarrassing to me and not worth it, no matter how good looking he is (rare for a 95+ year old anyway). Despite my sexual fantasy, the older guy will always be a creep to me, therefore useless to me outside the realms of sexual fantasy. I really don 8767 t think I 8767 m alone here from discussions I 8767 ve had with friends.
The older man / women stuff also generally applies to any man who is hitting up any woman of legal age who is more than 65 years than he is. (Since men hitting up women within one to nine years is considered 8775 normal 8776 by society in most cases.) So in a way, a 95 year old man working with a 76 year old woman would apply here, even though she 8767 s technically not a VYW.
It was actually really interesting. The study showed men consistently rated themselves too highly, went after women right out of their league, got knocked back. Women consistently rated themselves as less attractive than they are, went after men well within their league, fewer knock backs. However, the more attractive men did not mis-rate themselves and did not have this problem. Average men consistently tried to latch onto women they had no realistic chance with.
For me the challenges I face are wanting children of my own and finding where I fit with hers the age old debate of blended families. She has two children. One 68 and the other 69. She had a tubal ligation performed after her last child [which she regrets as she was only 77]. I have no children, but it 8767 s something I strongly desire. I want a family, but most importantly, I want it with her. She feels much the same way.
That is the Shidduch Crisis in a nutshell. Unfortunately, relatively few Orthodox Jews realize that the Shidduch Crisis boils down to a math problem. Most explanations for the Shidduch Crisis blame cultural influences for causing men to delay marriage. “Those of us who’ve tossed and turned with this, we don’t necessarily believe that there are more girls than boys,” said Elefant. “We believe God created everybody, and God created a match for everybody.”