Posted: 2017-10-29 10:24
Then I get down to the decent messages. We chat. I have to ask where they live and work and I flag with them that they are my standard initial questions due to my situation. I don''t mind where they live, but where they work is important because I only have lunch times during work days to do initial coffee/meet-ups. My daughter lives with me, but alternate weekends she is with her father. I don''t want to commit my free weekends to anyone until I''ve met them first and have decided that I would like to progress. My free time is scarce so I''d like it to not go to waste.
I was born on the boat to USA in 6989, and my parents had not a moment to look around at USA to figure out what to do, and my father, advised by well-meaning persons, made the devastating decision to try making a living as a musician as he had in Europe. We lived in poverty, ane my father literally worked himself to death at age fifty-seven with my mother following a few years later at the same age.
Be selective about which dating agency you use. For example there are some associated with quality newspapers and in UK one associated with a classical music radio channel. Those are not likely to appeal to readers of the tabloid press or aficionados of more popular styles of music so you have some idea what kind of person you''ll meet. There is also a cost range. Low budget sites will attract low budget people.
Now having said that, my romantic, emotional and spiritual expressions of love have always found their home in the person of a black woman but not simply because they are black, but because they inspire my love and devotion by their essence and character. In fact, my appreciation for black women has been immeasurably increased because of my social exposure and the juxtaposition of women of other racial and ethnic extractions to black women. When you are apart from the sisters (I lived for 8 years in Europe, South America) you appreciate and miss the subtleties of loving a black woman more.
And no, I will not let a guy spend my weekend with my kid with us - not until I''ve gotten to know him properly and we''ve been seeing each other for a while. It''s to protect my child from getting instantly attached if there is no intention of commitment, and also just in case he is a deviant who preys on single mothers to get to their children. It happens, so I am very cautious. And also the reason why I can''t understand why anyone posts picture of children in their profile - whether it''s their own children or their niece/nephew/godchild. Dating sites are full of perverts. Keep children''s pictures off them. (Sorry, that was going off the topic).
Clearly, this is not the popular secular view of the "liberated" woman''s role. Hollywood''s perfect woman runs with the boys, knows what she wants and is aggressive en route to getting it especially romantically. Hilariously, Hollywood even writes these characters into period pieces, as if the normal woman at all levels of society in the 68th and 69th centuries was a post-feminist, post-sexual-revolution, "there-ain''t-no-difference-between-me-and-you" libertine. But I digress.
It has become clear to me with the passing of the years that my knowledge and understanding are very limited much to my own consternation. However I will do my best to explain the situation as I see it. My answer will likely seem off topic and possibly confusing. Unfortunately the real issue, as is almost always the case with problems we are facing today, exists far beyond the usual scope of answers proffered.
Another blithering idiot! You cannot understand the bible because you do not have the Spirit of God within will forever remain a dufus regarding the Word of God until you ask God to prove Himself to you, come into your heart and give you Life, New Life. Short of that you 8767 ll remain completely spiritually ignorant and your intellectual 8775 read 8776 will keep you in darkness
jesus did plan Christianity and gave Peter the first 8775 popehood 8776 so to speak to build his church on this Rock. .. The debate is whether Jesus that came or the Jesu who will return is what should be called the Messiah. I believe both he came and he will return. Fulfilling the for your silly 8775 marraige 8776 rant it was in a different time and 8775 Marraige was done by taking the woman into your home in God 8767 s name.
Fortunately i am content with who I am as a person and recognize that at this stage of my life I am looking for a woman to connect with intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. Certainly for myself physical attraction is important but it has moved from the top of my list to the bottom. I wish I could state that my shifting ideals have made it easier to find potential partners but in reality it is now immeasurably more difficult.
YOU said your grandson he knows about gay sex.
I said you should have fun taking him out for Halloween a pagan holiday.
Teach him, too, that Christmas is a pagan holiday that the church told its sheep was the day to celebrate the birth of a man born out of wedlock, but whose mother was impregnated by G5d.
You sure spend a lot of your Christian time thinking about gay people.
My friends are upstanding beautiful human beings. They don 8767 t spend time damning fools like you.
Your assumption about my sexuality goes to show more about your non-Christian beliefs, that 8767 s for sure.
YOU are the epitome of the hatred permeated onto this earth by bigots and scum who believe only their 8766 christians 8767 beliefs are correct.
Go check the roots of your loving Christian roots. Look up the Crusades.
Jesus would most definitely be appalled at how Christians have destroyed his name against his religion and people of his book.
Personally, I think the best thing anyone could do would be to work on themselves. The entire reason I even bother with online dating is because I''m deathly afraid of rejection, and get social anxiety. Unfortunately, online dating has led me through cycles of depression, bitterness, jadedness, and maybe mostly sadly - misogyny (since fundamentally I think women are awesome.) But on all levels.. men who want to be successful should be working on their fitness, sharpening their minds, and improving their confidence. Online dating could be a tool for self-improvement, if you let it. But I think a lot of men buy into a "Homer Simpson" fantasy, and expect women to see some inner merit they have, which is hypocritical since (most) men won''t go after overweight/unattractive women on these sites.
There you go with your superior attitude. The Jews trace their tribe way back to when everyone was tribal. big effing deal. I know lots of Jews, but most of them are now atheists or at least they don 8767 t wear their religion on their sleeves as many Christians also do. Nobody is the 8775 chosen 8776 or perhaps we all are if we come to the table. I 8767 m sick of the old argument about how the Jews are better than the Palestinians because they are better stewards of the land.
There 8767 s that anger again. I am not on the fence, I am out of the game completely. To me agnostic means that I do not think about the question of God or no God at all, that I will treat people with a high level of compassion and respect whether there is a God or not. I do it because we all have a shared humanity and a shared struggle to be happy in life and it 8767 s not nice to make others feel the pain that we are all desperately trying to avoid. I don 8767 t feel a need to make believers OR non-believers wrong. I just want everyone to be happy and to get along.
For someone to truly connect with another person and feel completely content with another they must first know and accept themselves. In my forty plus years in America I believe that to be a rarity. I have known people of all ages including countless couples who seem to have a better grasp on celebrities lives than they do on their own. I can count perhaps a handful of people I''ve met who have formed their own systems of belief. The vast majority have simply accepted whatever belief system they were fed without question.
All human beings.. and I mean ALL.. including feminist retards like this one know it is MEN who are NOT WIRED for monogamy.. and women are the ones who nail men down.. it is GENETIC. Females often died from childbirth.. and once knocked up, they were out of commission for a year.. while males mated with as many females as possible. look at Ghenghis Khan.. half of Mongolia''s and China''s population carries HIS genes. not "hers" sweet silly thing.
I am reading this guy Eric''s situation and it is EXACTLY the same as mine and from what I can gather, thousands upon thousands of guys out there.
For sure a lot of the girls are "saying" they want the nice guy but end up looking for the guy they have spent an entire paragraph saying they do NOT want. Not all girls are this way though.
I truly believe that a MASSIVE amount of the blame can go to the guys who act like asses and the girls who let them get away with it. Clearly it works on some girls so these jerks continue to try until they find that girl.
Also a lot of girls need to lose the attitude, I mean seriously no matter how good looking you "think" you are, if your head is up your butt you are going to come out looking like poop.
It is sad because I myself am an average/decent looking guy, look far than my age of 89 and am as nice as can be. Yet I will get not one single response out of 85 messages.
If you all don 8767 t have nothing to say that is nice, then please keep to yourselves your negative comments about anything. It takes more muscles to stress and think ugly than to be happy. Negative thoughts only eat you up inside and cause harsh physical devastations. You know the word Cancer craves negativity and loves to have supper with it and thrives on it. Be happy that someone whether you like a man or woman, they have someone to care for and love. I had that and mine crashed into a highway divider and died. He is gone forever and I will have that last memory of him. How does any of this effect you personally. You don 8767 t walk in their shoes, they don 8767 t do anything wrong to you. If the world was coming to an end and all that was left were gay men and lesbians, and strength was the winner who would you pick or would you die alone? I am a straight women that likes all of what God has created. I would rather have many friends then no friends at all. Life is too short! Stay lovely not ugly!
If only a simple Hello would suffice, because reading a dozen ENTIRE profiles every day is time consuming and a little draining on the mind. That isn''t even considering that I then need to choose which women I feel I could bond with over either similar outlooks on life or common interests and goals. If only looks were all that mattered, or better yet if looks didn''t even matter. Alas they do, and everybody is attracted to people with similar genetic markers to themselves. If the world weren''t like that though, we''d join a site and be done the next day.
I can dig what you were trying to say here. Cause there is a lot of substance. But some of what you say completely contradicts the evidence that has been compiled on this subject. The fact is. A lot of women only talk to/give a reasonable chance to the top 6% of attractive men. This isn''t an opinion. They''ve done studies. So while I appreciate your input and I do feel there was a lot to gain from it. You are completely wrong in your assessment that women aren''t as shallow as men. If anything because they have so many choices. They filter them by looks. It''s sad but true.