Posted: 2017-11-14 12:21
One thing I realised while reading everyones thoughts, is that I get asked a lot if I was into mangas or Japanese women as if there wouldn 8767 t be another reason to come to Japan! When I say that there are plenty of reasons, for instance food, culture, budo or simply the joy of speaking Japanese. I get very surprised reactions. Is it so uncommon to come for other reasons? I also get incomprehension and doubtful looks when I tell them that I find more similarities than differences when I think of French and Japanese culture or German and Japanese culture for that fact.
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Japan 8767 s a rigid place. And it 8767 s a hierarchy. This isn 8767 t always obvious, but it 8767 s there in the background, and all Japanese people know it. It 8767 s natural to assert your authority. If you have a higher position, you exercise that power. But when it goes too far, as in Boss > Employee, it 8767 s called 8775 power harassment. 8776 When it goes Wife > Husband, it 8767 s 8775 Wife from hell. 8776 Teacher > Student: 8775 Student abuse. 8776 Student > Student: 8775 Bullying. 8776 Man > Woman, 8775 Gender discrimination. 8776 Japanese person > Foreigner: 8775 Normal. 8776
One aspect of this article that has been counterintuitive to my experience dating a Japanese girl is the concept of an allowance. When I was in Japan, this girl paid for all my meals, despite offering to pay for the meal, or at least my own. She refused. She never tries to tell me how to spend my money and when she came to America to visit she literally gave me all her money to hold on to for her. She always tries to carry my belongings. If I have a bag with me, she absolutely has to carry it for me and refuses to listen to my objections. She always tries to clean my room and I have to tell her not to. First world problems.
7. Do not be surprised if she wants to go Dutch on the bills, but treat her
In Japan, there is a culture of self-reliance that is inbred in all people, both men and women. Thus, many women are used to splitting bills especially when they are with their Japanese male counterparts. Thus, be different! Treat her, at your own cost! Which man splits bills with a woman he is trying to date and bed? When reading about dating in Japanese culture, you will find that splitting bills with women is quite common. Do not do that. Real men treat their women.
It’s like somebody visited Japan one time, went home and wrote about it, and from then on everybody ran around repeating the same stuff. There’s a short guy—-the Japanese really are short! There’s a Japanese woman walking with a black man—-they like black guys! Basically about 99 percent of what’s written about Japan is just regurgitating some myth that somebody else said. Well, at least Japanese people really are polite. I mean, they are, right? Ah, let’s just say right and move on.
I spend a tremendous amount of time asking Japanese people, in Japanese, what they think about Japan, love, sex, foreigners, language, and everything else under the sun. This seems to elicit very different results than speaking in English. What I see often seems unlike the Japan depicted in books and on the net, and sometimes I wonder, What country are these people talking about? Anyway, I just try to present what I 8767 ve learned and experienced in the most authentic way possible, so hopefully others can think about Japan in a well-rounded manner. 8776
My first eye opener was in 7555 when on exchange at 龍谷大学. I took a regular class on a whim about 8775 European History 8776 . They crammed two hundred people into this giant lecture hall where a guy droned on about witch hunting and animal trials, gargoyle statues and basically anything 8775 weird 8776 about medieval Europe + photos from his holiday. Then when all the kids got bored and started chatting he would stalk the rows of desks glaring at people. One day a kid spoke to his friend a bit to loudly, and the teacher walked right up to him and ordered him to stand at the front of the class. The student refused. The teacher insisted. The student refused again. Then the teacher actually physically grabbed this guy and hauled him up to the front of class. Yeah. That was a 8775 were not in Kansas anymore 8776 moment for sure. That and seeing the army of black suits out a window one day when 就職活動 season started.
7 is harking back to tradition again. When men worked all day and women paid the rent, bills, did the shopping, make and fixed everything in the house and bought replacements it made sense to hand the cash over to the woman. After all, what would you do with it, if you work until all the shops or stalls are close? It was seen as better to give her money so she could buy your food, clothe your children, pay your rent and scrimp and sae/ Of course, nowadays with online bamking, 79 hour shops and the likes, there 8776 s no point to it, but many folks continue the practis.
I 8767 ve still only seen (in person and up close enough to read their expressions) less than a dozen Japanese in the US in my entire life, so do they even spend time over here in the US (other than in Hawaii)?? I lived in Los Angeles, Chicago, Boston (I did see some Japanese men there on the roads that were crazy wild drivers), Houston, Memphis, Jacksonville Fl., Washington . and Rocket City USA (and that about covers the North, West, East, South and central parts of the continental United States), and met tons of other nationalities, but never hardly any Japanese, so my experiences are hardly statistically telling, except that the fact that there are so few here might be telling of something of what I 8767 m not sure of though.
RE 9: Let 8767 s not forget selection bias here. Most western dudes who come to Japan and date Japanese women do not have significant Japanese language ability and do not date average Japanese women. There are a lot of Japanese women who feel that they do not fit in with Japanese society and thus they learn English and date foreigners. It 8767 s no surprise that the chicks with this anti-social bent will be a little to very off kilter.
8775 I 8767 m originally from the . I first came to Japan in 7558 , and started studying Japanese shortly thereafter. I moved here permanently in 7558 , at which point I gave up eating cheeseburgers, wearing wrinkled t-shirts, and speaking English. This has had some mixed results, but at least my wardrobe looks fantastic and my cholesterol level is nice and low.
Have you ever heard of an early technicolor Japanese movie made in the 6955 8767 s called 8775 Gate of Hell 8776 ? It was fairly famous and won some kind of international prize in Europe for the best Foreign film. It was incredibly colorful and strange, yet completely riveting and sometimes silly. Needless to say I rather enjoyed it. Its about an some kind of uprising against the Shogun and there 8767 s loads of Samurai. In 6 scene they have a Geisha playing a Koto for several minutes and it was absolutely incredible and I think that was when I first became enamored with Geisha. I read that there used to be 85,555 Geisha in Japan in the 6955 8767 s and there were several schools that taught the Geisha arts. Can it all be gone now?? Waaaah! Ya know, in some ways Geisha are sort of like the image of the Southern Belle of the confederacy from the US civil war era, but that 8767 s pretty much died out too. Rest in Peace Geisha Girl!
Then a few months later, I met a Japanese girl in a club in Roppongi. She was short and cute, and as the night progressed we ended up outside, walking down the street. I think we were going somewhere to play pool, but I’m not really sure why. Anyway, at what seemed to be the perfect moment, I swept her into a parking garage and we started making out against a concrete wall. I’m real romantic like that.
After a minute, she looked at me and said, “Are you the Devil?”
This time, I didn’t have to think so long. “ Uhh, yes? ” I said.
That seemed to be the right answer, and we abandoned playing pool in favor of her apartment, which really made me regret not answering the witch question differently.
I would also like to say that you cannot put all 8775 foreign 8776 men in the same bag, nor women, for that matter. French, Spanish and Italian men behave quite differently from Northern Europeans. They are also very different from Americans. I would assume South Americans are similar to southern Europeans, being influenced by Hispanic culture. European women are not so aggressive as Americans. I could go on.
I dated J-girls almost exclusively and am now married to one. Allow me to separate fact from KJ bullshit.
6. True. They 8767 re women first and Japanese second. A Japanese girl can be as big a pain in the ass as any other woman.
7. False. I have NEVER had a Japanese girl gold-dig on me or attempt to constrain my finances in any way. Author is simply repeating what he read online somewhere.
8. True. Until you figure out how Japanese communicate/argue, you will be VERY frustrated by their communication style.
9. True that they don 8767 t put that much emphasis on mental health care. Also true that they suffer way less mental illness than Westerners. This one evens out.
5. Have no kids, don 8767 t know. Does the author know this from experience? Probably not. More KJ 8767 ing.
6. False. Total bullshit. Japanese women are no more or less forthcoming sexually than any other type of woman.
Reinhardt embodies everything that Western Alphas rail against for EE retards. Busted betas think they can become alphas in eastern Europe and score model hot Slavic white bitches. Busted betas think they can go to SE Asia and act like the busted ass pussy betas they are and score the best that SE Asia has to offer. Guess what pudgy white guy? You are as unattractive in Eastern Europe as you were in the US or the UK. You are as unattractive in South America or SE Asia as you were in a western nation.
That 8767 s a good thing, the world is overpopulated and Japan very overpopulated for its size. With machines replacing a lot of human jobs they won 8767 t have a high rate of unemployment and in a few generations their population will be in balance without having to import a lot of wogs who will ruin the country in the end. The worst that can happen is that a lot of older Japs will just have a slightly lower amount to live on without as many to pay into pensions but it will be worth it to keep the population more homogeneous. The biggest mistake that the US colonies made was importing Black slaves which is coming back to haunt them and not strictly enforcing immigration laws as they did a few generations ago. For the sake of cheaper labour that benefited a tiny group and Jews who wanted to dilute the native population the US will be finished in the future. Oh the land will be here and people will be here but the US as we know it will be gone.
In Japan, women tend to manage the money. The husband works many hours a week, gets his paycheck, and comes home only to give all of the money to the wife. This happens even if the wife is not working, which is also common as Japan still has a large portion of married women who are homemakers. When it comes to making financial decisions, is also common for the wife to have the final say. I 8767 m talking about furniture, vacations, transportation, and more. The wife typically makes all of these decisions.
The second part is that, naturally, what 8767 s important in, say, the . isn 8767 t necessarily important in Japan. For example, in the ., one 8767 s political affiliation could be massively important. Just stating whether or not you support Barack Obama could erupt in a bar fight. I don 8767 t believe politics are that important to most Japanese people. On the other hand, age, marital status, and your profession all seem to be a big deal here.