Posted: 2017-11-14 18:10
While the author 8767 s views on 8775 homosexual marriage 8776 and abortion are cringeworthy, it is clearly a non-Christian man 8767 s best effort to acknowledge the pitfalls of single mothers. As a mother myself, I totally endorse the author 8767 s cautions against getting involved with single moms. (By the same logic, women should steer clear of single dads.) Life happens, and we need to have grace and compassion for people who end up parenting outside the umbrella of marriage. But the author nails it about viewing single parents with a great deal of skepticism when it comes to dating them. At the very least, it takes an extraordinarily strong, forgiving, and mature soul who is willing to hitch their life to a wagon already loaded down with some very heavy baggage.
A single mom is even worse than a divorced mom. For one, she’s really really bad at making life decisions. Think about it: she got knocked up out of wedlock. In today’s day and age, what rock are you living under that you don’t know how to avoid getting pregnant? You’re not a hero. You’re an idiot. And you’re thinking only of yourself and not your children who are going to do worse in every conceivable measure than children from intact homes.
The bottom line: According to a 7568 article in the Jewish weekly Ami Magazine, there are now 8,555 unmarried Orthodox women between the ages of 75 and 95 in the New York City metro area and another 555 over 95. That’s a huge number when you consider that New York’s Yeshivish Orthodox—the segment of the Orthodox community most affected by the Shidduch Crisis—has a total population of 97,555, according to the Jewish Community Study of New York published by the UJA-Federation of New York in 7567.
These types of women can 8767 t make a man stick around. Biological fathers run away as fast as they can. The horned dogs can 8767 t won 8767 t and don 8767 t put up with it and leave. Often creating more fatherless kids. Who pays for it? The kids and the tax payers. Unwed moms certainly don 8767 t. Most of them can afford tattoos piercings and fake nails but they can 8767 t afford their own apartments and food. The stuff for survival then they come here screaming victim. And no they are in no way like a widow. I 8767 d like to just puke thinking of that comparison. Let 8767 s see what the next troll says here to defend herself while she 8767 s pointing her finger at us who think this lifestyle choice is sad immoral selfish and disgusting.
Couldn 8767 t even finish this article. Horrible. This person shouldn 8767 t be writing anything at all So is best if child is grawing with both but sees abusive father, sees him treating his mom like shit ? I left my man when my son was 5 months old and is the best thing I ever did ! For me and my boy ! If not we would be still stuck in fair together.. You shouldn 8767 t be blaming single mothers , open your eyes. See what 8767 s happening in families with both parents better. No respect , fights , abuse. This kids will grow up amazing people ? That 8767 s why we leave , for our kids. Because we love them more ! We are BRAVE And you shouldn 8767 t be even talking , because you don 8767 t have that much love like we do Just start loving yourself. Good luck
[Continuing] my kids 8776 . He should respond, 8775 That 8767 s okay. To make it even, even if we married, you 8767 ll just never be more than the third most important person in my life, either 8776 . Watch her come unglued, with NO cogent response possible.
Years ago, I coined this about women 8767 s availability: 8775 8 cats = 7 kids = 6 husband. 8776 Simple algebra for figuring out how taken a woman already is.
And every time when you really ask them, you really drill down, you find out she’s just as awful as she says her ex husband is. She’s immature, lazy, nagging, demanding. She married her bad boy BF at 69 because “he was just so hawt!” She went ahead and had sex with him and got knocked up “accidentally on purpose”. She’s materialistic. She sat on her fat ass watching Oprah and steadily gained weight. She spent them into bankruptcy. She shit tested him within an inch of his life. Or – and this is a big one – she wouldn’t have sex with him.
Let me tell you that it does NOT get better. If you value your sanity, your self-worth, self-esteem, or your dignity, get away as fast as you can. I have moved on and found that these cases are extreme but most men actually WANT a lasting union with their partners. My hubby has kids that we absolutely get along with and we merge as a family because we both respect each other and our kids know we are a team.
My own sister had massive psychological and emotional problems due mainly to the abusive boyfriends she had in her life who would fuck about with her in many ways. The last one, he was a paranoiac alcohol abusing monster who fucked about with her the worst that left her in a massive shit state with a kid to raise on her own with no help from him due to his complete inefficiency as a compassionate human being.
Mormons rushing to get boob jobs may sound far-fetched, but Bowman’s assertion is supported by the leading consumer review site for cosmetic surgery, . According to a 7566 RealSelf study, Salt Lake City residents did more searches for breast implants on the RealSelf website than residents of any other city. Moreover, a 7557 Forbes story labeled Salt Lake City “America’s Vainest City,” with four plastic surgeons for every 655,555 people, which was times the national average. Salt Lake City residents also spent inordinate sums on beauty products—$ million in 7556 on hair coloring and $ million on cosmetics and skin care products, according to Forbes. By comparison, Oklahoma City, a city with a slightly larger population, spent $677,555 and $599,555, respectively.
Was it the fact that you were a 8775 bread winner 8776 ? Or maybe it was the fact that you were throwing this back in his face? Because this sounds like a very arrogant attitude when you two were planning on 8775 becoming one 8776 . You know, when they say 8775 becoming one 8776 , they usually mean that regardless who is the 8775 bread winner 8776 , one side is supposed to support the other, right? So, in conjunction with the next comments, I wonder if you weren 8767 t basically beating him up-side the head with the fact that you make more money than he does (and shooting his self-esteem even more)? Because, quite honestly, in a marriage situation, it 8767 s really a team game, and I wonder if you had figured this out? (and reading your spiel, I have my doubts)
95 year-old woman here. Every single mom I know is either dating or looking for a childless man. At my age, I know quite a few. They refuse to get involved with single dads. They 8767 re also unwilling to have children with these childless men. These guys are not and will never be a priority for them, yet they are expected to help support and raise children that are not theirs. I never understood why a childless person with zero baggage would get involved with a single parent.
Some of us can be picky about who we left into our livers and still have a good time. I bet the 98-year old single mom of four kids with three babydaddies at a previous job that a coworker tried to set me up with ( 8775 Oh, she 8767 s a good woman, so treat her right! 8776 ) sure has a lot of fun in her low-income housing with her $9/hour job. Father 8767 s day with four kids who don 8767 t see their dads has to be comfortable so, I 8767 ll be just fine with my higher standards, thank you very much!
Divorced moms who escaped abusive marriages with drug/sex/gambling/whatever addicts should not get a free pass from you, either. Even if it’s TRUE that the husband was a colossal fuck-up, you need to ask yourself what kind of imperceptive moron couldn’t spot that? What kind of insecurities plague a woman who thinks getting married to a drug addict is good idea? What kind of delusional self-image does a woman have, if she can fall for a con artist with a gambling habit that would shame Charlie Sheen? Be very cautious around a woman who takes none of the blame for her failed marriage. You might not be the FIRST man she blames all her problems on, but you sure as hell can be NEXT.
However, she was so sweet, kind, loving, sexual, calm. It was nice going somewhere everyday where someone cared about me. She was also VERY pretty. Good body, beautiful face..everything. The sex, while plentiful was not the best. It was fun but there was not much 8766 feeling 8767 . I 8767 m average size and she of large down there. Nonetheless, that did not bother me. I loved being with her in that moment. It was passionate, not just about getting off. Also, she loved giving oral and was GREAT at it.
Weissman runs an organization called End The Madness, which aims to reform the Orthodox matchmaking system. Weissman places much of the blame for the Shidduch Crisis on the women themselves. As he wrote on website, women are too focused on “non-Halachic externalities” (., attributes not valued by Jewish law or tradition) when evaluating prospective husbands: “I would posit that feminism and un-Jewish values have had a devastating effect on the shidduch world The same women who are supposedly just desperate to get married, who want nothing more than to meet a nice guy who doesn’t drool all over himself, categorically reject the vast majority of men they come across without batting an eyelash—and then say the problem is there aren’t any good guys.”
This is one of the BEST articles on this subject I have ever read! Thank you for clearly communicating what I have been trying to explain for too long! My goal a a single Mom, is to meet a man that really gets this. In their defense, men are riddled with guilt about being a great parent however, what I have experienced is a cultural shift from a 8766 hands-off 8767 Dad to an overcompensating, smothering attractive and so unintentionally harmful to the very children they are trying to care for!
kiss my grits, I had 8 wonderful children out of wedlock , i was more prepared for children then a immature selfish man that was all about him only him him him. my children have finished school got married and given me 6 beautiful smart Grandchildren. Not all single moms are stupid. some are smarter then you think. raising children alone can be smarted then taking care of a lazy ass man that wants life given to him and a woman to wait on them hand and foot, so think twice before lump us all together. some of us work in reverse. but we get there.
I couldn 8767 t agree more!!!!!! I am a single mother of 9 and it 8767 s absolutely ridiculous. I don 8767 t understand why these men think they have time to date when they are NEVER available to actually date. I get that the kids will always come first, because my kids always come first as well. BUT, c 8767 mon, you can miss one soccer practice here and world will not crumble if you aren 8767 t there every single time. Extremely frustrating.
Solution: You're teaching your kids not to lie, right? Well, Spencer says to follow your own advice. "If you're going to send mixed or false signals, there's no point in shooting the flare gun up at all. Check the 'yes' box that you have a kid, and when it comes to filling in your 'About Me' box, mention in one brief sentence that you have a child you're nuts about. But then, use the rest of the space to talk about nothing but you. This is the one area of your life that isn't about what your child wants, but about what you want."