Posted: 2017-11-15 07:22
I am not in the top 65% of women, I am attractive but no 9 or 65. When I was on dating sites I would typically get 7-65 messages a day, when I changed something around it would jump to about 75. Out of all those messages I might respond to 5-6 a week. So guys, it really is important write an intriguing first message and don 8767 t cut and past some message from PUA online game forums. I can 8767 t tell you how many guys sent me the 8775 I already married and divorced you in my mind. 8776 message.
In the couple weeks leading up to breaking up with Jenny, it became clear to me that Tanya and I had a lot of chemistry and that I could see myself dating her. Once I made the decision to break up with Jenny, my ideal plan was to remain friends in whatever way worked best for her. Then after a month, following another professional engagement I had with Tanya and assuming I still felt strongly about her, I would ask Tanya out.
[ ] To some extent, you can see why. With techniques like what I quoted above, and some of the awful advice that comes from some PUAs, it 8767 s easy to dismiss pickup and seduction arts. I 8767 ve done my share of lurking on PUA sites and have been pretty disgusted at some of the misogynistic attitudes and/or stupid advice however, I 8767 ve also seen some sites that dispense good advice and help men to develop the confidence and skills to pick up women. [ ]
8) You have to be physically aggressive in these environments. It 8767 s high-energy, high-sensation. If you go up and try to have a nice conversation with her you won 8767 t be giving her the rush of sensation that she wants just then. It 8767 s important that you get VERY close at first, and touch a lot. Use little words, just a quick back and forth of 8775 How 8767 s it going? 8776 before getting closer and dancing.
The other men see this, and there 8767 s an instant respect for me. They have probably never approached a woman so boldly, so there 8767 s the temptation to criticize me, in order to protect their own egos. And yet there is nothing about me they can ridicule. If they try to out-alpha me, or make fun of me, they look weak, worrying they will lose their position in the queue for sex. Women can see the insecurity behind male flexing.
Same for a man. You can say you want a man who is employed (leave out the word 8775 gainfully 8776 ), but when it appears that you are trying to measure his monetary worth, it 8767 s a turn off, and you can 8767 t be sneaky enough to get away with it. We see your attempts a mile away. I would say that if anything, we are too sensitive to it such that we are more likely to misread something innocent, than not see a sneaky attempt to look for a man of considerable means.
Did i mention we been living together for 8 years, and he wants to married me. Still not good. He is at the end, a married man, with a wife that wont go away. Imagine, he doesn 8767 t even have small children. One is in another state in college, the other is 76 and living with his mother at his home. Well, the 76 year old lies to his father that his mother pays $785 for insurance. Then he called insurance, and they said it was only $85. He lies they don 8767 t have heat, so I sent a repair guy (my boyfriend was busy wat work) to fix it. There was nothing to fix.
The issue is sex. We have it, 7-8 times a week. I am very satisfied, my wife seemed to be. She orgasms 85+ percent of the time, and more often than not more than once. But she can only do so 6 way, and I am mostly not more than a prop. Not that I am lazy, I have and would be happy to help more, but I don’t have the talent. She has stated in the past that she has problems even with just herself, but I suspect that is her lying for my feelings mixed in with the truth. As well when have tried other things she becomes uncomfortable, either due to my failings or her inability, can’t say for sure.
I 8767 m in my 85s and I 8767 m very social and usually love to complain about online dating. However, the other night I went to a social event with people my age and a topic that interested me and I actually appreciated having online dating as an option. The event was outnumbered with other women, the one man I found attractive was talking to another woman the whole night, the girl my male friend hit on told him she had a boyfriend (in a nice way), and so on. After standing in my heels for hours and paying a ton in parking I went home without anything more than a few minute conversation with a new man. I know it doesn 8767 t always work that way. But at least with online dating, every time I go on a date, it 8767 s with someone who at least initially has some interest in me and I get to spend some quiet time getting to know them somewhere. After going on about 5 less than stellar online dates in a row, I do tire of it. It was just a reminder that it 8767 s nice to have one more option, outside of bars and social events especially since I have very few unattached friends left who are willing to come out with me.
Maybe she means it when she says “she’s fine with just sex,” maybe the pet names are because she doesn’t want to say your name (or doesn’t want to mix it up with someone else’s) maybe the fact you’ve never gone on a date or been anywhere but your apartments is exactly what she wanted too maybe the fact that she initiates the texting makes you HER booty call. I’m not saying this is the case, but you’ll never really know until you talk to her about this stuff.
That said, there’s a difference between not feeling ready and just being afraid of the process itself. If it’s the latter, learn about sex and arm yourself with some knowledge. Our resident “sexpert” (yup, I went there), Vanessa Marin, has covered the topic of losing your virginity as an adult very well. But if you’re not ready, MP, you’re not ready. Don’t rush something just because some jerks are mad you won’t put out.
There 8767 s a lot of different ways. There 8767 s so many different ways. Depending on where I 8767 m at. Here in LA we have a lot of these health food stores, you know, they sell organic food and vitamins and all that other stuff, so I 8767 ll walk down the aisle and make some kind of comment based on what 8767 s going on, doesn 8767 t matter. Then I 8767 ll say, 8775 two questions, are you allergic to cats and do you smoke? 8776 They have to say 8775 no and no 8776 . If they say yes, then I 8767 ll say 8775 sorry deal killer 8776 , because those are deal killers. But if they say 8775 no and no 8776 I 8767 ll say 8775 great, because any other answer would be a deal killer. I think you 8767 re kind of cute 8776 . And so right away I 8767 m coming in and just creating a little bit of fun and curiosity. Something like that.
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Even AFTER there is a legal divorce, there can still be a 8775 marriage 8776 . My X was separated for 9 years & divorced for 6 year when we meet, BUT he really was still attached to her [very]. And she came around from time to time for whatever [justifiable] reasons. See? Even though it seemed safe, it was not We are middle-aged people: No under-aged children to consider. Still, I eventually felt like the other woman. Really, WHY didn 8767 t they just re-marry? WHY did he bother with me since he felt like he did? To make her jealous? As a pay-back for her infidelity? If 8775 yes 8776 , then it worked. I was used & abused by this.
CRUCIAL CONCEPT NUMERO UNO: Be Direct. Anytime you are approaching a girl during the day you need to be honest and genuine. Asking her an opinion about something that you don 8767 t really care about doesn’t work effectively because women are intuitive and can sense that you are 8775 beating around the bush 8776 . No woman wants a guy who is dishonest. So be direct and truthful in your approach.
Now, no matter if you 8767 ve been in the self-development game for a few weeks, few months, or even less, now is NOT the time to pretend to be someone or something you 8767 re not. If you 8767 re not happy with the man you 8767 re being, then change it – but that happens on your own time. When you 8767 re out, present yourself as you really are, and if you 8767 re a great guy, that 8767 s going to come through. Be your self – your best self.
I wish I could be a woman and have the option to not do anything but sit back and judge men’s responses. Even in online dating men still initiate the vast majority of interactions. Why? Because it is so easy for women to do nothing and wait for him to do it. I was just was at a site where I could brows females but had to pay to talk. Guess who initiates the discussions there? men Guess who pays for the vast majority of hook ups? Men. Guess who pays for the first date? men (usually). Where the hell is feminism now?
8) Be fun No theatrics, no canned routines, no interview questions. Girls don 8767 t come to bars with friends to meet guys who ask them where they live, what they do, if they have a boyfriend, and all that bullshit. Girls crave fun, often more than you do. Become a fun guy who knows how to flirt with women, not a guy that learn pickup routines, big difference. A lot of this comes from embracing your inner masculinity and becoming comfortable with saying what 8767 s truly on your mind vs. what you think you should be saying, like I talk about in my book The Masculine Way.
Your power is your degree of internal locus of control (I-LoC), and inversely, your lack of approval-seeking (nApp). Most seduction methods are based on techniques that fake a lack of approval-seeking. However, I-LoC behavior is extremely subtle, and varies with each individual. If you make a conscious effort to present yourself as confident and 8775 alpha, 8776 I assure you there will be a crack in your expression. The nApp-ing will show through. This is why the 8775 fake it til you make it 8776 strategy will actually slow your progress.
The first order of business is to not think about meeting a woman as 8775 picking her up. 8776 This mindset will kill your odds of success, especially if she is in a mixed group. This mindset puts you into a 8775 taking frame, 8776 instead of a 8775 giving frame, 8776 and I assure you, no group wants some random guy to take their friend. Women want to feel 8775 swept away 8776 by a man who knows how to take control. Women do NOT want to feel like the man is getting over on them or taking something from them.