Posted: 2017-12-07 23:44
A lot of faults fall on how men are raised today. They are way over protective. Never told to take on responsibility. Never were taught any skills such as working on cars, or mowing the yard. It seems that parents today bought them and let them play on the computers with no set time limit. I was kick out of the house every morning and told not to come home till dark. So what did I do ? Go to school, worked a part time job, and play sports. I think today 8767 s men should be required to have to serve in the military for at least 7 years to develop into a man.
Sometimes it can be overcome, sometimes it can t but I think because of a lot of the varieties of difficulties in online dating, it can lead to more snap decisions of no more people like this. Because while the bad dates are what they are, it can be incredibly frustrating to go on a great date and then hit that wall of oh this isn t going to work out because of THING.
You re missing the fact that the behavior of previous posters to this site is contextual. Its just not part of your context. Most of us who have been around for a while have had to deal with asshats who start out sounding exactly like you do and have the context we ve been assuming here. Its no longer worth my time to carefully dissect each one to figure out if they re trolls or just well meaning but socially miscalibrated to the environment. You ve gotten this much because work is a bit slow right now, so giivng you yet one more chance to engage is an interesting use of my time.
So yes, it is on you to be extra clear beause the satisfaction of others has been reached that your viewpoint and method of delivery are counterproductive. The only person who doesn t seem satisfied by it is you and brother, you don t rate having a say in how I conduct my life. Instead of trying to find a prductive way of engaging, you ve gone to the mat for your right to demand that everyone meet you where you are now. Why would I do that? What makes you worth the effort of digging deeper than I would for anyone else acting the way you have?
Frat boys are part of a subculture that values a certain performance of masculinity. Many people find this performance incredibly annoying and/or uninteresting. And some people find it fun/appealing/attractive.
As a group, they DO have a problem with misogyny and consent. Which has been HIGHLY publicized and (at least at my school) made them the target of many rapist jokes. And yet, we re learning that many nerd groups have the EXACT SAME problems that are only now getting any attention.
Of the guys I knew, one was a linguistics nerd, most were gamers, two were writing theses, and most of them had gotten As in high school.
Also, not entirely on topic but it continues to bug me, why isn 8767 t all of that the patriarchy? If all of those names and the millions more around the world just in the present day can beat it, it 8767 s a pretty feeble social construct. It isn 8767 t even as if the people you named are doing unique things stick him an expensive suit or get his shirt off, put him on a TV show or magazine cover, rinse, repeat. It has been and still is used so often and with such success that surely it becomes a social construct/framework of it 8767 s own.
You definitely gave me a good laugh, and nailed a certain breed of horse chicks perfectly. I think you need a follow-up though for for some of the other 8775 horsewoman 8776 varieties. I haven’t come up with a good name yet, 8775 horse ranchwomen 8776 maybe? I never go to shows (hate the scene), rarely buy tack, have all my horses on property and do all the work myself. I spend comparatively little on horses in terms of money. The time issue is the same, maybe more so because I am constantly feeding, mucking, fixing fence, moving hay, painting, building. etc. etc.
There is a huge population of men who thought getting their hands dirty as an electrician, plumber or some other blue collar trade was beneath them. They chose the softer white collar lifestyle that has chewed them up, spit them out and tossed them aside for affirmative action hires and women replacements. Not learning a trade that can actually make something rather than changing numbers on a excel spreadsheet is part of the problem.
That aside, I wasn t talking about that kind of arguing on the internet. I was talking about YOU, and guys like you who say they love to argue and who give that as their excuse when they come into feminist spaces and smugly question/doubt other people s lived experiences, demand that they prove said experiences (because everyone documents awful crap when it happens), dismiss any proof when it s presented because it s not proof enough, and generally just sea-lion all over the place. When other people try to have real discussions about real issues, love to argue people just want to masturbate to their own perceived cleverness.
I don''t think that''s what is really happening. People don''t really think they''re superior to each other. I think they feel inferior and afraid to reach out to others. They end up staying home and being miserable. They give up too soon. The websites are supposed to be a screening process to find the right person. The next step is to date. I''m a woman who has tried the dating scene on the internet and this next batch can''t get from behind their gadgets. The men won''t even make a phone call. I don''t think they are serious about dating. It''s a lengthy process some times to find the right one. Patience is needed.
Completely agree. I think for women, sometimes the order of what s wrong here can be ranked differently but I think this largely comes down to both men and women being conflict averse. If you go out on a few dates, are you required to do a full break up I m sure different people have different answers to this and as a result, lots of ghosting.
But yes, to answer your pedantic and irrelevant question that requires far more nuance and is not nearly as black and white as you are putting it, yes, me wanting the same job as others does mean that we are competing. But it doesn t mean we are competing the way you think it does. It simply means there is one spot. I can charge it, claim it for my own, and feel pride that I got to sit on the bus. Or I can let the guy with the cane get it, and feel good that I helped someone out. I can glare at my fellow auditioners, or I can chat with them knowing that it s not up to us who gets the role, and we might as well have a nice time and maybe make some friends who then I decide to create a webseries with and oh look! Suddenly no longer competing but working together and getting nominated for awards and stuff!
Right, and I don t want to suggest it s not an okay decision for anyone to make. It just felt like SalsaGman was saying that the reason to avoid religious women was to avoid these kinds of incompatibilities. And there s no way to tell from the outside what people s incompatibilities are actually going to be. A lot of religious people are going to be fine with a non-religious partner, but realize they just can t deal with a beard, or someone who wants kids, or someone who isn t up for owning a Great Dane, or something else. And non-religious people have a similarly wide band of incompatibilities.
Well,fuck you! No amount of 8775 accent coaching 8776 will do you good if you are a whiny blue pill. And if you are red pill, I don 8767 t think it matters. Just because you are a UK raised Indian whos 8775 Indian accent 8776 got stamped out by circumstance, just doesn 8767 t mean you are the sole blueprint of success for all other Indians. I know men whos masculine voice timbre and whole getup that could hands down beat alot of the 8775 unaccented 8776 western males, white or otherwise in terms of sheer Alphaness.
Personally, I was a daily OKCupid user for more than five years and in that time I doubt I got more than 65 responses to messages that I sent. I tried much the same approach as Eric and I was ignored to an even greater degree. In the end, I deleted my account. It was an enormous waste of time. I''m actually a big believer that its quantitative analysis has value, but since I had to depend on some form of positive reaction from an other human being and did not even happen often enough for me to draw any conclusion except that continuing to not have any interaction at all was psychologically damaging.
When it comes to life experiences and interests, I likely have more in common with white men than black. I learned to two-step at a bonfire at someone’s deer lease back in Texas. The Dead’s “ Shakedown Street ” is one of my favorite songs. Black men are my preference, followed closely by other people of the sun. But if I meet a white man who reminds me of my father, who genuinely believes Black Lives Matter, too — and knows the words to “Shakedown Street” — I’m open. As long as he is, I am.
8775 I think men are men everywhere in the world. Of course there are some specific cultural traits that differ, but overall, I 8767 d say finding a Japanese boyfriend is the same as finding any boyfriend. Japanese men might seem shy at first, but ultimately they want the same thing.
If you can 8767 t speak much Japanese, it 8767 s probably best to go for a Japanese man who has lived abroad and can speak fluent English. If you can speak Japanese , you have better chances to meet them as it 8767 s easier to have a conversation and flirt when you share a language. My advice is to take things slow , but if you like a Japanese guy don 8767 t be shy to ask him out as he might be too intimidated to do so. 8776
Every time someone brings up the Frat Boys are Assholes complaint, just remember this bit my ex and I had:
Frat Boy: Hey BiSian, did you know your name means ethnicity slut ?
BiSian: You re disgusting! Don t touch me!
Frat Boy: (attempts to grab my ass)
BiSian: Don t touch me! Fuck you asshole!
Frat Boy: You already did!
Bisian: (pause) Okay, yeah All right, let s get a drink.
We were both very aware of how it looked, and I had to explain we were just fucking around to several irate bar patrons And now I realize it s very telling that I only had to explain to several people yay Bystander Effect.
Anyhow, it was a long-running inside joke that, to an observer, looked like he was being an incredibly disgusting asshole and winning.
Yeah, this seems pretty spot on. For women its a barrage of messages and makes them think thery''re god''s on Earth, no matter how ugly. For men it''s a quiet hole to realize women are a lot more shallow than they knew, no matter how attractive. This makes the women bat way above their league and the men bat way below. The best part to illustrate this? I''d say all of the women I message first are at least around my physical attractiveness league, but all the women that message me first are way, waaaay below it. Like obese chicks levels below it.
Here s the thing, there s always a list of what to do and what not to do. But in the end it all comes down to respect the other person. Rules can be broken, and that s okay, so long as there is respect and decency. It s not about going, HA! See! Women DO want you to push them! It s about this one guy who liked this girl, and she deep down liked him too but had societal pressures about height overwhelming her decision. It was about mutual respect. And man, did they have that in spades. The way they looked at each other... they were these amazing luscious romantic people. I would be in the living room watching TV and they d be slow dancing to no music in the kitchen. They clearly were right for each other.
For me the outward expression represents what the person is feeling on the inside about himself, and it is that self confidence that I find attractive ultimately. It s like someone who is looking for someone of the same religion, sees someone wearing a cross which is an outer example of an inner belief and they think, Ah I should talk to that one! Absolutely you need to be able to show the outside world what you are on the inside because people aren t mind readers. So the people most successful with dating and making friends initially are the kinds of people who are better at showing themselves off. That doesn t it s impossible for those who aren t as good at displaying their virtues for others to see, it just makes it harder absolutely.