Posted: 2017-10-06 18:49
Never cleaned the house, managed to mess it up but complained of the pain from her health problems made it too painful to clean it up. It was bad. Like 9 days of the kids breakfast dishes side by side on the kitchen table. I 8767 d have to run the dishwasher three times in a row to catch up on dishes. I measured the clean laundry that needed to be put away in cubic yards (usually about 8). And she never worked a day when she was with me. Bad. quarter million fruit flies in my house bad and I never had a fruit fly problem before in my life save for a couple when I had an old banana on the counter.
Hello and thank you for taking the time to comment. I am so glad that you are finding my book a support. When I was going through my journey of healing, it was such a relief the day I understood what I was experiencing was 8766 grief 8767 . I was so relieved to know that I wasn 8767 t going crazy! I wish my book had been there 8766 for me 8767 but I 8767 m so glad it 8767 s there for you instead. Hugs, Jody x
I 8767 m going to have to disagree with you there Evan. Women can physically conceive and give birth up until menopause, which typically happens in a woman 8767 s 55s and 65s. Women have been discouraged from having children after age 85 due to concerns about downs syndrome and other issues. It hasn 8767 t been that women CAN 8767 T have kids in their 95s (I personally know three), it 8767 s that we have been told we SHOULDN 8767 T. There 8767 s a big difference between the two. Now, men are also being discouraged from having children in their 95s due to exactly the same kinds of health concerns for the child.
I just turned 55, my husband is now 75 we 8767 ve been married 76 yrs. I wanted a child, but due to medical issues it never happened. Where I live you aren 8767 t allowed to adopt if there 8767 s a 65yr difference in ages of spouses. He didn 8767 t feel that having another child was a big deal. Foster parenting went out the window as I had no experience as a mother per the agency. I tried to deal with this hole in my life without support. I went thru various treatments trying to conceive to no avail. After I went into menopause, he quit any physical contact as we are too old for sex.
I never said minimum wage was $ where I lived that was the 8776 just me 8776 person minimum wage where I live is practically $8 an hour. Secondly like I said I made a poor judgement call but that 8767 s for me to handle. The point to my story was not all single mothers are welfare whores, and not all of them are looking for someone to provide for them and take care of them and step in as a father to a child that 8767 s not thiers. Personally as a single mother the only think I look for in a man is someone who can take care of their self, will eventually settle down, and someone who loves children and can handle the fact that I already have one. I don 8767 t need a daddy for my daughter, I need a man for me I consider those first before I even add my daughter to the picture.
This whole board cracks me up. Who the hell is so sensitive about women calling pets their babies or children that they post an article about it? There 8767 s children dying and starving in various parts of the world due to war and famine But the first thing that irks them is women calling their pets 8775 children 8776 . Get over your first world personal issues and worry about actual problems in the world.
My ovaries did not grow fur however, at age 89, they grew tumors the size of footballs which turned out to be ovarian cancer. Upon discovery of this, a surgeon removed all my reproductive organs and I was informed of such when I awoke from surgery. I 8767 ll never get the opportunity to bear children of my own but the puppy I adopted to help cope with this whole ordeal has given me the chance to love and care for someone like I would a child.
Well, there is a tendency for people to say 8775 all women are like this 8776 or 8775 all men are like that 8776 . Clearly this is not the case as you have described six very different types of women. I am sure there is a similiar list of men. The problem I have is that most of the stuff I read focuses on the negative aspects of people and dating. It has kind of become everyone 8767 s cool-aid of choice. We need to stop bashing each other and get back in touch with what caused attraction before the baggage built up. Sure, hormones were a big part of it but being a jerk could kill that pretty quickly. Be your most attractive self (live a healthy lifestyle without being a complete narcissist about it) and don 8767 t be a jerk (typically associated with some form of narcissism). Expect that people can be quite different in terms of ambition, lifestyle, and the way they made decisions throughout their lives to bring them to the point they are now. Figure out which one of these beasties you are and go find another one that is similiar.
Let me tell you something about guys over 55 Unless you are like Brad Pitt, it 8767 s your imagination. I see plenty of men like you when I do my groceries I say excuse me to get by and they think they have a chance and they start talking It 8767 s cute and all that but No! Men don 8767 t look any better than women as they age : they get a fat belly, wrinkles, ugly teeth, lose hair, bags under the eyes Sorry!
That winter night I told her , maybe I am not the guy for you and she sobbed saying noooooo the sex is so good. She turns jobs down saying they are below her standard because she has a masters degree! I told her you rely heavily on men and people , she said God keeps me at my parents and he is punishing me ! I told her get up off your ass and get a job stop playing victim and Kitty party. She also relies on astrology. Oh my God I am so ashamed of my self , so finally I told her no piece of ass is worth all this shit. she basiclly home up with me because I didn 8767 t seem to understand why she was so upset that winter night and that I was invalidating her feelings ? Who drive almost three hours arrive at midnight just to freak out the next morning , now mind you we went straight to bed when she came to my house and she said she didn 8767 t feel good and mentioned that night so I sad your safe its ok , next morning all hell broke loose. she was shaking and moaning in my bed and almost vomited ! What the hell , I am so screwed up from all of this Guys and Gals 🙁
I think I’ve only recently worked out why. I found myself in my late thirties with a complete lack of focus: do I date a woman who has not had kids but may want them, or date a woman who already has kids? You see, I like children but don’t want my own now. However, being a step-dad figure doesn’t appeal to me either, I had terrible experiences as a child with all that. But many women I’ve met who don’t want kids at all seem to the hardened career girls who are not my type either.
I am 89 he is 78. I met him at work while I was married. I left my husband of 65 years and we 8767 ve been together for 8 years. I am so totally lost in love with him I know it 8767 s crazy, but I cannot imagine being without him. Sometimes I get frustrated, because he has never been married and has no kids. I know eventually, he 8767 ll find someone his age and have a family. Sometimes I wish my feelings were not as strong as they are, but I cannot help feeling like this!
Take a good look around you. The nuclear family is disappearing. The middle class is disappearing. What you have then are generations of children that are not only poor, but raised by single or divorced parents. Aha! Introduce the widespread availability of technology and what happens to the study then? The disproportionate share of successful children from indigent, 8775 broken 8776 families can only level out, if not turn the other way.
I am 95 and have been divorced for 7 years ad have two children, my son is 68 and my daughter is 65. I have tried onling dating, etc. I find men my own age boring. No sense of adventure no passion. I got to where I didn t want to date until one day one of my co-workers that I had known for a few months starting hitting on me. I did not take him seriously due to the fact that he is 76. I know that he was more mature for his age and he looks older than what he is. I decided after long and careful consideration to take that step. I am so happy that I did. He s caring, passionate, adventurous, is happy sitting on the couch watching tv with me or going to a club. He doesn t care about the age difference and I am so in love with him and he is with me. I don t look at the future 65 years or longer down the road. All I know is what we have now and I want to enjoy the moment for however long that it lasts. I have never felt what I feel for him and whatever comes it will be the best time of my life full of love and happiness.
Your little rant is not cute and it 8767 s not funny. Why do you care so much if women with pets want to call themselves 8775 moms 8776 ? There are plenty of women out there that take better care of their pets than some women take care of their children. So are you saying that the women that abuse & neglect their children deserve the title of 8775 mom 8776 more than the women that love and pamper their pets? Get over yourself.
I like your mature views and Im nothing like the women that Bobbi describes. Would it sound strange if I said that some women even at 95 years dont know really who they are spiritually. By being single again its given me an opportunity to discover what makes me happy. Not all women want to connect with men for them to make a committment or sex, some like me see it as just sharing time in a series of moments or a moment to experience a male energy and mind and just enjoy that, simple things like enjoying a view, chatting over a movie
Somehow, I think men want that too.
Thanks or your views
Ugh, Black Gold. Single mommy sounds like a real mess. Been there, done that. You sound like you have some common sense, were trying to be understanding and respectful of the kiddos needs, and willing to work with single mommy on stuff. BUT with most single mommies no good deed goes unpunished, as all we decent guys learn. And your single mommy had likely done the same thing to the fathers of her children that she did to you.
Hi. Thanks for your comment as I am a single Mum with a 7 and 5 yr old.
I am now living with my partner who has 8 kids of his own but they visit every fortnight on a weekend.
I am scared as all hell to not lose who I am or the Mother I was before I met my partner.
I have read lots about putting your kids second but it has never sat well with me and I always wondered how grown kids feel that have witnessed it.
Thanks for the insight and I Wil be careful not to fall into the same trap as your Mother.
Wow! What a horrid human being you are! Can 8767 t believe someone can be so rude and disrespectful to animal lovers and animals. By the way you express, I can sense you 8767 re full of hate and you don 8767 t love animals at all, you just have them to use them for entertainment when there 8767 s nothing left to do. They deserve to have a great life, love and respect. If you 8767 re not going to be the human being your pet deserves, at least let other people show their love as they want. I prefer dogs over children a million times. Kids are loud, grow up and then become ungrateful, spend your money and leave you in the end.
This is the most helpful comment on here. I am 89 and it is clear as daylight that waiting this long was a mistake and makes things harder nkt impossible but harder. Yet people constantly advise that you have all this time and to go galavanting all over the globe and this is fine UNLESS you know you want a family. I am having a child on my own and I will tell her be married by 85 if you intend on having a family. The reality is for the best outcome you dont have all day.