Posted: 2017-10-12 05:02
What if you 8767 re with the man because you LIKE him?
What if you had dozens of men asking you out even in front of him, you rejected them all and asked him out yourself? He didn 8767 t have to win you over because you didn 8767 t play games or hard to get, you didn 8767 t really need a boyfriend, but you want to be with him because you care about him and like him.
Sadly, seems like that 8767 s not enough and not even a possibility according to this article.
You 8767 re very lucky American Girl. My husband is Israeli Christian Arab and his family is very insular lots of intermarriage between first/second/third cousins. My husband did not tell me the truth of how his family felt about him marrying an American. I blindly believed what he told me. He told them that he only married me for my green card, so they expected a divorce. He could not stand up to his family for me.
Some men have a different view on love and sex in fact, some men consider them mutually exclusive. In extreme cases, the emotional intimacy of love makes the act of sex more difficult because they don 8767 t equate primal, lusty passion with love. Freud called the extreme cases of this the Madonna whore complex. Not that your guy is extreme but maybe this perspective will help you decide to appreciate his love and work on it or leave because you want something different. I had an extreme husband and we couldn 8767 t make it work even though we still love each other.
Have known this guy all my childhood yrs have liked him since my growing yrs too but we never spoke finally we lost contact n on my way to d bank we saw again n ecchanged contacts that day he called n we chatted n he told me he 8767 s alwys like me from bk years n date but he said he has a g/f and I like him too. D day I saw him at d bank after years was so happy. We have hooked up so many times now he doesn 8767 t chat me up like then n when I tend to complain he apologises. He said he feels smthg strong n loves me but he doesn 8767 t wanna get too involved cause of his g/f. and I know him, his family now am sad cause I really want him wht shld I do
I used to think that this coldness/reservedness was characteristic of 8775 Scandinavia 8776 in general, but I met a few Norwegian girls this summer who were super fun, outgoing, and warm towards their boyfriends. So maybe try Norway?
Has anyone else noticed this difference? (or it might just be these particular Norwegians I met, after all, they were in an exchange program in the US, so that by itself may speak of their personalities).
I'm college educated with 7 degrees and a terrific job. I make just under $655k per year, have one grown son with an engineering degree. I'm not overweight, and work out everyday for at least an hour. Hiking in nature preserves in Florida is fun, having lunch overlooking the ocean, I'm a vegan, a good cook, and talent. Can't get a decent date. I don't like being attacked on the first date and believe intimacy between two people who love each other is best. I'm interested in hard working men who need someone. An average guy will do. But hard to find.
To answer your questions, yes, I am Muslim and was long before I met my husband. As for introducing you to someone, there are a lot of wonderful American women living in Kuwait who would love to meet a nice man. I think it 8767 s a matter of putting yourself out there and trying to meet them in a respectful manner. Of course it 8767 s always a good thing to be introduced through mutual friends, but considering I don 8767 t know you at all, it would be difficult for me to introduce you. I 8767 m sure you 8767 re a wonderful man and I certainly hope you find exactly what you 8767 re looking for in life.
I enjoyed your perspective on what a man needs from a woman definitely a game changer Inspiring. Thank you. I like your view on letting him know he is winning! My POV inspire him to know he is doing his best and encourage him and be that positive woman that he has put his time, effort and energy into winning. Do this because you truly want him and see that added happiness with him.
How did I do with understanding? I would like your feedback. I want to know that I am understanding where you are coming from.
Perhaps one of the reasons the ideas about Arabs and the culture doesn 8767 t change is the lack of desire to understand especially Americans. We 8767 re terribly guilty of thinking our way is the best/only way and anything different is just wrong. I 8767 m thankful my parents didn 8767 t raise me to see life in one direction, with one mindset, or one religion. My parents always taught me people are exactly the same all over the world sharing the same feelings, thoughts,and insecurities and I was taught never to judge, but instead make an effort to understand.
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My boyfriend of 5 years wants to go to Yemen to his brother 8767 s wedding he says he must attended the wedding or it 8767 ll be shameful for his family. We have a son of 7 years old I 8767 ve met his mother fathers sisters his whole family they all live here in America close by to where I live. He does still have some family in Yemen. I 8767 m scared if he goes to Yemen for his 8775 brother 8767 s wedding 8776 that his mothers and father would tell him to also get married they never really liked me they just expect me for they can be able to see my son. You see I am not Muslim or Arabic. He telling me he will only go for 7 weeks I never heard of anyone going for 7 weeks plus I think they might make him get married too.
On-line dating is a waste of time for 99% of men. It seem to mainly be used as an attention seeking tool for females (why don't they use such functions as block and change first message length to 755+ characters minimum?? etc.)
As the article confirms - women get message after message (yet hardly seem to respond to most of them) men get hardly any messages (and they don't get a response to the majority of the messages they do send). It all seems futile.
That is such a meaningful article, Eric. I thank you so much for that.
There 8767 s this guy i like the problem is that he is working where i am studying. It started with him looking/noticing me, and that triggered my feelings for him. I fell madly in love with him, and as soon as i fell for him, he stopped noticing me.. that just broke my heart and now, my saddest fear is that maybe he wasn 8767 t really noticing me. he 8767 s just a few years older than me, but since he is working where i am studying, i am finding it very difficult to get to him, to know his private life, if he has a girlfriend, what his search in life is about. i 8767 m extremely curious and i 8767 m mad about him now. Is there anything i can do??/
I 8767 ve had conversations with his best friends over how they 8767 re weirded out by his behavior towards me because where ever we go he introduces us as together or his GF and he has this need to always hold me, grab me, and never have me apart not even for a little bit. He 8767 s very affectionate and they 8767 ve never seen him like that before not even with his two prior Arabic GFs back home. Although he holds me always, he 8767 s not big with PDA as far as kissing and grinding, anything of that sort is way too vulgar for the both of us.
I am currently on Tinder, and have been for about a month. All of the messages I have received from men have been respectful so far. I'm not sure why, but I'm guessing it has something to do with how I wrote my profile, as well as the pictures I chose to show. My profile is pretty straight forward, without being bitchy. My pictures are tasteful, and there are also some that show I am pretty jacked. I swear that after I have become more buff, men have gotten a ton more respectful. Ridiculous, but true. And no, I don't think I'm special because I'm fit, it is just a physicality.
I have been following your articles for a year. I like the whole no-sugar coated advise style. I am a direct person myself and I appreciate that kind of approach to almost everything in life. I have learned so much from your articles. But reading is not enough. We must apply them. I am applying your suggestions. I am an educated, smart, good looking woman. I am encouraging, funny and all over a fun person to be with. However, I made the mistake of not showing myself like a prize. I was too humble and gave too much credit to men 8767 s intuition (and anyone around in that matter, including family and so-called friends). I AM a big prize. I always knew it but I misrepresented myself. Your articled woke me up. Now I am acting like it. I am showing people that I am aware of my capacity, I am confident, and I won 8767 t spend time with anyone for the sake of it. It makes so much difference. People respect those who they can 8767 t reach, don 8767 t they? Humans are funny creatures. Everything is about us is paradox, yet so simple.
Be very cautious with your new found friend and take it for what it is a guy on the internet. If he wants this to become more serious let him apply for a visit visa to the US, let him pay for a flight and hotel, and let him make the effort to come here to meet you. Don 8767 t you, for one moment, alter anything about your life for this man including signing off of Facebook because he 8767 s jealous. If he were a guy living next door to you who moved in 7 days ago and started saying he loves you and wants you to be only his wouldn 8767 t you think he was a complete nut? Of course you would. Don 8767 t treat this situation any differently. Want to get to know him? Not a problem. But let him make the effort.
Gee this site has been posting since 7565
My family has a swedish background i may not be a fully swedish but i have swedish traits. i dunno why i adore swedish girls but its mainly got to do with blonde hair and blue eyes, in which i have but a brown blonde. I been looking into chatting to a swedish girl since yesterday cause i learned about whats happening guys taking on old genetics. You swedish girls are very beautiful and soo nice ive heard about the marriage rates it seems love over there is a lost meaning.
Thanks Eric! You gave me a lot to think about. There 8767 s this guy I fancy but he 8767 s nine years older than me and me being 75 it 8767 s like the rules in a game, you just accept that those are the rules you 8767 re playing by and don 8767 t question them cause it just is. The appearance and market value is just another rule (for lack of a better word) that you just accept no question and you 8767 re life will be smoother because of it. Do you have any advice for an age gap of 9 years when you 8767 re in the phase, I know there 8767 s the hurdles that he 8767 s (if he 8767 s the older) already overcome and he 8767 s busy creating his life. Is there anyway to bridge that gap when you 8767 re Just focus on growing yourself and if you attract him in the meantime it 8767 s a bonus?
Thanks so much!!
be careful. don 8767 t ruin your life
theyre so sneaky and controlling
he may need you for your job,money,status greencard anything
never been on a date means socially inept too and he may feel so weird about dating that he lashes out on you blames you for his failures (he perceives dating as wrong) he cant accept that you are good.. or can turn dating into 8775 good 8776 while he feels bad.. its so complicated but its a disease.
they really have issues.
a culture that different marriage??? you just met its not love he feels its a strange duty like feeling based off of REPRESSED beliefs that everything is a sin
why give yourself that?
itll keep playing out daily in every little thing til nothing of you is left and you have a child too.