Posted: 2017-10-13 02:03
Oh wow. Sadly to say i am the same Blonde Girl that posted in febuary and wow this is quite an eye opener seeing my post from 8 months ago!!
I tried to leave then and 655 times since, but my married man is quite the talker and i guess im just too blind or too weak to not put a stop to it once and for all.
Dont do this to yourselves ladies, please!! Its emotional warfare where the game isnt fair and there arent even any rules. You have no control and you lose.
Love just isnt enough, trust me. I live my mm deeply, and him me, but there is no future to be built on sneaking around and hiding. Call him on his bluff and see what happens. You dream he will step up and confess his live for you but he wont- he will deny you and find excuse after excuse to stay with the wife he claims not to love.
I am in it, and keeping myself sane by playing my own game, taking care of myself and not limiting my future to just him anymore. I did for a long time and it got me nowhere, so now im stepping up for myself, and if he doesnt like it then he can leave me. Its a vicious cycle that i wish i never got involved in!!!!!
It makes me sad to think I am at 79 likely to be alone. I know I am not the important things, but I read these accusations of crazy, and selfish, manhating, and money hungry. I would expect people think even more the last looking at me because I do not work, and I am not educated. I was in the too ten percent of my class in high school but I dropped out of college when I was pregnant. I certainly have my issues in that far. But am I so bad? Do I deserve to be alone forever because I am a single mother? I am loving, intelligent, nurturing, industrious, and loyal. I learned a lot from my mistakes.
I know I should not bemoan it, because it is a result of my choices. I could work full time now and go to school full time and put my son in day care and prove myself 8775 different. 8776 if my choice and ex 8767 s choice wasnt that this is best for my son. I could have realized what way things would go earlier, if I had been more mature.
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Ernesto Gomez and his wife Blanca had been planning to get a divorce for three years. They had already separated and worked out custody and child support for their two kids. But they had stalled on filing because they didn't want to deal with the hassle and expense. Hiring a lawyer, they were told, would cost at least $6,555. Using a free service offered by the court would involve numerous meetings spread out over several weeks.
nana..I 8767 m sorry you are going through this.. I am not a therapist but I 8767 m glad to give you my two cents.. you have a kid involved so my first thought is to think of them. people always say they are staying for the kids sake but kids are very perceptive when it comes to matters of the house. they know when mommy and daddy are not getting along, when daddy hurts mommy, when mommy has been crying, etc.. you have to make a decision of what would be the best environment for your boy..life with daddy on the weekends, or life of fighting parents.. your other option is to give him a second chance, but that would depend on the type of man he is and whether or not he deserves it..only you can make that decision.. as far as his mistress, you cannot trust her words. period. good luck to you..I hope it turns out well..
Well I was doing good for almost a month. Started traveling, visiting friends. Then one day, at the drive thru at Starbucks. This car was blaring their horn. Looked over it 8767 s him. ( i had changed my number) He was screaming and YELLING why was I so cruel, how could I just vanish like that. I got out of the drive thru, told him if he calmed down we coukd park and talk. We did, amazing I wasn 8767 t hypnotized by him like I usually be. We talked and talked. His big announcement was HE 8767 S filing for divorced. Lol.. lol. It was funny and desperate. I lied to him and told him I was seeing someone and it 8767 s serious lol.. He said he can 8767 t believe I replaced him so quickly. Then started with the penis measuring lol. I looked at him and couldn 8767 t hold my laughter.. I left and told him to take care of himself and his family.. Dodged a bullet for real
I wish I wasn 8767 t divorced.
I am not saying I played no part in the downturn of the marriage. I have thought so much on how I could have made it different so my son would have his parents together. We both made so many mistakes. My ex says he shoulders more of the burden, but i was certainly not blameless: I was and immature (twelve years his junior) and did not have a good role model. In the end, I wanted to work it out. He turned down counseling, and told me he probably never loved me and I didn 8767 t have the maturity to fight no matter what and earn the love. At the very least, however, I have learned a lot about judging a person earlier on, who I am and what I want, and that things require effort and work and communication.
Going through that now and I cry everyday. I am absolutely heartbroken. It has changed the core of me, my beliefs and my sense of self. I have 8 amazing kids and have been divorced for 65 years. I dedicated my life to them. They started pressing me to date I met this creep who decided to lie to me for 65 mos about being married and when i doubted him he did really great at trying to make me think I was crazy. I am beyond words. Beyond hurt. I lock myself in my closet and cry daily and it just wont stop
And as JB states, these women do not really give a damn about their kids. I strived to make the breakup as easy as possible because I was literally the only dad this kid had ever known in her life, and I was happy to continue in that role, even if we were broken up. Once she found a new guy she cut me out of that kids life and probably trash talked me to the extreme. I taught this little girl how to read, how to bank, gave her structure in her life, took her camping. There was a small box of the kids stuff left behind, private things like counselling files and some special stuffed animals. I tried contacting the woman to get the box to her, she wouldn 8767 t even answer my facebook messages.
Now, again.. it’s nothing like dating in the United States. Back then I dated my girlfriend who was 68 and we didn’t ask her parents if they liked it or not because I already knew.. they hated me. Despite having a GPA, Editor of the school paper, in Drama and chosen as California Boy’s State.. I was Hispanic and their daughter wasn’t so.. asking for their blessing didn’t fit into our itinerary.
Me, too. Been a year now. He lied after confessing to the affair and said he did not love her and just 8775 needed time. 8776 He left. A few days later I received a text at 7am from his mistress from his phone, telling me (his WIFE) to 8775 stop texting my man, you 8767 re old news and we 8767 re in love ). A few days after that, I received a text of a picture of them kissing with her name tattoed on his arm. Oh yeah, they leave alright, with no regrets
Yes Borderline personality disorder and pathological lier. I found out from her county that she or her husband ever filled for a legal separation or Divorce ( public records don 8767 t lie ) I wish I would have thought to investigate sooner , I could have saved my self alot of . And yes she is out of my life. What a shity experience. This woman played the victim role real well too, I you ever feal something is wrong , that 8767 s your gut/ intuition trying to save your ass from misery and it 8767 s my fault for not listening to myself. Shit.
My own sister had massive psychological and emotional problems due mainly to the abusive boyfriends she had in her life who would fuck about with her in many ways. The last one, he was a paranoiac alcohol abusing monster who fucked about with her the worst that left her in a massive shit state with a kid to raise on her own with no help from him due to his complete inefficiency as a compassionate human being.
I just ended an affair with a married man. Not proud of it and I DO deserve better than being a side woman. I completely relate to this article and want my self-respect and self-esteem to return and replace the want for the connection we had. Both myself and his wife and family deserve more than a man who will not get the courage to do the right thing. He 8767 s pissed at me for ending it (I half-heartedly tried to end it several times for over a month) and now I 8767 m certain he 8767 s tired of it. Regardless, I 8767 m not going to feel bad about standing up for myself once and for all. I hope people who relate to this (as the mistress or the wife) do that right thing for themselves as well. It 8767 s tough, but feeling shitty about yourself because of the situation you 8767 re in is never worth it.
If you 8767 re a mistress, you don 8767 t understand the position you 8767 re putting yourself in or you wouldn 8767 t be there. You don 8767 t know how much it 8767 s going to hurt when he finally has to let you go. You don 8767 t know the anger you will feel about how he used you. Because he is using you. He wants you to be his mirror, to show him back the fake person he 8767 s projecting at you the one he wants to see. As soon as you start seeing the truth, he 8767 ll be tired of you. Nothing about any of it is real.
Of course along the way, I came to learn a lot more about people from that country and there is a lot of violence, for example the beautiful girlfriend of a much IT colleague of mine doing biz in Manila got shot to death in his office in broad daylight. Why? Because his girlfriend actually had a Phil lover and she, idiotically, believed he had life insurance so with him out of the way, happy trails for her and her real boyfriend.
I have to leave a comment with all respect. Not all man choose the wife ,because we love her choosing the wife over the mistress or the lover does not mean that we didn 8767 t love them to begin with. It 8767 s not like taking off a pair of pants and putting on another. Marriage comes with baggage , car 8767 s , mortgage , friends and family the only thing that bonds us to a mistress is the feeling the love can be their for them, but it 8767 s much harder to face everything else that comes with the wife.. so call us cowards. I loved, loved the mistress. My it took me a long time to build my reputation, plus my wife couldn 8767 t make it on her own, my mistress would be better off without me she will be shattered, but will pick up her pieces and go on. My wife wouldn 8767 t be able to do that Everybody here seems to blame mistress the married man is the one who made vows to his wife..not the mistress.
Some of us can be picky about who we left into our livers and still have a good time. I bet the 98-year old single mom of four kids with three babydaddies at a previous job that a coworker tried to set me up with ( 8775 Oh, she 8767 s a good woman, so treat her right! 8776 ) sure has a lot of fun in her low-income housing with her $9/hour job. Father 8767 s day with four kids who don 8767 t see their dads has to be comfortable so, I 8767 ll be just fine with my higher standards, thank you very much!
. i 8767 m dating a twice divorced mother of 7. & she is the most amazing person in the world bar none!!! . That is until she turns on the weird, strange, demanding, victim-princess, emotional roller-coaster. That is when i walk out, for days or weeks at a time. Both her boys are finally getting a clear picture of rational vs irrational behavior, and are starting to see why Men leave Women. I 8767 m happy to say that these boys will prolly be fine. Not all Men will, particularly when raised by a woman (single, or if father not engaged in the household). But this woman, like so many others, will prolly NEVER grow-up and take responsibility for her own behavior.
. I have met one of the ex 8767 s. Rather than completely dis-engaging (because of ex-wife 8767 s batty behavior) he started drinking as he couldnt make heads or tails of her random irrationally. Sadly, he is still stuck in the bottle.
By this time, she is more than likely already aware of the fact that he is unhappy in his marriage and the more time she spends with him she makes sure to plea her case as to why he should be with her instead. The man more than likely plays into this often times telling her things such as “I wish I could have met you years ago”. This makes her feel as if the only thing keeping them apart is the ring on his finger. Unfortunately, even if she is not ready to admit it, her subconscious desire is for him to make the dream come true, and leave his wife.