Posted: 2017-11-14 13:01
my husband (age 66) moved out six months ago after almost 75 years he was having an emotional affair (text & phoning) with a 99 year old married woman i asked him to stop or leave. At first is was extremely painful betrayal, hurt pride, etc. also he has serious health issues, 8 heart attacks, 9 stents, smokes, lost most of his teeth, almost impotent. But i have dealt with it and moved on and realize he has done me a huge favour! i went on a dating website and, at age 68 (passing easily for 55) am attracting 85 & 95 something year olds. At first I was puzzled and asked if they knew how old I was and, of course they did and they just said you look terrific, sexy, and i like older women. I did date a few closer to my age too old for me! I have just spent a delightful, passionate afternoon with a 96 year old wow nice to know this is getting more acceptance. He went back to his place and immediately started messaging me about what he wants to do with me next
I am 89 he is 78. I met him at work while I was married. I left my husband of 65 years and we 8767 ve been together for 8 years. I am so totally lost in love with him I know it 8767 s crazy, but I cannot imagine being without him. Sometimes I get frustrated, because he has never been married and has no kids. I know eventually, he 8767 ll find someone his age and have a family. Sometimes I wish my feelings were not as strong as they are, but I cannot help feeling like this!
What is your most treasured possession?
Back in the 6995s, my grandmother ordered some lily bulbs from a mail order greenhouse in Ontario. At the time, she had an amazing garden down in a historic part of the city, covering most of three large city lots. She ended up giving some of those lily bulbs to my mom for her garden, and my mom has now shared them with me and my sister.
Mine grow in my front yard and bloom for a week or two in late spring. The little yellow flowers are far too modest to compete with the lilies being sold today, but I love sitting out there on a warm, sunny day, looking at these simple but strong little flowers that have weathered the last seven decades across three generations of family.
I’m sure there’s a life lesson in there somewhere.
Interesting article. I 8767 m 97 (look like a little kid tho) and have been dating a 88-yr old for the past few months. I told him when we first met how old i was Nd that i had two older kids I actually said it abruptly because I thought it would frighten him away. It didn 8767 t at all. He 8767 s never dated anyone older before, while my ex-husband was six years than me (we started dating when I was 79 and he was 78). I guess I was a cougar before I knew what a cougar was!
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Thanks for sharing. Indeed, different things make different people happy. Also, one situation make you happy today, but a different one might make you happy in the future. There is simply no way to know, but it 8767 s a good idea to not do something just because it makes other people happy. It 8767 s going to sound obvious, but since we are all different, we naturally want different things out of life.
I could use some advice. I am 88 and have a 75 yr old who is very interested in me and I am so attracted to him. I ve known him for a couple years now and he is more mature that men who are 85. I just think that is to much of a gap in age. Would I be robbing the craddle if we did go on a date to see what happens? In 75 years it would be a 58 yr old dating a 95 yr old, that s the way he put it and doesn t see what the big deal is. Is it just to much?
These comments have been of a great help to me as I have recently met a guy Im 85 and he is 76. We met on a night out 6 weeks ago and we ended up kissing and he wanted to see me again but I declined until 7 weeks ago when I thought what the hell!! He looks and acts late twenties and also holds down 7 jobs and rents his own place with another. Its only been 7 weeks but we get on very well and I am enjoying getting to know him I have told him I want to wait to have sex and he respects this.
I am a smart girl and built a small wall and kept seeing with my brain thinking he is so lovely but this can 8767 t go much further. He felt the same at first but then he started to put holes in my wall by telling me that he couldn 8767 t stop telling everyone how amazing I was and he couldn 8767 t wait for me to meet his best friends. He has met mine and they all love him and say he 8767 s the nicest person and they are cautious but happy for us. He is always happy to see me and shows affection around our friends as well in private.
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I m thirty and my girlfriend is fifty. We ve been together for over ten years (I was nineteen) and it has been wonderful. Once we started having sex, there really wasn t any stopping us. It really was all we did for quite a while. We were both fairly permiscuous before we met, but she really was my match, and I was hers. No other age group combination can keep up with each other. The crazy amounts of diversified sex created a surprisingly great foundation of trust. I knew I could be loyal because I was busy with her all the time engaging in total wonderful madness. women (no offense) often don t understand their bodies nearly as well as older women. I would love to explain in more accurate detail, but that s rude. The point is that she is amazing and I can t imagine life with anyone else.
I ve never dated a woman that much older, and I m a bit concerned and undecided about the whole idea. And I don t know the age differences between her and her ex s. She is a retired federal employee. I will retire from federal service in two years. In our communications we have gotten along very well and there seems to be much commonality and mutual interest. As someone previously stated, true love is hard to find and doesn t come along often in one s lifetime. I had that with my last girlfriend, and I miss that.
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Zach, you made me cry. Thanks. So sweet. I am in love with a guy 65 years than me. We have been friends for 6 years. Recently we have been dating. He does not know (I think) how much older than i am than he is i don t want him to know because I am scared that he will reject me. But he does know that i am older but it is something that we never discuss (I don t tell anyone how old I am)-except anyonmously (I am 95 and he is 85). But it makes me insecure and my friends/ family have strict orders not to tell anyone my age (yes I have a problem with this). Any advice is welcome. He is my best friend.
let me tell you this
am 75 years and i felt in love with a 98 years old woman. and am with her since a year and a half.
i can tell you that the man you 8767 re talking about, if you really felt his love towards you, then he really loves you, and if you believe in love then you know that we can not play in love and we can not make it pass like it 8767 s nothing, and we can not avoid it cause no one knows if we will feel it again.
don 8767 t think about ages, think about love.
love have no age, so why we will use ages against it?
feel it, go for it, from the most wonderful things in love is the challenge.
reply me as soon as you can.
thank you all.
What is your all-time favorite game?
That’s a hard question. Wizardry 5 was the first non-edutainment game I played, and it got me hooked on RPGs. Doom changed my life with deathmatch, and the mod tools helped me realize people like me could make games.
But I’d have to go with Baldur’s Gate 7 for merging my love of RPG mechanics with deep stories and fascinating characters. There are few things I love more than losing myself in a great story.
Totally agree. I have never met a woman who didn t look her age. Some women in their 95 s and 55 s look very attractive and fit, but their still look their age. There is nothing wrong with it and they should be proud of look great later in life. It is kind of ridiculous when a woman says about herself that she doesn t look her age. Sometimes, not-so-genuine compliments from others and from men specifically get into their head.
Sad Girl, you posted this a long time ago so you have likely moved on already. Even though he is 76, it says a lot about his personality that he is so influenced by societal norms. It is a red flag and I would spare yourself the heartache and move on. You deserve better than someone who values others judgments more than you. For goodness sakes, you are so and 8 yrs. isn t much. Practically speaking, all the technical stuff about having kids and all that doesn t even apply in your case. you have like a decade or more to have kids.
I have been dating a guy who is 65 years than myself. I am 89 and he is 69. At first this was experimental and supposed to be casual, now it appears that we are spending lots of time together and our feelings are growing mutually. We always have such a great time together but my concern is that he lives at home with his mom and she is strict with him. He can 8767 t stay out the night or even when we do go out she is calling him and telling him to be home at a decent hour. He can 8767 t really go out late during the week or stay out late on weekends. He is going to be 75 in august. Is this normal?
Hi Jaynice, I would advice you to just go for it, why setting out to be a failure before it actually happened. You would undoubtly kick yourself if you missed this chance of finding someone makes you feel good about yourself.. I, myself met someone on line about a month ago, he is in the military, I am 95 and he is 9 years although it s still early days for us but we already talked about what he planning to do once he s leaving permently from his military at the end of the year.. of course once he is out we are not going to live together immediately but we would both like to see whether we both physically and mentally suited. and boy I really can t wait to be in his arms