Posted: 2017-10-13 00:50
Be your authentic self , not some false front based on the idea of what you think you need to be. Be vulnerable by being open and honest about who you are it shows that you have the strength to let others know how you feel without worrying about what other people think. Be the person who brings legitimate value to their life and some day people may be looking at you and wondering how the hell you managed to land her when she 8767 s so clearly out of your league.
Thank you all for sharing. I am lucky to be a functional aspie but like others social situation are a sometimes impossible for me. I see everthing as a engineering problem but If I can t find a solution I go into lockup.
Meetings are intolerable, phone calls are a terror. People who know me well say I have a hearing delay loop. In spite being a very successful engineer I ve had social types tell me I appeared stupid. If I hadn t been a successful engineer don t know how I would have coped and I could easily see myself on the street or worse..
Unfortunately, guys will usually screw us overly horny women (stress hormones also make you a horndog so you are more likely to eff on the first date) and then just kick us to the curb, which will then cause environmental stress to the physiologically inherited stress we already have and the stress cascade will just fall into an evil escalating cycle of more and more stress until we just kill ourselves or mercifully die of a stress related disease like heart disease, stroke, alcoholism, complications from diabetes, or drug addiction, etc.
It s important to remember that women are every bit as individual and varied in their tastes as men. What the media represents as attractive to women is no more representative of the full spectrum of women s tastes than a movie trailer is representative of all literature, and for a similar reason: it s what s being marketed (or who s being marketed to) this year, and nothing more.
If people would only focus on making each other happy, then all would be well. You wade through trials together and grow together. People only grow apart because they get selfish. We have forgotten the pleasure of making our lover laugh or feel loved. Of conquering obstacles side-by-side. Rather than resenting the other 8767 s different dream or opinions we should help the other achieve their dreams. We tend to stress over anything that doesn 8767 t go to plan these days.
It 8767 s that ability to forge emotional connections that are so paramount to attraction. Looks are great, but the ability to make you feel like the most important person in the world is better after all, someone who looks amazing but doesn 8767 t connect with you is going to leave you feeling cold and unappreciated. Someone who makes you feel good, who is fun to be around , is going to be in demand as a lover, far more so than someone who is pretty, but distant and unapproachable.
This is the most helpful comment on here. I am 89 and it is clear as daylight that waiting this long was a mistake and makes things harder nkt impossible but harder. Yet people constantly advise that you have all this time and to go galavanting all over the globe and this is fine UNLESS you know you want a family. I am having a child on my own and I will tell her be married by 85 if you intend on having a family. The reality is for the best outcome you dont have all day.
heh, from my experience pretty much this is the case. I get a good bit of unwanted attention from women who I d never consider sexually appealing. And who I would consider myself having to Date down dramatically in order to go out with. Am i offended? Not anymore than I am when gay guys approach me to ask me wildly inappropriate things like if I want to be their cub.. I just shudder, mutter a not interested.. and get the hell away from them.
I hesitate to give medical advice, but I would consider exploring other options for medications before giving up. My own son had to stop Adderall due to side effects that meant that stimulants might not be a good choice for him (a topic for another post, really), but we 8767 re trying Intuniv now, one of the non-stimulant options. There is also Strattera as a non-stimulant, and depending on the symptoms, there may be other medication options that could be appropriate. I believe that if you find the right medication that controls symptoms without many side effects, and allows your child to have better self-control and focus. This allows them to work on developing skills and learning in school, and they can feel better about themselves instead of spending all their time reinforcing negative behavior and feeling like a delinquent.
And navigate he did, dodging social errors with the same fright and determination one might actually dodge mines.
I relate so much to this - I couldn t say it better. It s so tough to balance the need to adapt to the speed of a conversation and the one to think and be careful to avoid saying something socially inappropriate. And to remember to give the word to other people and to ask questions, and, and,. so many things. So exhausting.
My gut made me check my boyfriend 8767 s phone one night. I know it wasn 8767 t right, and it was something I 8767 d never do (even when he has repeatedly done it with mine) but i wasn 8767 t wrong. He had a long conversation with a recruiter that had been helping him get a job, but soon she was sending pictures of herself and calling him 8766 baby 8767 to which he replied, and even encouraged.
I confronted him, and he said he was at a loss, since she was helping him secure the job he wasn 8767 t sure of how to back off, afraid she would stop helping him. We apparently solved the thing, he promised it wouldn 8767 t happen again.
Hi Stacey! My son hates it when talk like that, too! lol When I say, 8775 We need to talk about what happened earlier and discuss why it was a problem and how we can do it differently next time, 8776 he screws up his face at me and sighs loudly. Other moms don 8767 t make their kids do that! But other moms don 8767 t take advantage of these events to process them and learn from them! And other moms aren 8767 t nurses, so there you go! 🙂
So, Stacey, I don 8767 t know how oppositional your child is, but I would forcibly bring my son to him room. I think that is better than corporal punishment, and if your child is reacting to being left alone, you could sit outside the room. In the hospital, we always sit outside the patient 8767 s room in a chair while they are 8775 secluded, 8776 right? But don 8767 t engage, and explain the rules ahead of time. 8775 I will sit here as long as you understand that I am not here to talk to you about things now. You need to calm down and think about things, and when you are ready to talk calmly about what happened and I am also ready, that 8767 s when we will talk. 8776
it has been my experience that most women from there mid twenties on up that are single already have children and I do not believe that I need to bring any more into this world I have no children I can love someone else 8767 s children just as much as my own no matter the age of the woman or the child and there are helping the fax throughout all h is of man and women as far statistics your research goes they say wolves don 8767 t attack people that 8767 s been proven wrong another thing I 8767 ve noticed drop my life and I am 95 + is people in general man and women seem to want what they cannot have and the more they can not have it the more they want it and I believe the gentlemen 8767 s issue in discussion he said she did not want to have kids and I am 99 years old and an extremely good shape I can out work out hike out hunt the majority of men in their 75s I have spent my life building strength they have just begun.
Let me tell you something about guys over 55 Unless you are like Brad Pitt, it 8767 s your imagination. I see plenty of men like you when I do my groceries I say excuse me to get by and they think they have a chance and they start talking It 8767 s cute and all that but No! Men don 8767 t look any better than women as they age : they get a fat belly, wrinkles, ugly teeth, lose hair, bags under the eyes Sorry!
Hi - to the last commenter - I don t know if you ll see this. I truly think there s got to be some comfort in knowing you re not alone with this. I ll bet you re not very mean to people, right? Don t insult them? My clients take communication very seriously, too seriously to not think carefully about what they say. It s not a bad quality, it s a wonderful quality! Just a rare one.
Yeah that s what I ve been saying. She s selfish, egotistical yeah, that s a lot girls in their 75 s relate to. A character that s like that. When I write comments describing behavior similar to hers, there s usually a whole slew of comments saying that girls aren t like that and there must be something odd about my life that I know girls who are anywhere near that.
I 8767 ll be honest: the cultural phenomenon that is Girls has more or less passed me by. 6 However, I will absorb the occasional moment from the show through sheer cultural osmosis usually when it stirs up another controversy that ends up plastered all over the blogs that I steal from mine for topics read. So while I may be a little behind the pop-culture curve, there are certain issues that I find fascinating from an outsider 8767 s perspective.
Sure, there will be plenty of individuals (men and women) who will scoff at the notion that somebody as ordinary as *you* could think to be with somebody as radiant and majestic as *THEM*. Functionally, it s really no different than I m not attracted to you, just with an unwholesome pile of entitlement as a side-dish. Either way, there s really nothing you can do but shrug and move on you just need to avoid taking any of their silly assumptions with you as you go.
I agree with you Lana. However, just like I think a man saying any woman over 85, the fun declines drastically, is an idiot, I think the same of women who would say that of men. It 8767 s also just plain not true. My experience has been that age has no bearing on how fun a person is to be around, and that goes for both women and men, friends or boyfriends. I know both men and women who are in their twenties who are about as dynamic as a wet firecracker. I know men and women over 55 whom I can 8767 t keep up with. I know an 85 year old white man who still does roofing, and many guys can 8767 t keep up with him. He reminds me of that guy who at 79 was still barefoot water-skiing. I think his name was Banana George. Even at 79, he could barefoot water ski, holding the tow line in his teeth while holding bananas in his hands. Would I want to date him? No, he is way too old for me. However, if I were over 65, I would probably think he 8767 s the cat 8767 s meow. But, I can also admit that even at his age, he was likely a lot more fun to be around than many guys a fraction of his age.