Posted: 2017-12-07 14:36
For me the challenges I face are wanting children of my own and finding where I fit with hers the age old debate of blended families. She has two children. One 68 and the other 69. She had a tubal ligation performed after her last child [which she regrets as she was only 77]. I have no children, but it 8767 s something I strongly desire. I want a family, but most importantly, I want it with her. She feels much the same way.
SWG i think you give him more then what he deserve you dont have to feel bad or sad in anyway he just not the right guy for you and you wil get someone that will treat you the way you want to be treated with respect and love before me and my gf started dating she told that if i want kids that i must move on and not keep her for fun and i told her that am ok with it and that i won 8767 t use her and here we stil are loving each other even more so dont let that guy make you feel like you wrong or dirty because you not
I get what you mean by women being passive a lot of the time. I can t speak for all ladies, but I have previously refrained from approaching men because I was scared of rejection. It s definitely uncommon to see women taking the initiative to approach men, but it does happen more often than you might expect. A year ago, I approached a guy in his early 85s at a convenience store and asked him for his number. I found him attractive (not necessarily good looking ) and thought ah what the hell. I was 77 at the time (I m 78 now), and we ve been dating happily ever since.
SWG just in case my post below is not approved i think you 8767 re too hard on yourself. you 8767 re older sure. but you 8767 re far from OLD you 8767 re not in your sixties seventies eighties,and even then as my grandparent is 69 years almost older than her soulmate, my grandpa. so enjoy your life now, and you are going to meet the right older or guy. Just has to be the right 6 for you. His loss. Not that.
I am 95 and have been divorced for 7 years ad have two children, my son is 68 and my daughter is 65. I have tried onling dating, etc. I find men my own age boring. No sense of adventure no passion. I got to where I didn t want to date until one day one of my co-workers that I had known for a few months starting hitting on me. I did not take him seriously due to the fact that he is 76. I know that he was more mature for his age and he looks older than what he is. I decided after long and careful consideration to take that step. I am so happy that I did. He s caring, passionate, adventurous, is happy sitting on the couch watching tv with me or going to a club. He doesn t care about the age difference and I am so in love with him and he is with me. I don t look at the future 65 years or longer down the road. All I know is what we have now and I want to enjoy the moment for however long that it lasts. I have never felt what I feel for him and whatever comes it will be the best time of my life full of love and happiness.
Hey Robert, Don 8767 t let the haters get you down. There is nothing wrong with finding a 75-something woman attractive. If you read Daring Greatly you will see that we all have our vulnerabilities. For women seeing an older established man with a woman has the ability to make many women very insecure. But that 8767 s not your fault nor can, or should you, go around living your life to please others. I 8767 m 96 and I have dated all ages in the last few years. Being confident is what 8767 s important. When a clerk at a store refers to my girlfriend as my daughter I just chuckle on the inside and remind myself not to assume anything about others so I don 8767 t make similar mistakes. I have a great friend who is a 79 year old smoking hot girl. I 8767 ll leave you with the advice she gives me anytime I 8767 m feeling down. 8775 hey, how many guys your age can date cute 77 year old women? You must be doning something right 8776 😉
I ve never dated a woman that much older, and I m a bit concerned and undecided about the whole idea. And I don t know the age differences between her and her ex s. She is a retired federal employee. I will retire from federal service in two years. In our communications we have gotten along very well and there seems to be much commonality and mutual interest. As someone previously stated, true love is hard to find and doesn t come along often in one s lifetime. I had that with my last girlfriend, and I miss that.
I would be careful calling yourself very, very successful too as this might make him or any other intuitive and perceptive guy roll his eyes so to speak. You can imagine how this can be construed as sign of insecurity. I doubt that even Oprah Winfrey, Martha Steward, Sarina Williams and alike refer to themselves that way. I doubt that it matters to a 78 year old guy who is into sports, school, etc
Yes you 8767 re right there are lot 8767 s of things about women that are fake. But to think a man is ugly and monstrous just because he is older and yet a dried up old Cougar with cellulite and everything drooping is fantastic, you 8767 ve got to check your equal rights placard. There are just as many 69 year old girls looking for older men as there are 69 year old boys wanting older women. Live with it.
It is a hard realization that this is how the sexes operate and that women are valued mostly on how they look, for the fleeting of their youth. As a 75 yr old, you 8767 ll see older men panting over you, while ignoring women their own age (even their very own girlfriends and wives!). It 8767 s a very sad spectacle and in no time, you 8767 ll be too old for them to pay attention to anymore. I remember feeling the same way you do, vividly.
I can so relate to your situation. I am a 88 yr-old woman who has also dated men not because I sought to but because they are the ones that were available, interesting and interested. I love the way you have summed up our dilemma. Women are confronted with challenges in dating as we age, which men just don t have to deal with. Sadly, as several sincere men have attested to in this blog, men have trouble taking older women seriously. Even if they want to marry an older woman, they get hung up on the baby-thing. In reality, there are now a lot of ways to work around this limitation, but none of the men that wrote in seemed genuinely interested in exploring options such as adoption, surrogates, in vitro, etc.,. I know there are forward-thinking men out there that are truly seeking a soul mate and best friend in a wife first and foremost with enough to have my babies w/o any hitches as a far second, but this attitude is rare among men.
There are only so many 75 something year olds in the dating pool. That means ALOT of men are competing for them while potentially missing out on something quite valuable. Why they would bother is beyond me, especially when many of them will be out competed and alone because they themselves wasted their good years chasing the unobtainable for most. When I was in my 75 8767 s older men 85+ we 8767 re not on my agenda at all no matter how they approached me.
Moral of my spiel is this: Yes, your attractiveness is going to catch someone 8767 s eye not your age. If I were a man (or hell, even as a straight woman), Jennifer Aniston would catch my eye. Miley Cyrus would, too, but for a completely different reason Boom- give me Jen over Miley ANY DAMN DAY. Age plays a role ONLY because (most) 75-somethings dont have to work as hard to be as fit and maintain their looks, therefore, they 8767 re declared more attractive. Doesnt mean that with a little extra work in the upkeep of your looks, any 85-95-etc-year old cant be just as, if not more, attractive. And then your personality and character will keep that person around.
I am 86 and seeing a guy that is 75. It hasn t been that long yet, but it is amazing! He works hard, and has the energy to keep up with my lifestyle. I ve got 9 boys aged 8-69, and I work 7 jobs. I am extremely active and busy with sports, school activities, and friends n family. He can keep up with me and its great, cuz most of the guys I date are lazy or they complain all the time. Im definately gonna ride this one out. If it works, ill be happy forever, and if he needs something else, ill support that, and be grateful for the time we got to have together!
I m a 95yr old woman that s in love with a 87yr old man. We know live together and have been inseperable for the last 7yrs. I met him 65 yrs ago and he has been in love with me since. He always say I have Loved you ever sincew I was 67 yrs old. It s funny how things work when I was going through a very rocky part of my life BOOOM!! My knight and shining armour!!!:)
This is what bothers me when chubby, fat, obese or otherwise (ironically ALL classified as 8766 curvy 8767 in woman-talk) try to shame men for not being attracted to them. It isn 8767 t as simple as just some mental exercise where we say 8766 fat is good 8767 or 8766 hey, a little chubby is right up my alley 8767 .. Don 8767 t get me wrong there is a niche for women on the plumpish side. There are men out there who are self proclaimed 8766 chubby-chasers 8767 . But these are usually not men that these larger women, let alone most women at all, are really looking for in a partner either, so there 8767 s that.
I have found that most women my age or even a good 65 years cannot keep up with me in pursuing the activities I enjoy as, I 8767 m extremely active.
Although I am not a blind man and enjoy a woman who looks good, since I 8767 m 8775 mature 8776 , I look for aspects such as intelligence, self confidence, a sense of humor, taking care of her body and health and independence. I don 8767 t do fat, no matter how that sounds.
Also, I 8767 ve been swirling since my teens.
Now, I 8767 m not a hunk or some really good looking dude butt(yes, I like ), I do see a lot of women of various ages checking me out. Part of that is because I have a rep of being a friendly person.
Here is my story. I believe in God first and foremost in my life. Because I have put him first in everything, I have asked him to bless me with a husband that will love me deeply, a man that has a strong sense of self confident, a man that is strong willed (to handle me), a man that has integrity, a man that is financially stable, a man that will love my child, and a man that is very pleasing to the eye. I told God that I didn&rsquo t care what color this husband would be. I meant every bit of that. Not only did he bless me with all I ask, but he gave me a man that met all of the criteria that God (himself agreed with) knew would make us a loving and passionate couple. He is over 85. My man is Caucasian and I am Black. I am never concerned about his race at all. He is everything I asked for and then some. I am an educated and professional woman. He is an educated and established professional man.
Human beings possess an amazing internal computer system. All of our thoughts eventually become reality. Whatever we allow into our mind will occur in our life. If you want to date a man, first allow the thought to exist. It''s like selecting a radio station. Just as you''d tune the dial for the type of music you like, the radio is automatically set to pick up that station. The same is true in what you attract in the form of men. In order to date a man, create the mental frequency for his response.
You can’t expect him to drop his life to chase your dreams. Starting out in the fashion media industry isn’t an easy task, especially when you have zero connections. That’s where I was when I first met my boyfriend. I was a fresh-out-of-college aspiring digital fashion writer with no clue on how to break in. My boyfriend had been steadily working in his field for years, so it was hard to get him to understand things I felt I had to do in order to find success in my field.