Posted: 2017-11-14 12:50
There are plenty of people on this site who have self-esteem, body image, social anxiety, and other issues that cause them doubts and fears, and I don t think they carry unhealthy views of other people, but based on what he s said and how he s described his feelings I d say Forever (and you, for that fact, your intense hatred of people who are most attractive than you and your bitterness you talk with when describing another man coming into your circle of friends points to some massively unhealthy outlooks) has some unhealthy attitudes about others, and plenty of other people (many of them women) have picked up on this. Specifically, a potentially toxic view of women as laid out by all the posters I ve previously mentioned.
As far as it being hard to believe that someone could fail to improve in any conceivable way, well, I think I m that. I may be good at one or two things or have improved at a few things, but they are things that are useless or invisible to anyone else. Thus the joke about my talent for hyperbolic argument. I mean, even if I m good at that, does it really benefit me or anyone else in any way? No-in fact it probably seems to be a BAD thing.
The bottom line is, if you are trying to get back out there and it’s scaring you to death and always leads to tears, then stop. Don’t do it. There’s no fire, no mandate that says, ‘six months after the break up, you must successfully date again.’ It doesn’t exist. If you’re scared and it doesn’t feel good, then don’t do it. You’re not ready and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean that you’ll never be ready, but at this moment, you still have some work to do.
I think ultimately what you are doing is insisting there are no choices so that you can never fear you ve made the bad one. You can never hope that you ll make the right one. If everything just happens to you then you are not responsible for anything. Not having any responsibilities is wonderful, it means never feeling guilt, never feeling shame, never feeling disappointment. It means you are safe from vulnerability.
(Since I don t think abundance mentality works for me, I personally try to follow the whole pursue the best life you can thing, doing and experiencing cool things and making sure not to put my life on hold waiting for a partner. That way, if the stars align and I *do* meet someone, I ll have the confidence inherent in a happy and fulfilling life to draw on and fall back on if things don t work out.)
I 8767 m up and down with the dating. I keep running into narcicissists. However, I 8767 m elated by it because I feel and see my growth. I can see them with my eyes closed. It 8767 s frustrating because I believe I 8767 m ready to be vulnerable to the right person, however, I also believe I still have a lot of healing to do because of what I 8767 ve gone through. I 8767 m grateful for the fact I can see these assholes coming, I can sense how weird these people actually are. I now know how emotionally dead I was to not see this. The things they do LITERALLY irritate me. I have my days of anger and sorrow, other days I have my S on my chest. One day at a time literally is how I take it.
I find it weird that she told me she really trusts me and that she can tell me anything and this was 8 weeks we 8767 ve known eachother and only seen eachother 7 or 8 times. A couple weeks ago I said something about friend zone and she just laughed so she didn 8767 t put me in the friend zone. So you got any advice for me? I don 8767 t really know too many people since I 8767 m sorta new to the town. Sorry for the long message but I really need your advice, as I feel you can help with this issue. So why wont she text me back? Should I just ignore her for a little bit and try again or wait for her to text me? I feel he 8767 s gonna go back to his roots and treat her like shit and I don 8767 t want her using me a fucking emotional tampon, should I explain my feelings then or what, I 8767 m really confused here.
Hey Tony I have an interesting situation and some help would be appreciated I 8767 ve known this girl for over a year (through a sport, we don 8767 t go to school together) and this year I quit to focus on some other things. On the last day I went, she showed some signs that she was interested in me, and some other people saw it too and were messing with me about it. At the time, I wasn 8767 t really interested in her, so I didn 8767 t pay as much attention as I would have liked to (now looking back on it). It 8767 s been a few months since I 8767 ve seen her, and we used to text a lot, but recently she seems to always cut off our conversations early on. She usually gets back to me a day later with some excuse (but it 8767 s been happening a lot and it 8767 s getting really annoying!). We also had talked about hanging out (she seemed pretty eager) but we haven 8767 t gone into details. I don 8767 t really know if I should continue to go after her or wait for her to text me first to show that she still has interest. Please hep me figure out what to do! Thanks in advance.
But there are other ways to play with uncertainty. My personal favorite is to in a neutral conversation, find a reason to bring up the others good looks or personal competence as facts, seemingly just to prove a point about something. The intended effect is that she is thrown off balance and doesn t know if she just recieved a compliment or if I was just stating the facts about something good and true about her that s really self-evident.
SO, that was Monday night. It 8767 s friday now. I texted her thursday while we were talking for a second date. She said she had to go to the doctor for all these tests today (something somwhat serious, not too bad though) and I said 8775 I think you should let me take you to longs park sometime soon before it gets too cold out! Never know the fresh air or something could help! P 8776 . She never replied.
I don 8767 t think it 8767 s coincidence. I think reading that site gets people thinking about the elders in their life, which naturally leads to remembering things they 8767 ve said. And yeah, we 8767 ve definitely lost some family unity in the . If you think about it, if you 8767 re living in Germany or France or Spain, you only have a big . state 8767 s worth of room to move away from your family. A couple hundred miles. Here, you can literally move half a world away. (Imagine moving from Maine to Hawaii.)
Please don 8767 t be scared. He feeds of of it. I 8767 m 99 and never known peace my face has every bone broke. I lost my babies and found out one us in a foster home terminal at eleven. This animal I 8767 m with tells me I failed him that the govt. Even knew I didn 8767 t deserve children. I feel I deserve this for failing them. Please don 8767 t allow this as a mother and a human.. I love u they are not love. They are sick
So as you can see, I almost fit into your idea of EUM, however a lot of my female friends & lovers mightn 8767 t agree fully with that title I 8767 ll have to chat with a few of them to find out some more perspectives because a lot of the time I AM there when they need someone to listen to them, I DO understand where they 8767 re coming from (pardon the pun) and am COMPASSIONATE towards them..
I met this girl in front of the bar while she was smoking and than we stared talking and then she had to leave because she work in the bar so she said to me I really want to continue our conversation but I have to go is their was we could communicate I said sure she said can I get you number and then we exchange number and then she said to me you really have nice personality and she went back to work then two days later I text her saying what 8767 s up. She reply to ohh going to work am ganna start at 5pm am text you later and then she texted me at 9pm saying I just got out and the I text her about 6hoirs later when I got saying good morning she never got back to me it 8767 s Ben 7days and she haven 8767 t got back to me what should I do she I text her back or call her or just leave her along ?
A great piece, followed by some surprisingly substantial dialogue Which is why I am all the more surprised to see the author state that 8775 East Anglia was a deliberate suppression of data. 8776 Please revisit the subject. I am confident that you will find that the claims of wrong-doing were never substantiated and were ultimately debunked. In the end, the only real intrigue regarding 8766 East Anglia 8767 is centred upon questions regarding the source of the high level, professional espionage.
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Anyway I tried to make some more conversation with her but she was in a hurry to get off the phone (I could hear a lot going on in the background). Oh well, guess thats more motivation for me to go work out, get in better shape, and talk to other girls (although I do not give myself many opportunities to do so, socially I am pretty closed and shy). Thanks for your advice, hopefully I can get myself unstuck!
Even then, my home town and surrounding convenient counties had a population of 755,555. You can cut those numbers in half for preferred gender, half again for single (vastly oversimplified), minus 65% or straight only and you ve still got 95,555. Cut it to 7% of that if you want a hardcore gamer or Wiccan and you re still at 955. Cut that to 65% for age appropriate (which is a hugely conservative estimate) and you re at 95. That may not be abundant in any absolute sense and it might take a lot of effort to find those 95 but its more people than I m going in the immediate future.
I know you have problems with not finding people who appreciate your interests, but to me, the sheer range of things you mention working on or dabbling in a little here and there, or making cool projects (even if they aren t at the level of the experts you re encountering), makes you seem like a really interesting person who I d be able to enjoy having free-ranging conversations with and doing random fun activities, and that you d be the sort of person who d be up for doing whatever random creative/social activity I thought up and thinking up ones of your own. Experts can be serious about what they do, and focused. Generalists are more likely to be open to playing around, to have random interesting thoughts and knowledge while still leaving room for the other person to have some of their own. You re spreading out your skillpoints, and while it has it s disadvantages, I also think it produces some really cool people.
All of those people had some other thing they were good at that I couldn t do. I spent an hour last night in various arguments with a dyslexic, bubbly, art student (who s also my stage manager) over placement of things, lighting etc for our next show before I realized she just sees things I don t. She s a professional stagehand with a lot of theater experience in charge of the tech side and has been my stage manager for five years and I m the big picture guy. So she may never write the Great American Novel or design a rocket but she s smarter than me at the things she does. I know a couple of women who wen to the arts charter school out here. They re not rocket scientists either but they can do a better number with five minutes prep than I can with a month s. Just because someone isn t intellectual doesn t mean they re not smart.