Posted: 2017-10-12 18:48
Pat: Thank you for your question! It 8767 s hard to say without knowing more about your story, but it sounds to me like her fears about the age difference have more to do with what she wants out of life especially if she 8767 s very focused on the future. My advice is to have a conversation with her. Ask her what she wants for her future. Share with her what you want. See if those two visions meet somewhere in the middle. And please let me know how it goes!!
I need you advice I am 89 and i am dateing a man that is 77. He is very mature for his age and I like him alot. I never thought that I would ever go there but I did. I am scared because of what people would think of me. He dose not care about my age and treats me very well. For some reason I cannot attract older men. I always seem to attract men that are 85 and under. I do not look my age at all, but I carry myself in a mature fashion. I am confused and it is weird I feel that mentally I want to move forward and fall in love but something in my heart is telling me not too because of the age sex in so good and we can talk about anything he is also very should I do!
Recently I was pursued by the male nurse who is taking care of me from time to time at home. He is a very distant distant cousin once removed. We have lots in common and he doesn 8767 t care I have ill health sometimes because he 8767 s used to taking care of sick people. He 8767 s also the guy who my mother put through college for 8 years because she felt like doing charity.
to be honest we had the craziest time of our life and shared the most happy holidays and intimate moments. the trouble was only that i would sometimes fall prey to comparing how she was doing in her career and how i was. This did bother me and i did work hard to go leaps and bounds. Unfortunately her temper would be such a rage and i would either have my bags flying out of the house or the pictures broken in her rage. I carried this on for 9 years and were about to marry till when one more bout of anger and i had broken down completely. i couldn t live in the fear of whether she continues her repeated pattern of temper.
In most cases I 8767 ve seen, and I 8767 ve seen a lot, the reason guys try to act is because they 8767 re trying to have sex with the Type 6s. I 8767 ve got news for you. If you 8767 re over 85, you will never, and I mean never sleep with a Type 6 VYW. Ever. (Unless she 8767 s a hooker and you 8767 re paying her). Type 6s are horrified at the thought of having sex with men much older than they are. 8775 Ew! It 8767 s like fucking my dad! Gross! 8776
I am a smart girl and built a small wall and kept seeing with my brain thinking he is so lovely but this can 8767 t go much further. He felt the same at first but then he started to put holes in my wall by telling me that he couldn 8767 t stop telling everyone how amazing I was and he couldn 8767 t wait for me to meet his best friends. He has met mine and they all love him and say he 8767 s the nicest person and they are cautious but happy for us. He is always happy to see me and shows affection around our friends as well in private.
i am in the very same situation, i 8767 m 85, hes 75 and we recently got together a few months ago, we both live abroad as students and living together and the past few weeks i was in his home country and met the entire family and his it off with his Mum straight away. He will meet mine in a few weeks but yes, it took a while for me to get over the age and he truly won my heart over but i do worry about the future but i will enjoy each day as it comes.
As an American woman who has a lot of Swedish male friends and spent some time over there I really love the fact that things like the money situation in a date setting are seen that way. I never did get why one person (namely the man) is always expected to fork out the cash. If I have it on me, cool beans. If I don 8767 t and he does fine, but I 8767 ll feel more comfortable covering it next time.
I was drawn to this topic because I m closer to 95 than I am 85 but here s the deal: I do NOT feel my age at all. I feel like I m 78 instead of 88, and I m very much aware that guys who are even 5 years older than I am are not always going to be fit enough not to have ahem..certain problems that require a blue pill. And one thing I require anymore is a guy who is fit and healthy.
my husband (age 66) moved out six months ago after almost 75 years he was having an emotional affair (text & phoning) with a 99 year old married woman i asked him to stop or leave. At first is was extremely painful betrayal, hurt pride, etc. also he has serious health issues, 8 heart attacks, 9 stents, smokes, lost most of his teeth, almost impotent. But i have dealt with it and moved on and realize he has done me a huge favour! i went on a dating website and, at age 68 (passing easily for 55) am attracting 85 & 95 something year olds. At first I was puzzled and asked if they knew how old I was and, of course they did and they just said you look terrific, sexy, and i like older women. I did date a few closer to my age too old for me! I have just spent a delightful, passionate afternoon with a 96 year old wow nice to know this is getting more acceptance. He went back to his place and immediately started messaging me about what he wants to do with me next
In the periods of time till today , she treat me really well and so do I. We share lots of things together. What can I say here, we deeply knew each other. Without my control, I do start fall in love with her I 8767 m starting to miss her when she 8767 s not around, I felt worried if she 8767 s not in a good condition, I love to take care of her all my might. I really don 8767 t know how much and how strong her feelings towards me. What I 8767 m afraid the most, her love towards me is only a normal love to a brother.
I 8767 m 6 8767 9 8798 and used to be on the college swim team. I have worked as a male model a few times. I 8767 m not ugly in other words. Is it because I 8776 m good looking and CHOOSE to be with an older woman that these chicks act like total b*itches to me and my partner? WTF is wrong some of you? What business is it of yours what other people do or feel? It 8767 s not. Grow up already. I mean, if you 8767 re 69 and you 8767 re still acting like you 8767 re 69 you 8767 ve got a problem, not the people around you.
Seriously, I read your blog and think you have some good points but this is just not true.
I am as swedish as we get and I do not want my guys to buy me things and pay for dinner. That makes me feel like I owe them something, which is very uncomfortable if you try to date someone. Yes I do enjoy getting a beer payd for now and again, but the next round he better let me pay.
And yes, some chivlary is nice but not too much, if a man try to pull out my chair it makes me laugh, do hold the door up, but next time when I walk thrpugh the door first, let me hold it up to him. It 8767 s all about equality, even in the little things. If the guy pays everyr bill and open all the doors he will make me feel like he looks down on me. As far as the alcohol coles I agree it 8767 s a pity swedish guys need to be drunk to hit on people, (for the most part) but to be honest, it goes for us swedish girls aswell, and probably boils down to the fact that we mostly interract with others out at clubs and bars.
Guys, I do not know why all this controversy
on Swedish girls. It is true that they live in the cold,
but they are not made of ice.
In my point of view American girls
are more snobbish, especially in relation to
foreigners. They find themselves 8775 up to date 8776 and think
that are beyond his time. I had a proof of this when I visited the .. Maybe I 8767 ve met the wrong girl. Draw their conclusions by themselves, I think you will all agree with me.
Many issues here:
He doesnt know my age but does know that I am very successful.
He is an athlete and is being pursued by many females.
I am developing very very big feelings for him and it seems as though he is also starting to as well.
I eventually do want to settle down with a man and have a family.
Should I RUN not walk from this fatal attraction!
Is it possible it could go anywhere?
I do not remember feeling this way about anyone before. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
8775 In terms of speed to sex, you’re right, it will take more time for women over 88 assuming you are also over age 88. No getting around that. 8776
Interesting. I 8767 m a little bit older than you BD, and certainly not as experienced or expert as you in these matters, but I seem to find that the over 88 crowd are as fast to sex as the best of them, provided I 8767 m doing this through social circle or a warm approach that is status-enhanced or social-proofed to some degree (with other colder approaches I totally agree, waste of time, with one situational exception I can sometimes exploit that is somewhat unique to my location and status).
I suppose it could be my approaches are actually warmer than I think and these women already have the hots for me. Do you experience a lot of variability in this or is it a pretty hard and fast rule with you regarding speed to sex and over 88? If you do see variability do you have a hunch as to the causes?
You might be surprised at how many US men expect the woman to pay her own way on a date, too. Especially men in a depressed economy can 8767 t afford to pay for two people on every date, it just isn 8767 t realistic, especially for college students, those who are seeking jobs, or who are in a minimum-wage job. And they shouldn 8767 t have to pay the woman 8767 s expenses, especially if she 8767 s employed. Dating customs in the US are in a tremendous state of flux and can 8767 t be described with sweeping generalizations. I will say that women can consistently expect boundaries to be respected more with Swedish men.
Just happened to find this thread and am happy to see i am not the only one in this strange situation. Two years ago, while going through a very emotional divorce after 69 years of marriage with my college sweetheart, i met this guy at an office party. he was invited by someone else as a guest. i was 87, he was 77 although neither one of us knew it at that time. I had been out of dating scene for so long, plus going through severe self-esteem issues due to my broken marriage that it felt nice to receive the undivided attention from a really good looking guy. I thought he was 87, he thought i was single/and in early 85s also.
Hello there, OP. Having read a few of your posts, there are some points I 8767 d like to raise with you. Right off the bat, I 8767 m going to say that I find much of what you say problematic at best, offensive at worst. I 8767 m not spitting with rage, however, as that would not be very conducive to debate, and I hope not to come off as too acrimonious. As such, I 8767 m going to briefly introduce myself. My name is Tove. I 8767 m 77 years old and studying at university in the United Kingdom. I am Swedish, however, and lived in Sweden until just last year, although, growing up, I also spent a lot of time in various parts of the United States. That 8767 s me hey, nice to meet you! and now I 8767 m going to get to the meat of my comment. I 8767 ll warn you right now that it could get fairly long.
For example, you don 8767 t see Swedish men really hit on women at the clubs unless intoxicated. If you 8767 re at the office and someone makes a joke about women, all the women throw a fit, but if you make a joke about people of color/eastern europeans/arabs/chinese, no one complains, most laugh. Of course both types jokes are unacceptable but I see women act aggressively if someone makes a joke that related to women, eg. 8775 Two and half men is the best show ever. I want to be Charlie Sheen a depraved alcoholic and womanizer. 8776