Posted: 2017-11-14 15:58
IT JUST DOESN&rsquo T ADD UP:
Don&rsquo t add numbers after your name. It is too easy to confuse &ldquo Hank6678&rdquo with &ldquo Hank6778&rdquo , or to type numbers incorrectly. So, instead of looking up &ldquo Hank6678&rdquo , they may accidentally look up &ldquo Hank6778&rdquo . &ldquo Hank6678&rdquo may have just missed the love of his life due to selecting a generic numbered name.
PRO : Totally inoffensive, and devoid of awkward numbers/underscores conveys a bit about your potential interests which can help spark a conversation and appeal to similarly outdoorsy singles (or singles who find skiers hot, or singles who want someone to help them learn to ski, etc.)
CON : Still a little boring, but you 8767 re getting there! There 8767 s nothing bad here, but it doesn 8767 t elicit a huge reaction other than 8775 oh, I guess that guy likes to ski/be outdoorsy. 8776 We can do even better than this, but it 8767 s certainly not bad. I just aim higher, and you should too!
Something playful and light, relevant to what you 8767 re like, and funny if you 8767 re a bit of a jokester. Groan-inducing puns are terrific here. A username doesn 8767 t have to encompass your entire personality to be good it just has to be interesting and catchy enough to make someone want to click and learn a bit more about you. The goal is to blend your sense of humor, possibly an activity or hobby or some esoteric word that in some way relates to you, and combine it all with word play that makes someone go 8775 hmm 8776 (in the good way, not this way ) and give you a second look. Of course, this will be paired with a GREAT profile picture, and a GREAT profile. How can she resist!?
Creating your online dating username is not something you should do hastily. Your username is essentially your online personal brand! If you consider your online dating profile to be your personal advertising tool in the dating world, your username is your brand 8767 s mission statement. Creating your username is actually the second most important step to finding and attracting your ideal partner online. The first step if you didn 8767 t already know, is to have an attractive online dating profile photo to catch attention in the first place. Without a great photo the chances are your username won’t even matter.
• SensibleShopper – Here’s a woman who can balance a check book.
• AdventurousAsian – Someone who can keep me on my toes and we share similar culture.
• TrailBlazingEnglishman – Another cultural hint with an exciting person.
• JoyfulKiwi – Now she sounds fun!
• PersonablePaddler – So you’re creating curiosity with the word “paddler” and who doesn 8767 t want to meet a personable type?
Keep It Clean
A common mistake is trying too hard to sound sexy and instead just sounding like the kind of person who frequents sex chat rooms. It is best to avoid overtly sexual connotations or racy language in your username and online profile as it may attract the wrong kind of women, unless you are registering with a specialist introduction site or only looking for sexual liaisons.
PRO : Inoffensive and uncontroversial
CON : Booooring! All this tells me is that you 8767 re a dude (probably) who 8767 s named Jeremy (probably) who may or may not have been born and/or graduated and/or created this profile in 6987. Er. This is not useful data. Life is short and there are waaaay too many dudes online you 8767 re competing with you 8767 ve got to find a way to stand out a bit more than this. So don 8767 t just go sticking in the number of your birth year or area code or whatever. Numbers = not remotely compelling, unless you manage to work the Fibonacci sequence in there and you 8767 re an actual mathematician or something. That would make them relevant and witty, and likely to stand out to similarly math-minded gals.
What Ben said doesn 8767 t show respect for women, it 8767 s incredibly misognystic. He 8767 s slut shaming women who have sexual autonomy and so are you. It doesn 8767 t show insecurity if a woman wants to show off her body, it shows confidence in her body. I expect this kind of rhetoric from men, but it always irritates me when I see women buying into this patriarichal bullshit and hating on other women.
I came up with TTraveller in the hopes that someone would treat it like a puzzle and unravel it kind of a test to see who was smart enough to figure out what I was getting at. Sadly, no one ever has apparently most people are pretty literal, and don 8767 t spend any time thinking about things like that. I 8767 ve even had women write me and criticize me for 8775 spelling the word wrong. 8776 Oh, well, another bright idea that didn 8767 t work.
Not everyone has a skill for coming up with sharp and witty usernames. However, as you watch comedies, or listen to comedians, or read a funny/interesting articles, keep your ears open to hear anything that might inspire you to come up with a great, catchy username. Spend some time to do a little research. Look at other usernames on different dating profiles. See which ones you like and which ones you think are bad, and that will help you figure out a better username for yourself. I don 8767 t suggest you plagiarize, but there is nothing wrong from getting inspiration from the other profiles 8767 usernames. A few that stood out for me were: 8775 addtoshoppingcart 8775 , 8775 ihatefoodies 8776 , 8775 piratehooker 8775 , 8775 notadinnerwhore 8775 , 8775 virgin-mary 8775 , and 8775 sugarfreedaddy 8776 .
Fourteen percent of users surveyed by Herring included gender identifiers in their avatars. Among men, "son," "mrman," and "hulk" were used among women, "girl," "queen," "gal," "goddess," and "woman" were popular. Compared with the IRC data, trends among OKCupid users were generally similar across genders. In the 6999 survey, women were more likely to identify with their genders, and men were more likely to use humorous or random names or words to represent themselves.
People gloss over this one too often, and maybe it’s because we’re in a time when people tend to use their real names, or variations thereof, in many of their online interactions. But it wasn’t always that way. Remember back to when picking your AIM username was a serious task? It was your identity, your marker, and you’d better be happy with picking “DMX678” because you could be stuck with it for years.
Keep It Positive
Don 8767 t use negative statements in your usernames. You always want to portray yourself as a positive, happy person that men or women will love to be around. Negativity, rudeness and depression do not entice women unless of course you are into the black arts! For example: “mrlonelyman”, mrunlucky”, “still looking” etc paint a sad desperate picture. These will turn off any lighthearted and fun loving dates. Also avoid screen names that self deprecate such as “ThickGuy”.
I don’t attribute this to an alignment of stars, to the mercy of the web gods and goddesses, or even to OKC’s algorithm, which supposedly uses questions such as “What’s worse, book burning or flag burning?” to determine how suited you are for other users. Instead, I chalk up my positive online dating experiences -- which, with the exception of a brazen date who rudely shushed fellow theatergoers (referred to amongst my friends henceforth as “the shusher”), has been without horror stories -- to my careful evaluation of a potential match’s username before arranging a date. Puns and hyper-masculine references were mostly no-gos. They were, to me, the pseudonym equivalent of a cheesy pickup line. Much more appealing were earnest self-depictions or vague, consciously nonsensical noun mish-mashes. They represented a dry humor than aligns with my own.
Your username in an online dating profile matters more than you might realize. I know, I know none of the sites make it clear enough. None of them force you really take time to think about that step, or let you fill out the other aspects of your profile while you ponder the all-important 8775 username 8776 field and come back to it once the creative juices are flowing. Dating sites are a work in progress. But trust me: usernames MATTER. Don 8767 t create a totally random one that you gave a mere second 8767 s thought!
Hey eDoc, I really appreciate the help with the online profile examples. I 8767 m new to the online dating world and honestly I havent had much luck yet. Untill I saw your examples, I couldnt figure out why I wasnt getting any respondses. Now I know its because I need to change my whole set up around. Its hard to figure out what to write and not write in my profile because 6, Im not bad looking, and 7 i do lead a pretty interesting life. Obviously I just suck at making profiles lol. I still need some help on organization and describing myself. Im going to keep working on it and hopefully change my luck soon! Thanks for all the info so far and hopefully I can keep learning. Joey
FeelsAwesome: Is he talking about sex already?
IReallyDoExist: Does he have low self-esteem?
SmallWood: Does this guy have a small penis?
JohnVice: Does this guy have a vice like a drug problem?
DemonWrath: Ummmm (you can draw your conclusion)
DaGift7Womens: Yo Yo, will dis gangsta ask her on a date den pop some caps?
Another way to make it is to create a handle that contains a subtle reference or inside joke. For example, 8775 IceMan 8776 could be a handle for someone who loves action films or has a connection with planes. People who have seen ‘Top Gun’ the film in which this character appears, would get the reference immediately. A side benefit to choosing a username this way is that it can often generate a conversation when people ask you what your username refers to.
I am not a fan of usernames that suggest that all there is to you is a certain hobby or a certain interest that you like to engage. This is why I would suggest that you avoid such usernames as 8775 NYCrunner 8776 or 8775 photographyjunkie 8776 or 8775 scubadiver75 8776 , or 8775 mathteacher656 8776 . As fascinating as the underlying activity is, when you make it sound like your life revolves around it, it automatically makes you sound less interesting to many, if not most, of the readers of your profile.
Natalie says: “When I’m window shopping for guys online, I pass over 99% of them. They have the most ridiculous photos and names. Just look at this guy LoverBoy69 he’s cute but that name (She shakes her head and rolls her eyes in disappointment) I wouldn’t even look at his profile. And look at this – John666897, that’s so plain and what’s with all the numbers?