Posted: 2017-12-08 01:34
The photos. My god the photos. You have never see such beautiful women in your life. Only trouble is, they are fake. fake. fake. They start with a professional photo session, with tons of makeup and then they photoshop the image into someone that you would not recognize if she were staring you in the face. When you finally realize this beautiful, woman is pushing 95-55 years old and can 8767 t possibly look this good, you ask for more everyday 8775 normal 8776 photos. Well, they knew you would ask and they have those waiting for you, prepared in advance just for you. And heavily photoshopped.
Cooking, and intimacy= 5
Catering and buying things for a man
Anyone can do that like people that already does thar!! If this post is about promiting white women to black men, the guy might accept them while on the side flirting with a blavk woman because they don 8767 t like easy women thats controlled soo easily , they like independent black women , the glowing flawless ageless skin, natural plumped butt, their soul, they sing dance braid do hair, so ill say, nada!!! Nice try though!!
But in truth, I don t want to lead. I just want to think I m worth a damn. Confidence is not my issue, it s self worth. The two are related, no doubt, but I couldn t ignore the voice in my head telling me to stop lying to myself and others. I have good posture, I talk slow and steady, I breath slow, my shoulders are fine. I just really don t think confidence is my issue anymore.
The other common mistake that the height-deficient make is assuming that they 8767 re rejected in advance. This pre-rejection theory quickly becomes either an excuse to not approach (thus guaranteeing that nothing happens) or colors the entire interaction (ditto). Approaching anyone , whether online or in person, with the attitude of 8775 I know you don 8767 t like me 8776 is going to kill any potential attraction, no matter how awesome you may be otherwise. A shitty attitude, whether angry and aggressive or defeated and negative, will nuke any chance of sex or love faster than telling them that you eat live puppies.
Haha, yep, most of the women I ve dated have been on the heavier side. And I ve heard a number of people make comments to the effect of how my type tends to go for your type. Not sure exactly what it is psychology? biology? gender nonconformity? conditioning? but I do feel that simply deciding not to worry about relative size was indeed a factor for me. It didn t start out as my #6 preference, but it quickly became a significant and lasting one. Which is why I m always a little skeptical when people say you can t help who you re attracted to. Sometimes there s just no attraction even if you do give it a shot (and I know this firsthand), but grownups can absolutely develop new tastes, if they are reasonably open to new experiences, receptive to good overall vibes, and looking for reasons to say yes instead of no.
Some people mean that, some people, like me want a more quiet confidence, an ease, a demonstration of a true comfort in one s own self worth. And from that comes an ability to appreciate others (namely me 🙂 ). Though I do think, yes, a general high self-esteem is required in order to be confident. One has to think well of oneself in order to be confident in oneself, certainly. But high self esteem doesn t mean thinking one is better than others. That s arrogance. Not the same thing.
Your case is a great example: 5 9 is about average height for a man, and at that height it s easy to come across as even taller with the right attitude. In real life, your height is only an issue if you make it one. But on dating sites, women who automatically filter out anyone under six feet (a preference I personally don t get, but whatever) aren t going to realize this, because they re never even going to meet you.
This blog also made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was fat, bald, ugly, deformed or had a rotten personality. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height. Not a one even bothered to put forth the effort to get to know me much less date me.
It doesn t. But maybe he s done something that they haven t. If what he s done someone else also did and it didn t work for them, okay, cool, then they need to find something else. But someone else might be doing something different and then Lee offers some suggestions and they go, Oh hey, okay I ll give it a shot. It s the blanket dismissal that is annoying. If you say, You know I tried it and it didn t work for me then cool.
It might very well be your neck of the woods, but who knows. I will point out though 7 items I gleaned from your mention of those 7 players. One is, they seem to have preselection working for them. Other women have sung their praises, which inteague others. So these guys must have something that allows them to do well with women. My guess, they have a reputation of being very good in bed. I have known players that have nothing going for them other than a reputation for being well hung. I am curious to know what these women who go home with them look like though, but that 8767 s beside the point.
You still haven t answered me about the kind of confidence your unattractive friends demonstrate. It s one thing if someone is confident in their skills but not confident with people. That is definitely something that will hold you back. When I say confident, I mean confident in all areas. I mean confident in pretty much every situation. Not good at everything, not perfect, but just so at ease with himself that failing isn t a humiliation, and not getting the girl isn t a sign of his lack of worth. Again, I agree, I think you need to have outside validation to get there for sure, but I also think there are certain kinds of people who just assume the worst of everyone and every situation and they become a self fulfilling prophecy.
I basically agree, though it is a bit obnoxious when women on online dating sites end their profile with only 6 or taller! or only taller than me!. I m usually above the minimum height at 5 65 , by the way, so it wouldn t affect me personally, but still it comes off poorly IMO. I imagine it s similar to how a guy s profile comes off when he writes no fatties! in it. Yeah, it s fine to have that preference but you don t have to obnoxious about it. Just don t message/respond to people who don t fit the criteria.
This charismatic definition you are using is actually I think the reason many women end up with assholes (as the nice guys so often bemoan). It s not that they are looking for assholes, they simply misinterpret charismatic behaviour as confident behaviour. They think arrogance = confidence. I will say I rather pride myself on my ability to sort the wheat from the chaff. I sometimes think I need to teach a course to women about how to find truly confident men, as opposed to the men who use the screen of confidence to hide their deep seated insecurities (which often manifest in such personality types as abuse).
Wait, what? The exact job, sense of humour etc was in relation to Lee not some wider social spectrum. . Lee 8767 s personal experience and the advice from it would only be *directly* applicable to someone who was an exact clone of him. I mean how many times have people on here being told they might have to move to find people more suited to them? How is that any different to what I 8767 m saying?
It must be SO difficult to work on. I mean, I have my own delightful set of issues I am working on with my therapist and those are hard enough. Not even liking myself though? That would be 655x more difficult. I don t have any advice or anything aside from just keep trying. The one thing I will say is I ve gone through so many shrinks (said with affection) in my time that I can t actually count them. And it s only NOW that I ve found one that works for me. It is simply a matter of never quitting working at it no matter how impossible and frustrating it can seem.
Then my husband(we 8767 d only been married about a couple months at that point came got even angrier once she saw my husband and then started punching at me. I pretty much just blocked her punches and grabbed her arm away from me. I 8767 m not a violent person and don 8767 t hit back even when someone is hitting me unless my life is danger. My husband and several other men restrained her. She then went on a rant about how much she hated blonde hair blue eyed white girls and how blonde hair blue eyed white girls were stealing their men. I then said to her? Calm down. No need to be so hateful. It 8767 s not our fault we 8767 re beautiful and you 8767 re not and all your men want us and we love them back. Why can 8767 t you just be greatful you won this race. You proved you 8767 re obviously a better runner then me. Here you are now acting as if this was a beauty contest which it 8767 s not. 8776 I tried to congratulate you on your victory but you are just so hateful because I 8767 m so much beautiful and loved by men of all races then you are. 8776
And yes, I can absolutely understand that lack of computation. For me I have learned SO much about the thought processes about the people who post here, many of whom at first I could not fathom. I think listening to others is a big part of it. I might not always agree with the conclusions people draw, but the reasoning for those conclusions offers a great insight into how they look at and approach life. I m still learning though 🙂.
I hear you. No matter how nice we try to be to black women they always so angry and jealous at just for being beautiful and all their men wanting to be with us. I don 8767 t hate black women. I don 8767 t hate anyone for that matter. i always try my best to get along with everyone. Most, not all but the overwhelming vast majority of black women just hate us beautiful blondies and are nasty to us no matter how nice we are to them. As nasty as a lot of them are I still don 8767 t hate or even dislike them. i really wish they could get over their jealousy and accept the fact that men of all races including their men love and want us and stop hating us for it.
Am I getting robbed here or not, Andrew? I cannot tell. It can be either way. Is it possible that she is just a liar, that she is instead on another cam site, that she writes this way to many other stupid Americans or Europeans (but four pages each to everyone every night?). Or is it true that she wanted the contact with me because I treated her so good already in the webcam chat room, and I was so understanding and encouraging?
You 8767 re falling into that false narrative. Women do not go for men just because they 8767 ve got big d*cks. Having a big dick only gives a guy bonus points..but a woman will not choose to have sex with a man just because he has a big d*ck. How many times have you heard of the guy on that dating site who brags about how hung he is, even sends out pictures of his d*ck to the women, only to end up with his own hand down his pants, not hers.