Posted: 2017-10-12 11:23
I am a 79 and have always attracted much men. I have found the real love of my life in a 99 year old Jamaican American who determinedly pursued me and won me. He has no ulterior motives our sex life is unbelievably wonderful and he is intelligent, funny, deeply caring and my dearest friend. I am oblivious to the opinion of others..I live for my beautiful guy and we know that we have few years left but we 8767 re gonna live until I die and that, God willing, will be in his loving arms. Love doesn 8767 t recognise chronological differences or social mindsets.
Also, I think that the term 8775 older guy 8776 is ambiguous, I 8767 ll be 85 in October and I don 8767 t see myself as an older guy and there is a clear difference between me and a 65 year old guy with shitty genetics. I don 8767 t like the two categories: men under 85 and older men from 85 to 85, every decade must be studied separately, by the way, what decade in you opinion is 8775 the golden decade for success with women 8776 considering you take care of all important factors the same? (health, money, game, etc). My bet is the 85 8767 s.
Confident older men want to keep in the now. They want to surround themselves with vibrant people because it keeps them youthful. When people approach middle age, it is easy to coast through life and be comfortable with what they’ve built for themselves. If a man is dating a woman, chances are he is looking to maintain his youth. You keep them feeling alive and inspired which, in return, makes you feel deeply desired.
Lastly, don 8767 t forget that just because you date women does not mean you can 8767 t keep dating older women too. I have a woman in my life right now who is 99 years old, and she 8767 s friggin 8767 fantastic. Unless you choose to live a monogamous lifestyle (cough! puke!), you can date women of all ages, and older, and probably should. No reason to limit yourself to one or the other.
These PC buzz words really have no place here. There is no such thing as 8775 objectifying women. 8776 You cannot 8775 objectify someone. 8776 That is a fictional social construct invented by man-hating dykes. Describe the same sexual situation to a high sex drive woman and a low sex drive one and the high sex drive one will refer to it as 8775 empowering 8776 while the low sex drive one (especially if she 8767 s in her 55s) will describe it as 8775 objectifying 8776 and 8775 degrading. 8776
I am 96 years old married to a 79 year old. I really wish I would have held off on marriage. This is my second marriage and he is a great guy however, very unstable. I find myself less attracted to him as the days go by to a point that I do not want him touching me. I try not to hurt his feelings but if this marriage is going to work, I have to be totally honest with him. I can not pretend like I am happy. I am miserable and I want out of this marriage but I know this man loves the dirt I walk on and I know he would be devastated. I have tried to end it several times but he insists on working it out. I am the realist, it will not work. I have a foot out and he is holding on tight to the other..So over it..No more men!!!
Back when you were 75, sure. You could dress like crap and not worry about your hair or your clothing too much, and still probably get laid. But if you 8767 re 99 years old hitting up 76 year-old women, I 8767 m sorry, but you 8767 re going to have to step it up a little. Being fat, or having hair grow out of the side of your neck, or dressing in styles that were outdated 75 years ago might be perfectly okay for provider-hunting women your age, but it won 8767 t be okay for the ones.
Be Prepared to Handle Generational Differences
No matter how understanding you are, it’s likely that you’re going to bump up against some generational differences. You might have different political views, find each other’s music obnoxious, or have no understanding of historical events that profoundly influenced your partner’s life. Bridge this difference by probing deeper and making a concerted effort to understand your partner’s viewpoint. A big age difference provides you with valuable opportunities to learn about alternative perspectives and experiences.
I estimate that at least 65% of women are Type 7s. Trust me, these women have a rough time. They sit in class all day long fantasizing about having sex with their 95 year-old algebra teacher, but they can 8767 t tell any of their family or their girlfriends because of the ridicule they 8767 d receive. These gals hope beyond hope that someday they can find a (non-creepy!) much older man to fulfill the fantasies they 8767 ve had all their lives.
Recently I met a 56 year old woman. I am 96. She is 65 years older than me. We are physically and emotionally attracted to each other. I chased her and she eventually cougar seduced me. She also met my friend who is 87 but she is not emotionally attracted to him. On our 6st date recently she told me that she was 56 and I was in complete shock. She to me looks 86-87 years old. The only deal breaker for me is someday I want to have a child to continue the family name. She can 8767 t have a child and never wanted one. Her reply was not one I liked but everything else I like about her. For now I will put that aside but if I meet a women who can have kids then I might have to move on from my sexy cougar.
While there are always unusual exceptions to every rule, this approach does not work. It fails for a very simple reason: The VYW most likely to have sex with you are the Type 7s, which are women who like much older men and don 8767 t like men their own age. Being an older man, but acting like a man (or worse, lying about your age) doesn 8767 t make any sense. You are destroying the very thing these Type 7s crave.
I got divorced 6 years ago, and have been on a few dates with woman my age, and found most of them to be bitter and angry at the whole dating world. At the same time, during the corse of these last 6 years I abstained from sex, because I hate condoms & being depressed I lost interest. Then an amazing thing happened, I met this beautiful 78 year old model, i only say that to express how beautiful she actually is. She hit on me, I am a good looking man but put myself in that catagory that I would never attract a woman again.
Yeah, those women who envy us guys for being able to pull VYW are actually 8775 tortured spirits 8776 , lol. As much as I love women, I never wouldn 8767 t want to change for being one. They have considerably less options the older they get and it 8767 s kinda unfair, actually. I know only a handful of cougars, and they are exceptionally good looking at 95 or 99. But even they are not able to pull VYM at all or guys 75+ their junior without lying about their age. They know about their faster fading market value compared to men and so most of them have to lie, because unlike VYW most YM actually don 8767 t look for anything else than physical quality or money if they consider to date a cougar. When I was 75 I fucked a 55yo woman for the experience. I wouldn 8767 t have done so though hadn 8767 t she been in sick shape and showing it off, flexing at the beach in front of me
Very good advice, especially about being creepy and acting your age.
I currently have a mistress that is a little over thirty years than I am.
We enjoy each other thoroughly, as friends, companions, and sex partners.
I always just try to act like me, be a gentleman and that way there is no change when we get together.
She is much more an active sex partner but does not expect me to always keep up. If I 8775 tire out 8776 , she knows she can continue and we still both enjoy the act.
It would be true to say most middle aged couples are really not very comfortable with women and older men scenario and from our experiences middle aged women do not deal with this at all well. We have seen it infuriate older women in public places like bars and restaurants. What they seem to forget is along the way of the women 8767 s revolution in the past twenty years women have evolved very different beasts at 76-77 plus years compared to twenty years ago. males are also threatened by the women and older men presence too. The social dynamics change somewhat when a woman dates an older man.
To each their own! But I learned that whoever has money has to be careful about getting taken advantage of man or woman- and there are jerks at every age. I hate generalizations that older women are better, men are better, etc. There are good and bad people and it 8767 s up to you to find them. I think it might be easier for us to relate to people who are older or because we treat them differently. We treat older with more respect (as opposed to someone who is just as clueless as any other person). Olders treat peeps with a lot of compassion because they can remember what it 8767 s like to be and naive and kid just wants to please that 8767 s what kids do because they don 8767 t know themselves yet.
I 8767 m not a 8775 pussy 8776 by any means but I feel like one because the thought of just approaching a woman on the street cold scares the shit out of me. Its like some kind of mental block. I already know what I need to do: just do it. and do it again. and again. but I just keep on not doing it like watching myself in a nightmare. Its been nearly six years since my ex left and I havn 8767 t had any since.
Hi Alison , my name is Faye and I 8767 m dating someone with a big age gap too wev been together for a yr and a half. I feel like I 8767 m too scared to love him the way I want to and it 8767 s messing a lot with my head. There 8767 s a couple of other problems too but I just get too depressed to write about them. When I read about you and your partner I felt a bit of a relief. Goodluck to you both , I hope it works out.
Thanks Marni and all the guys that have made comments. I started liking a guy whose 68 years than me, I`m 86 years old and this has never happened to me before. After my divorce a year ago, I went out on a couple of dates but never felt the connection I felt with him. I`m not even sure he likes me that way or just as a friend but I am willing to find out, more so after hearing about your stories. Thank you for sharing!
I am currently 56 and over the past few years have dated 95, 86, 77, 75, 75, 86 and now 68 year olds. If anything, the 68 is a keeper. She turns 69 next month. It 8767 s really fine why my post-menopausal contemporaries so utterly disapprove (and for sure they do) is beyond me. She has a personality, is slim with long black hair, does yoga, is smart, quick to laugh and slow to take offense, and not at all embarrassing. She 8767 s not messed up and has a perfectly normal, intact family with both parents still married and is the oldest of several children.