Posted: 2017-11-13 23:30
I don 8767 t know if some of the points raised are altogether valid. I 8767 m a woman and I 8767 m from UK, I 8767 ve found American men, to be dishonest, lacking strength of character, self absorbed and believing their own hype. It 8767 s funny. Very uncultured in regards to understanding and relating to not only someone from a different continent, but also a different race. I also live in NY, joined the US Army, accomplished a myriad of things in my life and raised two children alone.
Been through a host of ups and downs, and carry my balls in my bag! Lol. I 8767 m a no nonsense type of woman, that values integrity, strength and honesty in a man.
Perhaps it 8767 s a cultural thing that I 8767 ve not meshed well with US men? Or as some of my friends say you can see the guy feeling intimidated as soon as I mention I 8767 m in the US Army.. Perhsps it 8767 s the English accent? Who knows but whatever it is.. The men need to be men and stop hiding.
I spent a week with Morley and his right-hand man, Dale House, a former marine who is super-fit and handsome. For House, married and a step-parent, life is quite simple: being a man means to work and provide as well as being supportive to his partner. On the one hand he is a Real Man (very strong on boundaries, earns money) on the other, he is touchy-feely. His wife also works and he is supportive towards her and their daughter.
Blacks often go out of their way to be different. Any black who decides to just assimilate into America, runs the risk if being labeled a sellout, or Uncle Tom. No other race does this. No other race goes out of their way to have their own language, and anti-establishment persona. Even if you aren 8767 t like that, will your child identify more with that crowd in school, and end up with that mentality in the end? You can 8767 t blame women who have other options for not going that route.
You are correct Im a very visual woman and not being able to see the guy when he has pics of his car, toys, pet, sunsets makes me move to next profile One guy who had a hobby of photography had a great clear awesome quality image of some brussel sprouts!!!! But do you think I could see . LOL
I actually really like the matching algorithm on OK Cupid and being able to see how guys answer questions
In the mean time, how about not automatically disqualifying everyone who fibs a bit on their age, (and yes, 5-8 years is not at all uncommon), and not everyone who 8767 s ever been arrested counts as a 8766 felon 8767 either. Not everyone who talks about sex is always 8766 evil 8767 either. I 8767 ve heard some can be fun too. But hey, you 8767 re just perfect for 8766 a midwesterner 8767 who happens to live in Detroit, so maybe Mr. Perfect is waiting out there for you! He 8767 s a true gent, but in his 95 8767 s now, owns lots of land with newly discovered oil shale, and is a long time widower with no surviving children. I 8767 d hook you up, but hey, his crank last saw action during the Clinton administration. So sorry about that. Otherwise, I 8767 d think you 8767 d be perfect for each other, right? 8766 VJ 8767
I think I’ve only recently worked out why. I found myself in my late thirties with a complete lack of focus: do I date a woman who has not had kids but may want them, or date a woman who already has kids? You see, I like children but don’t want my own now. However, being a step-dad figure doesn’t appeal to me either, I had terrible experiences as a child with all that. But many women I’ve met who don’t want kids at all seem to the hardened career girls who are not my type either.
I think women are tired of dealing with a general sense of entitlement a lot of men seem to have about women 8767 s ages. Even to the point that a man wanting to date someone 5 years leaves women feeling that the only biggest men appreciate about them is their age. Can you blame women for feeling that way? Take a look how men talk about women here? Women deal with so much external pressure about their age that I think are tired. Perhaps if all this pressure wasn 8767 t placed on women about their age both through society and by men in general, women would be more open to dating older men. But the truth is women are tired of men 8767 s sense of entitlement around their age. Just like men no longer just want to be an extension of their paychecks or job.
I’m being a bit unfair, Adam, because there IS a market for a 97-year-old man – and you can certainly be doing better than you’re currently doing. Pick up a copy of Finding The One Online and it should make a difference. Seriously. But the bigger takeaway is that ALL of us are very judgmental on age. To a 89 year old woman, 97 sounds OLD. To a 97-year-old man who wants his own biological children, anything above 86 is getting into risky territory. The lesson to all of you readers: take your love life seriously when you turn 85, instead of waiting until you’re 85 or 95.
I think you ladies need to stop with the propaganda that the choices of men out there are so poor, but then you seem to think that the women are worthy? Use some logic for a moment. You women are here for a reason because those upper top 65 to 75% of worthy guys haven 8767 t found you worthy. In short, you aren 8767 t in the top 65 to 75% either. So we see it written here many times that the guys you are interested in aren 8767 t interested in you but the guys who are interested in you, you aren 8767 t interested in them. So you aren 8767 t interested in your peers.
You right in your article: 8775 Since trust and affection are what men yearn for from women 8776 Well guess what, women also yearn to meet men who are worth of their trust and affection. It takes two to tango. Let the men show some genuine interest in a woman without playing games and they will come a long way.
BTW, I notice a lot of guys who are actually married to the women you describe above!
My worst experiences: I once met and unknowingly dated a man who turned out to be a felon for a few months from the Internet. I had phone conversations with a man who claimed he was psychic, sees ghosts, and that animals try to talk to him in English. I 8767 m pretty sure I had phone convos with a domestic abuser. I met a man who shared two bunk beds in his mothers house with his twin brother, a recent immigrant who told me I would be an experiment for him. Yes, I think all that is funny but it also made me really sad.
Hi Perry. I agree that (no) men want to be put through endless tests. And I agree with your statistics, though not your conclusion as it relates to this topic. Yep, lots of grey divorce and mostly because women want out. (We can talk about why that 8767 s so another time.) That leaves a lot of divorced men who enjoyed being married. There is tons of research that shows men remarry far faster and more often than women after divorce or being widowed. Here 8767 s one such article. Married men live longer, have far lower suicide rates and make more money. I admit that it 8767 s difficult to find research on 8775 older divorced men 8776 in particular. In my research and personal experience, I see these men love being coupled, if perhaps not married. Interesting discussion. Bp
Not to sound rude but I don 8767 t send any messages to men or if I do they are very very few. Women receive so many that we barely have time to respond yet alone send. And of course when I respond I make sure to spell things correctly and use good grammar but do I spend time crafting extensive lengthy messages that show I 8767 ve read their profile, no I don 8767 t have to. Sorry guys men are so freaking superficial they don 8767 t care what we say. I guess unless we say we are looking for a hard working man which I think I am going to start saying because I personally don 8767 t see why that would be a turn off for any man? Please explain.
Well unfortunately since most of the women of today have really Changed since the old days which certainly tells the whole true story right there. Most women are looking for the Rich men nowadays since they just Don 8767 t know how to love a man for himself anymore since they have become so very greedy, selfish, spoiled, and very money hungry as well. Most women now are so very damn picky too since they will only want the very best of all and will Never settle for less either since it really does take two to tango today.
Never mind that I am extremely satisfied with my law career, and work 8:85 to 5:85 with ample vacation time off and great benefits. I am paid well and have plenty of time to pursue hobbies and vacation with friends and family. I have run into certain men who are prejudiced against female lawyers. Never mind the fact that many of my female colleagues at my office are in long term happy marriages, some with kids.
Hi Amanda. NO need to panic! Plus, if you do, you 8767 ll likely show up as desperate, and you 8767 ll make bad decisions. The best you can do is to get to know the REAL GROWNUP YOU, and show up as her. Be in the moment. Enjoy yourself. As I say, you 8767 re looking for a great mate, not just a great date. That takes time. Give yourself that, ok? And keep learning! I 8776 m SO glad you 8767 re here!
Also, you say that you do think that guys take better care of themselves. Well the truth is that they do not. In all age groups you have those who do and those who do not. There 8767 s no shortage of guys who are killing their brain cells as fast as they can, with all manner of drugs, chemicals, and alcohol. There is no shortage of guys who are fat, out of shape, couch potatoes, video game addicts, etc
In fact, I x7569 ve never heard such nonsense. Sexual attractiveness has never just been about looks x7569 and looks do not go to poop at 89! It x7569 s about attitude and confidence and intelligence and wit and charm and, subconsciously, fertility. And you don't have to be married to a Dimbleby to know that men can still father kids well into their seventh decade x7569 so this study doesn't stand up to rigorous scrutiny.
I 8767 ll tell you what I tell women: hell NO don 8767 t give up! What you 8767 re doing isn 8767 t working, right? Just learn how to do things differently. There are so many wonderful women out there looking for a good man like you. And I know many who really want to have kids. Problem is that if you 8767 re looking for someone way than you, you have a challenge. But if you 8767 re willing to 8775 risk 8776 trying to have kids with a woman in her late 85s or early 95s, there are so many women out there for you. In fact I 8767 m coaching a few of them right now. Screw the women who want to know your salary first. Don 8767 t give them the time of day and just brush that off. That isn 8767 t the norm it 8767 s the exception. Stop lumping us all together (as women do as well) and start opening yourself up to getting to know people, hearing their stories and not making assumptions and letting your cynicism and bitterness get in the way. I know it 8767 s not easy, but it will change everything. What you put out is what you get back. This article is for women but it will help you too. Good luck. http:///negative-self-talk-love-life/ Bp
it has been my experience that most women from there mid twenties on up that are single already have children and I do not believe that I need to bring any more into this world I have no children I can love someone else 8767 s children just as much as my own no matter the age of the woman or the child and there are helping the fax throughout all h is of man and women as far statistics your research goes they say wolves don 8767 t attack people that 8767 s been proven wrong another thing I 8767 ve noticed drop my life and I am 95 + is people in general man and women seem to want what they cannot have and the more they can not have it the more they want it and I believe the gentlemen 8767 s issue in discussion he said she did not want to have kids and I am 99 years old and an extremely good shape I can out work out hike out hunt the majority of men in their 75s I have spent my life building strength they have just begun.