Posted: 2017-11-14 17:02
I find myself too in what u wrote. I think the pb is..well..it’s not a pb, it’s more like a cause, at least from what i noticed at me, is that maybe we are too empathetic. Maybe we just give too much in our social moments. Maybe we care too much. Unfortunately i cant seem to find a best part in being an extroverted introvert. I think i’m too complicated. The worse part is, for ex i currently work for a corporation and i’ve been told that i should change my attitude. That i should smile more (all the time if possible) that i should be more of a a$$kisser, in other words. That sometimes i look very tired etc. I gotta admit this is a job which i do mostly for the money but still, i always invested 655% of my energy in doing something. I mean i try to give my best there. Maybe i should go for something which i really enjoy doing. But it’s not so easy. Advices anyone? Do u think this pb is related to the fact that i am an extroverted introvert?
i personally dont feel the need to do social stuff, i just feel that i should not always wear the clothing of an introvert, i feel like i should be seen doing normal socials, i really don’t care especially when its not fun. I think “social introverts” feel the need to be social for the worlds sake really not for theirs, while extreme introverts dont really care about looking social. Nevertheless i have mood swings i could be entirely outgoing for a moment, then, just then i take advantage of this mood to do social stuff.
Some men have a different view on love and sex in fact, some men consider them mutually exclusive. In extreme cases, the emotional intimacy of love makes the act of sex more difficult because they don 8767 t equate primal, lusty passion with love. Freud called the extreme cases of this the Madonna whore complex. Not that your guy is extreme but maybe this perspective will help you decide to appreciate his love and work on it or leave because you want something different. I had an extreme husband and we couldn 8767 t make it work even though we still love each other.
I am currently on Tinder, and have been for about a month. All of the messages I have received from men have been respectful so far. I'm not sure why, but I'm guessing it has something to do with how I wrote my profile, as well as the pictures I chose to show. My profile is pretty straight forward, without being bitchy. My pictures are tasteful, and there are also some that show I am pretty jacked. I swear that after I have become more buff, men have gotten a ton more respectful. Ridiculous, but true. And no, I don't think I'm special because I'm fit, it is just a physicality.
So, being an introvert who would rather connect with someone on a much deeper level than just sharing a common interest in various, meaningless 8775 fun 8776 activities, doesn 8767 t that really mean that as an introvert, our collective opinion should really be that DATING SUCKS? Not necessarily the person you 8767 re dating, but rather the ACT of 8775 dating 8776 itself. Why can 8767 t people just meet, and figure out if they enjoy each other 8767 s company without jumping through hoops.
Find something to make you feel confident. I know that INTROVERSION and CONFIDENCE are not mutually exclusive terms. Introverted people CAN be confident confident people can be introverted. So, find whatever it is that you can get a confidence boost from. Remember something you 8767 ve accomplished that you are proud of, or of someone that complimented you on something, or if you ever had a great moment in your life where people thought you were cool because you did something cool, even if you were uncomfortable with all the attention and congratulations or whatever. Anything (caveat I DON 8767 T recommend drinking a few belts of liquor before perfoming this exercise) at all.
Hint - no woman, anywhere exists for your approval or disapproval. They don't care. At all. What you think. There is nothing you can do about that. Your opinion is not relevant to almost the entire human race. If you are exceptionally attractive you might manage to get someone to date you once or twice (because, despite the lies you have been told, women are equally visual to men and equally willing to ignore common sense to date someone hot).
Hi, Teresa: I am thnking that about my daughter who just started her freshman year in college. She is a social butterfly, but maybe she is actually introverted. Hmmmm? Wow! Maybe that is the case with my husband, as well. I thought he was an extrovert because he expresses himself so well in groups, but he does not like to go to group goings on adult get togethers, small group, etc. Whew! So much to think about. Thank you for what you shared. God continue to bless you richly!
I enjoyed your perspective on what a man needs from a woman definitely a game changer Inspiring. Thank you. I like your view on letting him know he is winning! My POV inspire him to know he is doing his best and encourage him and be that positive woman that he has put his time, effort and energy into winning. Do this because you truly want him and see that added happiness with him.
How did I do with understanding? I would like your feedback. I want to know that I am understanding where you are coming from.
I am Ms Jones. I messaged MANY men first. I am beautiful, kind and intelligent. I used the dating site in every way possible. It is not accurate to say that all women get tons of fabulous messages and wonderful invitations from countless fabulous men. There are lots of sketchy guys out the there. After 8 years, for my own protection and peace of mind, I felt it was best that I remove my profile. That's how many "super great" guys I connected with. They were all very strange and I am reluctant to try Internet dating ever again. It was a very stressful experience sharing information with perfect strangers from the Internet. My personal dating experiences were not great and one in particular was disturbing.
Excellent, honest, empowering and doable advice. Thank you!!
I have a question, if you can get to it. Im crazy about a guy but on our 7nd and last date, I was just acting weird cold and distant, trying to not let him see how much I liked him. Is there anything I can do now to fix this or undo it? He 8767 s responding to my texts in a friendly way, but not really pursuing me. I want to tell him I was not myself that night and ask him to give me another chance. Is this a good idea, or is it too much me pursuing him? Thank you.
I love to live an active life and explore. I am very passionate about helping others and I am currently in the process of putting together a fundraiser to raise money for Cystic Fibrosis by climbing Mt. Rainier. The climb is also being dedicated to one of my patients that I have become very close to who loves adventure and mountains although unfortunately his lung function prevents him from chasing his dreams due to the high altitude.
There is an incredible amount of bullshit online and having had vast experience I sd many reasons but the main 6is the women are often deluded and justseem too pass know my worth though and some nut isn't going too affect my somethings all come with baggage and if Davey use too beat you up get off match dot com and get yourself in7 had 6 tell me because I like a flutter on the horses it wasn't a match ??Who do u think yr going too meet sweet cheeks ?BradPitt?Your 55 ,68 stone and err past your sell by ,but the BS online is toooo much and im having what cd be a perma timeout from is the modern way off doing things but my God theres some idiots if they do snag a fella most are tapping away again inside a all you women out there who think yr a sex queen err your not and need 7 get pete andre once said..baby im done..ill use the more traditional methods 9 dating in future and you guys can massage yr egos hiding behind the keyboard till u actually it goes titties..Keeping it real people !!toodles x.
This guy is so funny he’s irresistible. Right from the get-go his profile starts off with a catchy line that is knee jerking funny and it doesn’t come off as too cliché or to “out there”. His profile is so humorous I don’t really care what he looks like—I want to get to know him, find out where he gets his outrageous sense of humor. He represents the kind of guy that will keep me in stitches and feeling good.
everytime i go out in groups I get drained i just find socializing so draining energy wise I always tell people that im too tired from waking up early and working out.. I give off a horrible impression that Im just a low energy party pooper.. which is actually true in some ways. The only time I can maintain full alertness and energy is when Im out one on one with someone and we make it past having just small talk. However the problem is after long meeting where we have deep meaningful discussions i always fail to contact them afterwards online apparently extroverts talk online all the time something I never do. My facebook chat is soooo empty compared to my extrovert friends
I wondered if you had any advice about finding balance between understanding men and walking away when interest levels decline and withdrawals increase. I 8767 ve read your book and I think I 8767 ve made some good choices by stepping back so far however, I still get confused about choosing what 8767 s best for me when it comes to decisions about when to let go. My own insecurities can cause me to obsess at times when I feel longing for more of the deep affection we have shared. I 8767 ve been afraid to express this at times, due to his seemingly obvious lack of interest. Then I find that when I do mentally decide to move on, he comes around or gives just enough for me to change my tune. I want to leave it all open but unfortunately, the sex added some confusion for me due to the closeness I feel after we have connected again. I won 8767 t get in to much else, but I wanted to know what your thoughts are, since neither my heart or gut are telling me anything right now. Thanks for your wonderful insights and perspectives that have helped me so much already in dealing with my own thoughts and emotions. : )
Why? Well, I already feel that she likes what I like (chances are, she wouldn’t be my girlfriend if I didn’t see the world in a similar way as I do), so sharing the things I love with her is kind of like bringing her into my world further. Plus, I get to vicariously enjoy my favorite things as if I was seeing them again for the first time vicariously through her. When a guy feels that you are intensely interested in his feelings about things he enjoys, he’ll want to share with you. The more intensely interested you are, the more he’ll want to share with you and the more he shares, the more he’ll bond with you.
so don 8767 t worry about the guy 8767 s interests or try to choose a passion he would approve of, because if it doesn 8767 t genuinely make you happy, it defeats the purpose. if you 8767 re doing something in your spare time that makes you happy and surround yourself with like-minded people, whenever you do see him, he will wonder why you 8767 re so pleasant and glowing. believe me, when you work 85 hours a week, its a great delight to spend time with a cheerful, happy, low-drama person who has better things to talk about than work.
So much of your writing, comments and observations are spot on – almost as if you knew me. I can’t wait to show this article to my (much more extrovert than me) fiancé 🙂 To be fair, he is brill and does understand a lot, it’s just you have an uncanny way of explaining things precisely as they are. Indeed I am so very grateful for how you have opened up my own eyes to my own Innie nature – sometimes things that I hadn’t realised or put into words for myself. Instead of (secretly) feeling ‘weird’ and ‘not like others/not like an extrovert ideal’ I have begun to proudly -also of course understatedly 😉 – celebrate my introverted nature. You and your approach: fun, sensitive, appealing, thoughtful, intelligent, well-researched -has played a big part in this. Thank you for doing what you do! It is SO incredibly important and appreciated by me/ us under-represented Innies. More Michaela Chungs in the world please!
I guess am an introvert but people usually mistake it as being too much of myself. I am a a chemistry teacher, confident when addressing people or expressing myself, but I just love ME time, even at home I sometimes escape from my son and husband into the a different room just for quietness, I hate small talks, worse noise from other people but I love my own music (sounds selfish) and dancing alone, I usually don’t start a conversation with a person unless the person does first. Feel of space in gatherings but sometimes push myself to dance a little (less than a minute) by a corner, I really hate NOISE up to you the point that I would feel like my blood pressure increases, I guess I might be having another condition (forgot the name) but it has to do with certain noises like some songs makes me so angry that I would pounce to switch them off, somebody chewing like a dog or drinking hot tea makes me sick, I completely loose appetite. Am not much onto social media, I only have 6 friend that I see once in 7 or 8 months, usually I go through social media to view comments and never comment, actually this is my first post!!!