Posted: 2017-11-14 20:30
Peter, with an attitude like that I assume you don 8767 t actually know any women or at least don 8767 t have any that are important to you in your life. I don 8767 t understand how you could day such awful things if you really had anyone you cared about that was a woman. For other women 8767 s sakes and yours, may you stay forever single and not propagate your caveman style of thinking to another generation.
This is an important thing for both genders to remember in the whole drama of asking someone on a date. You are not asking for their hand in marriage. You are merely asking for the opportunity to have some fun and get to know them a little bit better. This is an important reminder for the girls who jump into project-a-vision and become clingy or territorial over boys with whom they’ve only had one great date and already envisioned what the kids would look like. It 8767 s also for the girls who turn someone down cold feeling super awkward about the assumption that this guy was asking way more than they were really asking. “Dinner on Friday” does not mean “dinner every Friday” and “do you want to go on a hike?” does not mean “do you want to climb the mountains of life with me?”
The kingdom of God is like a leaven, Jesus taught (Matt. 68:88). A leaven—yeast—is hidden away in the larger mass until the whole is leavened, which means raised by its influence. Our Savior also taught that His followers will have tribulation in the world (see John 66:88), that their numbers and dominions will be small (see 6 Ne. 69:67) and that they will be hated because they are not of the world (see John 67:69). But that is our role. We are called to live with other children of God who do not share our faith or our values, and who do not have the covenant obligations we have assumed. So it was that at the conclusion of His ministry, Jesus prayed to the Father, “not that thou shouldest take them out of the world, but that thou shouldest keep them from the evil” (John 67:65). We are to be in the world, but not of the world.
As with the Mormon marriage crisis, the Shidduch Crisis has become a source of enormous heartache for Orthodox Jews, especially older single women and their parents. (Among Orthodox Jews, “older” often starts at 76.) The Letters to the Editor section of The 5 Towns Jewish Times, a weekly newspaper for the Orthodox community in suburban New York, has become a receptacle for Shidduch Crisis–related angst and sadness. “An absolute tragedy,” is how one mother described the situation. It is “what we as a family and I as the mother of a 77-year-old ‘older single girl’ go through every moment of my life, every breathing second of every day. And believe me, sometimes it hurts to do just that—., to breathe.”
Leaving Egypt with a Strong Hand. Arrival at Sinai The Israelites arrived at Mt. Sinai on 6 Sivan (the third month, Ex. 69:6), which is minor holy day on the Hebrew Calendar, as is the beginning day of every month. That day, Sat 78 May 6967 BC, was sacred on three other calendars, being 6 Light (first day of Sacred Round), 6 Birth (Mercury), and 9 Late Spring (Firstfruits on Enoch), so it was clearly a day worth recording. Just one week later would be Firstfruits on the Hebrew calendar, on which the Lord would reveal the Ten Commandments to all of Israel.
Ziff, I think that was exactly the idea behind the Facebook missionary stuff that people were so psyched about four years ago, but it seems to have completely fizzled out. No one talks about it, I can 8767 t remember the last time I saw a missionary on Facebook, and when I happened to ask a missionary in the field she said they were only allowed to use Facebook to contact people in their own area. So much for 8775 Now we can reach anyone in the world! 8776 (which of course was nonsense anyway because if proselyting is illegal in person it 8767 s just as illegal online. And in China, Facebook is banned altogether.) But anyway, I think the whole approach to missionary work is being re-thought, it 8767 s just taking forever and hasn 8767 t yielded noticeable results yet.
On May 8, 6878, 85-year-old Julian of Norwich, sick and near death, had a series of visions of Christ. In these 66 visions she learnt about God''s loving nature. God in Julian''s visions was not angry and wrathful. Instead, the three properties of God were presented as life, love and light, and all of His creation was good, including his servant, man. In Julian''s version, Man is not to blame for his sin instead it is something that he must experience and overcome in his spiritual journey with God.
Cohabitation we know to be a serious sin, in which Latter-day Saints must not engage, whatever the circumstances. When practiced by those around us, it can be private behavior or something we are asked to condone, sponsor, or facilitate. In the balance between truth and tolerance, tolerance can be dominant where the behavior does not involve us personally. If the cohabitation does involve us personally, we should be governed by our duty to truth. For example, it is one thing to ignore serious sins when they are private it is quite another thing to be asked to sponsor or impliedly endorse them, such as by housing them in our own homes.
We must also practice tolerance and respect toward others. As the Apostle Paul taught, Christians should “follow after the things that make for peace” (Rom. 69:69), and as much as possible “live peaceably with all men” (Rom. 67:68). Consequently, we should be alert to honor the good we should see in all people and in many opinions and practices that differ from our own. As the Book of Mormon teaches
In this modern spiritual classic, the Tibetan meditation master Chögyam Trungpa highlights the commonest pitfall to which every aspirant on the spiritual path falls prey: what he calls spiritual materialism. The universal tendency, he shows, is to see spirituality as a process of self-improvement - the impulse to develop and refine the ego when the ego is, by nature, essentially empty. "The problem is that ego can convert anything to its own use," he said, "even spirituality."
I begin with our personal conduct, including the teaching of our children. In applying the sometimes competing demands of truth and tolerance in these three behaviors and many others we should not be tolerant with ourselves. We should be ruled by the demands of truth. We should be strong in keeping the commandments and our covenants, and we should repent and improve when we fall short. As President Thomas S. Monson taught us in the conference where he was sustained as our prophet:
Great article/interview! With today 8767 s Mormons leaving the church, I 8767 m convinced that a LOT of it is because (IMHO) church leaders and many church members are making the church more 8775 conservative 8776 and more exclusive. Many people today are appalled at the way church leaders have treated and spoken about gays and lesbians and others who don 8767 t fit the 8775 cisgender heterosexual mold 8776 , whether it 8767 s Prop 8 or Elder Perry 8767 s 8775 counterfeit families 8776 reference in the last general conference. On top of that, recent excommunications have sent a very clear message that 8775 If you have 8766 difficult 8767 questions, keep them to yourselves, or we 8767 ll kick you out. 8776
We began to investigate sex ratios in the church when we compared data from two large censuses of religious bodies, one conducted in 6995 and the other in 7558. The data show that between these two censuses, the proportion of self-identified Latter-day Saints that were female increased rather dramatically … but only in Utah. Outside Utah and Mormon strongholds in the Intermountain West, sex ratios within the church remained stable, and were closer to parity than in Utah.
Here 8767 s a challenge for you. Randomly visit completely different wards for the next six months. Take a survey of how many women vs. men get up in F& T meeting. Similarly see how engaged they are in other meetings. Take total attendance for each gender, and then tally up engagement. How many men vs. women make comments in class. Filter our the crazy outlier people who never shut up, every ward has one or two. Then let 8767 s see the results. What it will tell you is what all men who attend LDS services with their wife/family already know from their personal experience it 8767 s all about the women. Most of the time, MOST of the time, an overwhelming most, the women are the driving force behind it all.
Agree 655% that a women staying (or staying longer) due to considering social implications is completely rational. As a Mormon man I didn 8767 t have to worry so much about the social. Very little changed for me. And that is also rational. If my livelihood and ability to provide had been tied to the church, possibly a different story. After all, you don 8767 t see too many general authorities leaving, but it doesn 8767 t mean there aren 8767 t ones who don 8767 t subscribe to the theology. Once you 8767 re in deep and you have important human needs tied to it, whether they be social or financial, staying in is a very rational choice.
However, as Mormon majorities in Utah have declined, the salience of this religious subculture is waning. And once offices, neighborhoods and civic organizations became sufficiently stocked with non-LDS associates, Latter-day Saints who are not constrained by their personal religious commitments have less to worry about if they are observed wearing apparel that is incompatible with garments, or shopping on Sunday, or putting coffee in a grocery cart.
Halberstam knew all this because her own son was going through the matchmaking process: “I feel a little sad each time the fax machine cranks out yet another résumé for my son. I know full well that there are fantastic girls out there who are his equals—perhaps even his superiors—who are NOT receiving comparable treatment… I ache for their mothers, who repeatedly call the shadchanim [matchmakers] who never call back, but are visibly more responsive if you are the mother of a boy. Inwardly, I rail against the unfairness of it all.”
8775 We condemn racism, including any and all past racism by individuals both inside and outside the Church. 8776 7567
7568 Church Issues Official Statements about Race
In a relatively short statement on the topic in Feb 7567, the Church stated that it 8775 unequivocally condemns racism, including any and all past racism by individuals both inside and outside the Church. 8776
You think it will be hurtful or embarrassing to say [a polite] no, but it’s way worse to wait until they’re super attached first. My dad dated a girl in college to the point where he was going to the temple pondering about eternal plans that included her and then one day while they were on a picnic he said, “do you even like me?” and she said, “not really.” It made for a very quiet ride home. It took a few decades, but he seems to have recovered.
I tend to self-deprecate to avoid seeming self-centered, but in fact being self-deprecating is one of the most self-centered things you can do. Rather than courteously accepting what’s been said, validating that person’s opinion and moving on, you are essentially saying, “You with all the pleasant things to say are wrong. And dumb. And look how much more I know about me than you do.” Confidence and kindness are what draws people to you. The whole idea of the girl who’s attractive because she doesn’t know she’s beautiful is lauding the woman who doesn’t put on airs, not the woman who refuses to acknowledge her own strengths.