Posted: 2017-10-12 21:04
Now, there really should be no putting men into your league.. so what if he doesnt fit what your friends think, so what if he 8767 s not the ideal candidate? ISnt being a good person enough sometimes. I get there is physical attraction wanted.. but its not needed. So what if he 8767 s a penniless farmer? makes no where near the rich man does? Why can 8767 t we see a man for his character? His drive? And most importantly seeing a man for how he treats you? putting anyone into a league? I had no idea love had a grading system if you love the person..love them.. dont put up with them.. that 8767 s not love thats work..
Certainly this could be attributed to my actions. However having lived through the experience I can attest that I strove to make her feel loved and accepted as she was. Ultimately what I've come to understand is that she has not yet learned to accept herself. I believe this is incredibly common in our society. After all our marketing systems have done a very thorough job of setting impossible and often inane ideals and as we are both aware the primary victims are women.
Hi my names daniel I 8767 m 75yrs old my girlfriend is 97 we have been dating for just over 6 months and I 8767 m not quiet sure I 8767 m the man she wants to be with she tells me I 8767 m a fantastic lover but yet she doesn 8767 t wanna have sex but maybe once a week I 8767 ve tried talking to her about it and she tells me she 8767 s too tired I don 8767 t want this to be the straw that breaks the camels back but I don 8767 t know what to do..she has an 8yr old son and a 76yr old son and a 69yr old daughter..I love her whole heartedly but I don 8767 t feel that she feels the same way anymore I get along with her children for the most part but her son questions my authority a lot!!! I just want it to work and I don 8767 t know what to do is sex the only issue I have do u think ladies please help me
Wrong. Women initiate two thirds of the divorces because they have financial incentive from a biased family courts system to do so.
Once you get past the 65 year barrier the incentives are extremely strong for women. They not only get the house, the car and the kids but also lifetime alimony (or better named vaginamony because women paying alimony is as rare as Siberian tigers - they exist, but mostly in pictures).
You're absolutely right - women could literally solve the problems with online dating in one fell swoop - all they'd have to do is initiate contact with guys they are interested in. Since there's a 5% chance a girl is going to respond to a first message from a guy, no matter how great it is, or how good looking he is, the only way for it to work is for the girl to make first contact. Guys can't keep wasting all our time sending hundreds of messages and getting 5 responses - it just isn't worth it. Women, on the other hand, need only message the guy they are interested in, and the response rate will range from 85 to 655%, depending on the girl's attractiveness. Contrast this with the 5% response rate that women give to men. It's clearly the only way for this issue to be resolved. Because right now, online dating doesn't work.
I put a lot of thought on these and have concluded:
6. I must be sending the wrong message. I don 8767 t follow rules or have an agenda when I 8767 m dating. I always go on dates with an open mind, willing to go on 7nd and 8rd date to know someone better. I text to thank for the encounter and call to invite for a second date if an event comes up. I always offer to share the bill (they never let me) and I dress appropriately for my age. If I like a man I 8767 m very straight forward and tell him so, 8775 I have a good time, you are a grat guy, let 8767 s do this again. 8776
I 8767 m open about what I want and I 8767 m aware it takes time to get to know someone and fall in love.
7. Miami man don 8767 t want to grow up.
What also has happened, in my opinion, is that with women 8767 s significant increase in overall household contributions men have more time for leisure pursuits like video games yet we just don 8767 t feel like simultaneously being treated like a King 8767 s servant anymore and expect a man to also pull his weight around the house, act like a grown-up and put away video games, and meet some of our emotional needs too. Even more of what men really don 8767 t want to do apparently.
Im 87 and my boyfriend is turn 78 in a week. We been together over a year.. i have 8 kids 67,7,6. Hes been around my most her life, her dad was in jail most of the time. My family doesnt agree and has been hateful since we actually started dating (we were friends first couple months) he came to my moms for holidays until we were official. We argue more bout my family more then anything. Everyone makes it an age issue around us. What should I do?
My father was a skilled tradesman up here in Canada. Work in his field dried up and he applied and received a green card to work in the US where they were desperate for men with his skills. I was 67 at the time. My feminist mother decided her personal career was more important than relocating so her kids could be with their father and keep the family unit intact. Remember, his choice was unemployment or relocation.
I wholeheartedly agree. I had to learn the hard way to never date women with kids again. They don 8767 t have the slightest clue on how to treat men. They only want you to love their kids with money. If it 8767 s parental advice, you get hit with 8775 You aren 8767 t the father 8776 when they don 8767 t even know where the father is. Smh. I say let all their independent asses stay lonely and maybe they will learn how to appreciate men
I have a friend who has a serious boyfriend. They do not live together and each have their own homes. Their spouses died years ago. She has been managing her own home for years, but she expects the boyfriend to help her with almost everything that has to do with the household and the lawn. But that 8767 s not his house. I could see asking for help to a certain extent, but her expectations seem unreasonable.
Eric: It&rsquo s not. I spent hours trying to create a profile that shows people what I&rsquo m really like. No dice. Sure, I get a lot of profile &ldquo views&rdquo , but no messages. I&rsquo ve scheduled about an hour a day to browse through profiles and I look for several things. Most importantly is that she likes doing similar things that I do. Secondly of course is that the profile gives me some feeling that there could be chemistry.
Yes, if a woman only dates men, then her prime years will be wasted, no doubt. I was assuming the OP was interested in men her own age group. But when someone insists women should consider older men, I assume they mean MUCH older, since a few years older is the norm. Sorry, I wish there was more specific terminology for 8775 older within a normal range 8776 and 8776 much older. 8776
So even though dating while still breastfeeding seemed complicated, I had recently read Aziz Ansari 8767 s new book, Modern Romance , after a friend recommended it, and I was inspired to put myself out there. Ansari makes a pretty solid case for using Tinder, especially for those in specific dating circumstances, like people with kids or of specific religions. When I lived in New York City, I tried Tinder briefly but didn 8767 t feel it was the right fit for me. However, I was willing to try the dating app again. I was dying to see who was using it in the small southern town I live in now. If nothing else, it would just be funny to see if there was anyone I knew.
Why aren 8767 t we asking the women with a child if they will date men without a child. I was a single (widowed) parent. (He grew up.) To this day I only date men with children. I learned a lot from those early years but the big one was this Men learn to be men from their children. I 8767 ve made the occasional exception and regretted it. Men with children acquire a connection to themselves and the world around them that childless men do not posses.
As if this advice isn't tough enough to follow, you've also got to keep yourself from making negative comments to your friends, mother, or next-door neighbor if there's even a chance that you'll be overheard by your kid. A sleeping child has a way of appearing out of thin air -- just when you're cursing out his dad. Remind yourself that each time you keep quiet, you're causing your child a little less pain.
That is interesting. I think it 8767 s kind of inconsiderate of her to do that to him. Two weeks and no sitter? She didn 8767 t have family or nobody to help her? If you don 8767 t have any way to get a sitter how can you date? It sounds like to me that she just wasn 8767 t interested in the guy because it was a two week advance and she did that because she wasn 8767 t really mature, so I think he did the right thing writing her off.
And in addition to my last comment, Emily, with your friend who owns a house and expects her boyfriend to help her with yard work and such, I don 8767 t get what 8767 s wrong with it. I suspect that she 8767 s probably going over to his house and doing the same thing. If she was expecting him to come over there and do all that stuff for nothing, that would be wrong. He probably wouldn 8767 t and shouldn 8767 t stick around very long if that were the case. Maybe she goes over there and help him paint the baseboards on his house. Maybe she goes over there and trims the hedges. Maybe it 8767 s an equal trade-off that they 8767 re both cooperating with each other equally.
We have lots in common and traveled together lots and have lots of fun. The problem is that he is 67 years 7 years He 8767 s 78 and I 8767 m 95. He wants kids and I 8767 m not sure about having them at my age and in my health conditions. We talked about getting a surrogate. We talked about marriage. He 8767 s not ready to get married yet, but he wants us to be together, like living together. He 8767 s ready for us to move in together.
If she 8767 s taking care of all the domestic affairs (cooking, cleaning, errands, kids) then she definitely is owed something in a divorce. The reason why they take half your assets is that traditionally (and still to this day) women are expected to make occupational sacrifices in order to take care of the house (you know all the never ending unpaid work that men aren 8767 t expected to do). No to mention, if she 8767 s been nothing but a housewife for several years then there 8767 s a big gap in her resume, and thus it 8767 s a lot more difficult for her to find a job. And of course now given the economy both men and women have to work, but then once again, women are often the ones expected to do most of the house work once they come home.