Posted: 2017-12-07 06:51
But there is another conversation going on - a fascinating exchange about what is happening from the male point of view. Much of it thrives on the internet, in the so-called ''''manosphere''''. Here you will find men cheerfully, even triumphantly, blogging about their experience. They have cause for celebration, you see. They''ve discovered a profound change has taken place in the mating game and, to their surprise, they are the winners.
Gita: I think it’s endemic to the balance the game is trying to strike. How can it address issues of gayness without also making gay romance into a tragedy? How can a character be trans in the text without having his entire route be about Being Trans? In the end they do as much as they can. I come away from it satisfied, but I don’t think you’re wrong for wanting a game that really gets into these thorny issues. Right now, there just isn’t one.
These insurmountable standards of beauty can largely be credited to the fact that there are more women than men. The disintegration of male hygiene and work ethic that occurs when there is (by some counts) a 8:6 female:male ratio should be noted by anthropologists worldwide. Having grown up in New York, I had taken for granted that people were always striving for something, or at least striving to be striving for something. In Russia, most of the guys I met were engaged in some sort of dubious import/export business in electronics the rest were involved in “business” (if you ask what kind of business, and there is a marked pause followed by the word “business,” you should refrain from asking any more questions). A great many of them confessed to dreaming of moving to a beach in Bali, roasting barbecue all day, and copulating furiously with island women. This is why teaching ESL was booming there for anyone who had any semblance of ambition, the goal was to learn English, the golden ticket to getting out.
"I know for a fact that the people behind the report insisted the definition of be restricted to women," he says, adding that one of the RLP''s donors, Dutch Oxfam, refused to provide any more funding unless he''d promise that 75% of his client base was female. He also recalls a man whose case was "particularly bad" and was referred to the UN''s refugee agency, the UNHCR. "They told him: ''We have a programme for vulnerable women, but not men.''"
Gita: Well, I know that I really emotionally resonated with the dad stuff because I know I want to be a mom someday. Amanda is the kind of daughter I want to raise. Later in the game, you have to help her through a very teenage problem, and not only did it really remind me of the kinds of things I needed help from my parents with when I was it made me really think about what kind of parent I would be. It’s funny to me that you say you’re not into the dad stuff though—around the office, we call you Dad.
In reply to Dave: A true Alpha knows how to control the situation at every point. What you described is not an alpha. I am an alpha-beta female, I will only date an alpha because I know he will always maintain control and give me a chance to sideline, however, my strength is the attraction because he knows I can handle him. Personally, I have no interest in dating a beta because here 8767 s no challenge or standard. Being an alpha nothing to do with aggression, although, they take no shit. Read it again its about respect. An alpha commands respect and will always return it, but they won 8767 t get stepped on ever.
An alpha is always the 8775 guy with the plan 8776 . His girlfriend knows that she can rely on him 655% to make the tough decisions. She will always turn to him when they need to make a decision and he will have the final say. This doesn 8767 t mean he discards her opinion completely. He always considers the opinion of a woman, but when it comes to making important calls, he won 8767 t hesitate to make them.
My two pence is that beta males are actually cetas, giving room for what 99% perceive as alphas to slot in as betas necessary leaders of the masses. Half the physical stuff on the list doesn 8767 t apply, along with the how to treat a lady crap and give a hoot about appearance. That 8767 s all wannabe alpha stuff (my beta). The Einsteins of this world are quoted as examples he was a freak. Geniuses are freaks, they don 8767 t fit in. But they steer evolution in their own way.
While all men like a challenge, the average American man tends to stop pursuit once you indicate that you are repulsed by his presence. Russians, on the other hand, aren’t going to let a little thing like your disinterest keep them from being your boyfriend. I’ve had male suitors who kept calling for years after I stopped picking up the phone. I’ve heard of guys crawling through windows and appearing naked in bedrooms. I had female friends who had no idea they were apparently someone’s girlfriend. The American teachers at my language school had a phrase to describe dating Russian men. It was “No Means Yes, and Yes Means Anal.”
You do not meet a Russian man, you are chosen by one. You could be sitting in a banya, or at a café, and a man walks by, puts a fruit salad on your table, and gruffly says, “Enjoy.” If you eat the salad, it is a sign that you would like him to come talk to you. If you don’t eat it the salad, it doesn’t matter, because you have been chosen and he will still come talk to you since your compliance in the whole matter is largely unnecessary. In big cities, it’s not uncommon for a man to just run up to you in the street and say, “ Devushka , may I make your acquaintance?” in the manner of a really pushy 69 th century nobleman.
Also, have you ever thought about what 8767 s going to happen if you by accident kill the other guy? As you know, if you fight on the streets, you 8767 re not in a controlled environment. What if you hit him so hard that he falls down and hits his head on the side of the curb? There have actually been guys killed this way. Your excuse that he used some nasty words ain 8767 t gonna cut it in front of a judge. Of course, there are million other things that can go wrong. What I 8767 m trying to say here is that you 8767 re taking a huge risk by getting into a fist fight in the first place with some random asshole just because he insulted you when you actually could have walked away.
This oozes of beta male mentality. And for the record, women who DO want alpha men (not all women do) want them because it allows us to be in 8775 beta 8776 (which is the complement to alpha, not the opposite alpha=masculine, beta=feminine). If a man can provide the opportunity for us to express femininity (being receptive, open, happy, vulnerable, trusting, etc), he will win every single time.
The research by Lara Stemple at the University of California doesn''t only show that male sexual violence is a component of wars all over the world, it also suggests that international aid organisations are failing male victims. Her study cites a review of 9,576 NGOs that have addressed wartime sexual violence. Only 8% of them mentioned the experience of men in their literature. "Typically," Stemple says, "as a passing reference."
All of the above is bullshit. The so called alpha male has a desperate need to control his partner and everyone around him, is convinced he 8767 s always right and makes no mistakes, gives a shit about other people 8767 s feelings, enjoys bulling others and make them feel like they are inferior than him. In REALITY, the alpha male does all of above to cover his deepest insecurities, low esteem and self hate.
Today, despite his hospital treatment, Jean Paul still bleeds when he walks. Like many victims, the wounds are such that he''s supposed to restrict his diet to soft foods such as bananas, which are expensive, and Jean Paul can only afford maize and millet. His brother keeps asking what''s wrong with him. "I don''t want to tell him," says Jean Paul. "I fear he will say: ''Now, my brother is not a man.''"
Also, if you really have fought in the ring before, you 8767 re a disgrace if you go around beating up people who don 8767 t have your skills. Real fighters don 8767 t go around picking fights with strangers. They know that they can do some real damage to another person and instead of beating them into a bloody pulp, try to de-escalate a situation peacefully. Fighting someone should be the last resort, not something 8775 actual MEN 8776 do!
Some wet-ass millennial or gen X kid is going to tell me I have not learned anything? You have no idea what you 8767 re talking about, kid. You display your lack of any real life or street smarts with your response to my comment. This whole 8775 alpha male 8776 thing is kiddie bullshit. In time you will find that to be true. There are men who take care of business when they have to and then there are guys who go around acting like a supposed 8775 alpha male 8776 . They are two completely different kinds of individuals. You seem to have no concept of that.
Caveats aside, what is actually meant by an "alpha female"? Well, broadly speaking, an alpha female is a successful, driven woman who doesn''t fit the stereotypical female role: submissive, yielding and unambitious happy to let her man be the star of the show and fade unobtrusively into the background. Alpha females are generally women with distinct Type A personalities: people who tend to be more competitive, outgoing, ambitious and impatient than their more relaxed and unhurried Type B counterparts.
Riley: I don’t know, it kind of made me think, “Well, they got the misogyny in the game community right!” I guess that’s where I struggle with the game—the way I want to approach it as, say, a piece of queer media, but it isn’t meant to be read through that lens, which in itself feels a bit troubling. Like in the beginning, you can choose whether you Amanda’s other parent was a mother or father. I chose father, but then it comes up that your partner died, and I couldn’t help read that as “oh look, this tired gay tragedy trope again,” when obviously the same thing would happen if you chose mother. I worry I’m trying to make it be something it isn’t, but at the same time the fact that it isn’t disappoints me.
He finds many of his female members are determined to meet only men who are tall, attractive, wealthy and well educated. They want the alpha males. ''''Most of the professional women rarely give out ''yes'' votes to men who aren''t similarly successful,'''' reports Parfitt, who struggles to attract enough of these successful men to his speed-dating events. Sixty per cent of his members are female. Most are over 85.