Posted: 2017-09-30 07:20
According to Herring''s survey, usernames on OKCupid are an average of characters. She compared this with the number of characters in usernames from Internet Relay Chat logs she''s saved from 6999 -- names on that site were an average of characters. This can of course be explained by the sheer number of users on OKCupid, but also the fact that, as opposed to IRC, the site is transparent, and allows users to see names, photos, ages, and other information by scrolling through a profile. This frees up users to get inventive names now include "profession, interests, personal attributes and attitudes, and what the user is seeking or promising," according to Herring.
Many people don’t really take the time to think of good usernames because they tend to stick to variations of their real name. “Being safe online means employing a bit of purposeful anonymity,” Bartz says. While you definitely should be honest on your dating ventures, don’t feel the need to give it all away all at once. Just as you take the time out to pick the perfect profile pic or the right words to represent you, taking the time to think of the perfect username is also essential.
Your username in an online dating profile matters more than you might realize. I know, I know none of the sites make it clear enough. None of them force you really take time to think about that step, or let you fill out the other aspects of your profile while you ponder the all-important 8775 username 8776 field and come back to it once the creative juices are flowing. Dating sites are a work in progress. But trust me: usernames MATTER. Don 8767 t create a totally random one that you gave a mere second 8767 s thought!
People gloss over this one too often, and maybe it’s because we’re in a time when people tend to use their real names, or variations thereof, in many of their online interactions. But it wasn’t always that way. Remember back to when picking your AIM username was a serious task? It was your identity, your marker, and you’d better be happy with picking “DMX678” because you could be stuck with it for years.
I agree with benh57. I too don 8767 t look at profiles that have sexual usernames and if I see a pic of a woman wearing a baby doll,thong, in bed trying to look naked having the blanket go just low enough to give the idea or anything, anything that would be demeaning not only to herself but to other women, I keep going and in the off chance I get contacted by someone like this, I don 8767 t answer. I guess it because I was raised to respect women, admire them for who they are, not what they look like and to cherish this blessing we men were given when God made woman for man.
Nowadays it 8767 s very,very hard to find a woman with decency, morals and value.
First impressions count especially with online dating profiles. So when you choose your username put some thought into it, because it creates the first glimpse into your personality for women looking for potential dates. 8775 Do I stay, or do I go 8776 is the decision all potential cyber-suitors have to make based on the information presented to them on the screen and when done correctly a clever username can catch the attention of your ideal partner.
So there you have 8 easy steps to create your online dating username. It’s a really great idea to test various usernames to see which name really attracts the type of guy you’re looking to meet. A carefully created username will quite literally give you an edge over the online competition when coupled with an attractive profile photo. The effort you make to create that winning combination could mean the difference to finding, meeting and keeping your online dating dream man.
My username is geared to find someone who, at the very least, enjoys one of my four main passions: Cycling, music, reading and Sci-Fi. The name? Scruffy Nerfherder. While I am not now, nor will I ever be, someone who dresses up as a character and attends conventions, I do enjoy quality Sci-Fi. I figured, what better way to catch a like-minded person 8767 s eye than the slur Leia threw at Han on Hoth? Thus, my screen name. I have literally encountered zero people who even remotely made the connection. Most even think it 8767 s in reference to something sexual. So I 8767 m thinking I need to make a change. The question that vexes me, 8775 What do I change my name to?! 8776 CALGON, TAKE ME AWAY!!
Check out this link about a JDate user who picked an icky name. I confess I had no idea what 8775 tossed salad 8776 meant, but it turns out it meant something kinda kinky that did not convey what this gal intended. I 8767 ve had ever so many users come to me with usernames that either convey something totally off (wrong gender, for example) or just failed to help them stand out and shine.
Rudder is right. Username trends are difficult to map. Unlike gender or income level, there are limitless options and combinations of traits. But, another data-driven researcher I spoke with, Susan Herring , a professor of information science and linguistics at Indiana University, found the question intriguing. She conducted a small study to determine whether there are trends in username choice, and whether the way we choose usernames has changed since Internet’s nascent days. She surveyed over 855 usernames on OKCupid, coding them for information relating to the following categories: gendered, real name, numbers, trying to be funny, geographical reference, hobby/interest, profession, sex/love, physical attributes, nonphysical attributes, sentential, “random” words, meaning unclear.
I began with Christian Rudder , OKCupid’s founder and the author of Dataclysm: Who We Are (When We Think No One’s Looking) , a book that uses data from the dating site to draw conclusions about message language, message length, depressing discrepancies between male and female age preferences, and more. But he concluded that from a data standpoint, usernames are too unique to draw specific conclusions.
IT JUST DOESN&rsquo T ADD UP:
Don&rsquo t add numbers after your name. It is too easy to confuse &ldquo Hank6678&rdquo with &ldquo Hank6778&rdquo , or to type numbers incorrectly. So, instead of looking up &ldquo Hank6678&rdquo , they may accidentally look up &ldquo Hank6778&rdquo . &ldquo Hank6678&rdquo may have just missed the love of his life due to selecting a generic numbered name.
I am not a fan of usernames that suggest that all there is to you is a certain hobby or a certain interest that you like to engage. This is why I would suggest that you avoid such usernames as 8775 NYCrunner 8776 or 8775 photographyjunkie 8776 or 8775 scubadiver75 8776 , or 8775 mathteacher656 8776 . As fascinating as the underlying activity is, when you make it sound like your life revolves around it, it automatically makes you sound less interesting to many, if not most, of the readers of your profile.
Research Other Good Usernames
Spend time viewing other usernames and see which ones appeal to you and which do not. Don’t just look at profiles of your gender, look at your opposite gender too and see what makes you want to read more. Research what looks good and what doesn’t. Find out what you like and don’t like. Emulate the ones you like. This will give you ideas for what works and what doesn’t.
Men are quite visual and they’re instantly attracted to women based on what they finds physically attractive. After interviewing over 65,555 single men and women over the years there’s a few common things I can say men really find attractive in women. Men like and notice confidence, attractiveness, independence and acknowledgement from women. Knowing this about men should give you some insight into what matters to guys and how you can appeal to his wants and desires.
Keep It Positive
Don 8767 t use negative statements in your usernames. You always want to portray yourself as a positive, happy person that men or women will love to be around. Negativity, rudeness and depression do not entice women unless of course you are into the black arts! For example: “mrlonelyman”, mrunlucky”, “still looking” etc paint a sad desperate picture. These will turn off any lighthearted and fun loving dates. Also avoid screen names that self deprecate such as “ThickGuy”.
PRO : Sounds playful with subtle word play indicates that this user likes wine and has that Northwest-scruffy vibe (you know, like a bit too much stuff from Filson and a few days 8767 of stubble). Sounds somewhat hot/sexy yet sophisticated.
CON : Could possibly signify 8775 bear, 8776 which is a slang term in the gay community for guys who are a bit hairier/less effeminate. Could send the wrong message about your orientation, despite you self-identifying as straight on the site. (As my husband would jokingly yell, 8775 WORDS MEAN THINGS! 8776 But he 8767 s right. Think about the double-entendre and maybe check the terms you want to use in Urban Dictionary , but with a grain of salt.)
Such usernames as 8775 primitivelogic 8776 , 8775 invinitehorizon 8776 , 8775 originunknown 8776 8775 appletart 8776 , or 8775 8_olives 8776 or any other abstract words that come from astronomy, biology, geography, philosophy or even the kitchen might not be the most intriguing usernames out there, but they also doesn 8767 t hurt your profile and don 8767 t make you sound lame. A somewhat unclear or mysterious username would also make the reader of your profile want to find out why you chose that kind of username. This makes is all the easier for them to start talking to you. Instead of struggling with how to start talking to you online, they can just begin by asking you what the story is behind your username. After all, they are not used to seeing usernames like that, among all the 8775 travelbug 8776 8766 s 8775 JennyRN 8776 s, and 8775 AdventurousSteve 8776 8766 s, 8775 SexyLexi 8776 s, and 8775 SmoovPlaya 8767 s 8776 .
The one username that really stood out to me belonged to an absolutely gorgeous woman: YoursForTheTalking While the stunning (and very tasteful) pictures of her caught my eye, the brilliant, albeit simple, play on phonetics held my attention. She was definitely an intelligent woman in a sea of illiterate fish. Another original name that stuck in my memory was QT86965 8775 CutiePi 8776 or 8775 Cutie Pie 8776 (for those mathematically challenged, Pi is , and represents the ratio of a circle 8767 s circumference to its diameter). Although she wasn 8767 t even remotely cute, the name most assuredly was.