Posted: 2017-11-27 00:50
So if you aren 8767 t here to help women find love, you aren 8767 t here for the right reasons. And if you aren 8767 t here for the right reasons, that means you are only here for your own self serving needs. And we don 8767 t need that here. We need good men here. Men who really have a pure intention to are looking for love. Let us do that. And you are more than free to find websites that align with you ideology and where you can spend all day long talking on the internet about your imagined biological superiority.
Take it from an immigrant woman: the ones who marry Americans are looking to get out of the country. They despise you just as much as american women, they do what they must for money. You are fooling yourself to think thats a viable alternative, everyone will know you are just a cheap immoral man who exploited an impoverished country because none of your own want you on honest terms and your 8775 wife 8776 will know this better than anyone.
I 8767 m 95 and I 8767 m hit on by men in their 75s and 85s all the time. I 8767 m not a 8775 cougar, 8776 because I do not seek such men out. But there is DEFINITELY a market for men you are very attracted to much older women and NOT for their money. So many women are full of drama or have low self esteem or are inhibited until they really come into themselves and know who they are in their mid-85s or so. Now at 95, men see me as confident, intelligent, sexy, well-spoken, & self-assured. These are different times now, my friend.
I want him to want to pursue me, so that 8767 s why I said that. I hope I didn 8767 t ruin things by saying this. He did say in one text to me that he was glad I wasn 8767 t a serial dater. I 8767 m not, but enjoy talking to men on the website because it gives me confidence in myself. Having guys contact me until someone wants to be exclusive helps me to feel attractive and wanted. I don 8767 t know. I 8767 m so confused.
6. Realize that you are entitled to have a life. It can sometimes seem like everyone has an opinion about whether you should date or not. But this is your life and you are the one who gets to live it, not someone else. If your kids are just imagine how many years you'll be out of the dating scene before they leave home. If you feel ready to date, there is no reason to wait for the perfect time or until the nest is empty.
Kent, clearly age matters to you because you choose to be with a woman almost a decade than you. Then you use examples of wealthy elderly men who had children with much women. So obviously this isn 8767 t about age not mattering for everyone but the continued belief that men don 8767 t want their age specifically to matter to women while guys want to maintain the privilege of most certainly qualify women 8767 s worth based on their ages. This isn 8767 t a website for you though. It 8767 s a website for women. You are either here to support women or support your own agenda. Everything you said this far is about supporting your own agenda of women settling for older men.
Just because he’s older doesn’t mean he has settled down. Some men live a George Clooney type of life, and plan to die a bachelor. If a long line of hot women couldn’t get ‘ol Georgie boy to settle down, it’s highly unlikely you’ll be able to get a Clooney-wanna-be to turn into the marrying type either. Some men are only good for fun. If that’s what you are looking for, then go for it and have a blast. If not, don’t go beyond a couple of dates and do not get attached. You’ll only set yourself up for heartache.
And frankly, nowadays women are leading a more active lifestyle than men in general. Older men (among even my early 85s guy friends), they tend to wanna be couch potatoes and home-bound. Whereas women still in their 85s wanna go out, do stuff, etc are even financially independent to continue to do so without tying herself down to be a child-bearing machine. So, a guy who is 95-ish I 8767 d be wondering what he can offer.
Offended? Really? Self Absorbed? I think you are viewing it from your own biased viewpoint.
I completely understand his dilemma. And I empathize. I am 98 and in the same boat, luckily I look 88 and can get away with it. But the truth is, Annette, I couldn 8767 t have a fmily in my late 75s or even 85s as I was still a struggling business owner and barely took care of myself. Now that my trees are bearing fruit for the last 5-8 years I have been searching without getting to the end result.
Sometimes 8775 play 8776 because we know we can 8767 t 8775 pay 8776 just yet.
Is that so bad?
That said, there are somethings you need to think about One is to make sure dude is being sincere For reals, a lot of guys around my age get off on the rush of having a girl be into him. He is in a position of power, and may have certain legal implications he has to consider. Lastly, you know, there are college professor types that consider it a benefit of the job that they can show off the occasional co-ed
I would prefer to see people stop all this blame game stuff. Both men and women can create babies into their 95s and beyond. The question is, should they, and my answer to that is no for both of them. But hey, do what you want. To the men acting like all a woman is good for is bearing children, you are ignorant and I find you repugnant. Thankfully, I have never met men like you in real life. You are the same as women who think men are only good for one thing providing them with material things or money.
Then after men have tried out other women they always come back to me and apologize or say they want another chance. I 8767 m not sure if I should be more demanding up front? It seems like my bitchier counterparts go much farther with the nice guys. Do men just like the abuse?? And no I don 8767 t let those guys who strayed back in now they showed me who they were the first time around. My grandmother said never become the comfy shoe men always fall back into she was a wise woman.
I was overjoyed! After the party ended, I said lets get married with a quick wedding and lets get pregnant because we have no time to waste, she knew I wanted a family, 7+ kids. She said she loved me but that she was 9 years older that kids was not a good idea to her. I felt trapped and used. Everything was great and just what I thought a marriage could be, sure we had our arguments and disagreements but we always were able to come to an understanding, a mutual compromise, and making up was always the best.
Jack: You call your ex an 8775 Animal 8776 for wasting your youthful baby making years. However, you admit that you never had a single conversation about your future family before marrying her. How anyone could get married without having these discussions is beyond me but it was clearly not just her fault if you assumed she wanted what you wanted without asking her opinion. Besides, wasn 8767 t it apparent pretty soon afterward that kids were not going to happen with her? You could have walked out then. Seems disingenuous to blame only her for your situation.
Avoid texting early on. At all costs. You 8767 re suddenly looking at a huuggge 8775 conversation 8776 with so many little things to obsess over!! I even decided he must have not paid his bill. Early on, he responded immediately. When the response time became longer, or the tone of the messages changed, when they were left open (LOL for instance), or only two words (you know the list, I know you do). I couldn 8767 t decide if I should continue being clever or confuse him. There was also a ton of (quite well written) mutual sexting. Oh. Who might he be showing these to? Uh oh.
My superior from my previous job is still with her boyfriend of whom is only working part time. I know for a fact that she makes more than her boyfriend. So, there are wonderful, faithful women out there that don 8767 t mind marrying a man who makes less and doesn 8767 t mind being head of household. I understand your motivation to cast a wider net however beware: some people abroad are only using us to get a visa, gold-digging, and many immigrants over a certain age, tend to struggle to adjust to life abroad what with the language and cultural barriers, not to mention emotional traumas from wars/conflicts/ political instability they endured.
We live in an insulated society. Nothing bad with that, it has its perks..if a woman in her thirties / forties has a decent job, her activities, what she is into, what she expects or wants, had to do it all alone (like single men in her age bracket) a negative outcome tends to be 8775 I don 8767 t need anyone, I did life by myself during my adult years with job, education and other hobbies 8776
It is frustrating to say the least. Maybe I come off as too independent nor am I willing to chase after men anymore. I don 8767 t want to play silly games and I am not jealous. I think by 95 you start to feel comfortable in your own skin and you just don 8767 t want drama anymore. I am not bitter I Love men It just seems like all the good ones are married, gay or not age appropriate. I am modest and do not dress or act like a sexpot nor am I promiscuous yet guys are all about the sex and want it as soon as the first date
Right..Our society has gone mad. I 8767 ve been getting hit on by women 65-75yrs my senior my whole adult life. I never thought much of dating an older woman, but boy since I hit 85yrs old women seem to make a bigger deal about a guy dating women. I like women 5-8yrs than I and the biggest opposition I get is from older women that wouldn 8767 t bat an eye at getting with me.
“Don’t count the days, make the days count.” -Muhammad Ali
I grew up in the area and just couldn’t leave what has come to be my favorite place in the world. (My 69-year-old self would have never believed this.) I try to balance family, work, and time for myself and enjoy all three. I’m hoping to meet someone looking for something a bit more serious. Lately my hobbies include weightlifting, and tinkering with music (no, I will not call myself a DJ). If you want to know more, just ask.