Posted: 2017-09-20 06:46
Ok. I have an utterly confusing situation right now. I 8767 ve liked this guy Logan since we met and now my best friend has started to like him and she doesn 8767 t know that for three years I have begun to fall in love with him. Now she 8767 s obsessive over him, always talking about him, telling me how he calls her beautiful and all this other stuff. Do you think she could possibly just like the idea of someone liking her since she 8767 s never had a boyfriend or something? I honestly dont know what I should do and it is heart crushingly painful to watch. Can you help?
I signed up for the newsletter last night and was expecting to unsubscribe today because I 8767 ve read a lot of bogus articles in the past from other websites-wow was I wrong. This was a very thought-provoking, inspiring article and I have greatly enjoyed reading through your advice columns.
You seem like a genuine soul who is trying to inspire women to embrace and love themselves-hats off to you. I 8767 m surprised by the amount of women wanting to argue with your advice 8775 from a man 8767 s prospective 8776 . Don 8767 t let them discourage you.
Hi Eric, i have a question for you.
there is this guy who is always flirting with me and seems to be really interested in me. My friends even told him we would be cute together and he smiled and said 8775 i know 8776 but online he doesnt say a word to me although i see him online he doesnt respond to the comments i leave on his pictures. i dont have his number either so i dont know what to do. i really like him.
I dont know why, maybe it 8767 s their culture of freedom, outside, they can look different from many other. But i felt in love with one, and I liked her so much since the very first moment. She meant to be stressed and teased by men but not valued like she was before: a gorgeous woman.
Now, every woman from every part of the planet deserves to be treated as woman, not a toy to use after or during a drunk. She deserves to be afriend, communicative, cuddles, maybe sometimes to be angry but never lacked of respect. That seems to be very common in Sweded, I dont say every sweden male treat badly a woman, but a lot of them especially generation are lacking of sensibility.
And from my point of view, it 8767 s weird
Now my story with that sweden girl went over not because there was not lack of love from both, but because my work, I was deployed so far away, and I was at that time.
What remains to me is a big funny happy sweet moments of warm wool and big heart, here in the deep of Italy. Still running all my love for swedes. Nobody is perfect, but the sweden males that I known, needs to grow in empathy and care with their women. at least.
Women, girls are attracted to guys, men who have passion and fire for their
lives. They aren 8767 t any more interested in prodiving guys, men, the validation
for their lives than you are for theirs(that I disagree with, most guys, men,
don 8767 t care, we are proud to make women, girls feel happy, give them validation, don 8767 t mind doing it). When a guy, man has
goals, male friends, and a life that inspires him, he 8767 ll be validated by what
he is up to, and women, girls will want to be a part of his life.
I 8767 m sorry, I find it hard to listen to someone preach about women 8767 s lack of respect for men after just stating that they have no ability or interest in discussing politics, literature, society or culture. You 8767 re getting very angry about women 8767 s attitudes towards height but as far as I can see you don 8767 t seem to regard them as adult beings. I 8767 m really not meaning to sound harsh but I think perhaps past experiences with certain women is leading you to type cast them all.
cook, clean and take care of the children is that what you think a woman should do????:))) Sit at home and listen to some 8775 husband 8776 moaning that I spent too much money on food/clothes/etc, when I can go and earn my own money and spend it on whatever I like???? And why, in your opinion, should a man be obliged with supporting the whole family? How many men are there on the whole planet who would earn enough to support the whole family? You 8767 re a bit behind with times, I think:)))
Have known this guy all my childhood yrs have liked him since my growing yrs too but we never spoke finally we lost contact n on my way to d bank we saw again n ecchanged contacts that day he called n we chatted n he told me he 8767 s alwys like me from bk years n date but he said he has a g/f and I like him too. D day I saw him at d bank after years was so happy. We have hooked up so many times now he doesn 8767 t chat me up like then n when I tend to complain he apologises. He said he feels smthg strong n loves me but he doesn 8767 t wanna get too involved cause of his g/f. and I know him, his family now am sad cause I really want him wht shld I do
I don 8767 t know if you 8767 ve ever studied any rigid science, but one of its tenets is that you cannot generalize from a sample size as small as 8775 a few Swedish girlfriends 8776 . Indeed, you might want to ask yourself whether it is ever appropriate to generalize across human beings. Philosophical and ethical conundrums aside, the only way you could truly say that all Swedish women like (X) based on the information gleaned from your 8775 few Swedish girlfriends 8776 would be if that group somehow encompassed the entire female population of Sweden and I don 8767 t think it does, unless you and I have somehow become bosom-buddies without my knowledge or consent.
Anyway, I arrived at work and noticed a wrapped up baked good sitting on my desk. I knew right away it was from the EUM..or whatever he is/was. He 8767 s done this before but last time he handed it to me. We 8767 ve hardly spoken in weeks unless it 8767 s work related. Course my thoughts were does this mean something, is he trying to get me to talk to him, is he up to something. But I think it boils down to him just being 8775 nice 8776 . I enjoyed it yet it left me a bit confused. He did not have to do that for me, but for whatever reason he did. My problem is it gets s$it stirred up in my head, making me doubt my decision to stop contact, etc. So how do I put a period on it and not go over and over his behavior and what it might mean? I did say a simple thank you to him and left it at that.
i don 8767 t see them as sluts one bit. i have met a few and there great!! in which are like most women or ladys out you talk about how much balls a man has?? in my opinion i see how far will i take it? do i want to go to jail or go home? insted of hurting people and myself i choose a more 8775 civil 8776 idea. in which is not harming others or myself.
im 8775 american 8776 im shy . givin the situation. maybe ya should give the swedish men more credit. you and others have no idea whats going through there that man wishes to respect you in matters of maybe crossing bondries. who wants to do that on top of who wants to put themselves in a situation they may potentualy not want to be in.. anyhow i see your point and it makes sense to me. i wish the best for you and others!! keep looking its right around he corner.
In Sweden, which is one of the most modern, equal and secular societies in the world, it`s more socialy accepted and not frowned upon that swedish women socialize with foreign men. This is something swedish women has embraced and is also a sign of freedom from predjudice and norms. Something that you can`t say about most countries in the world. In the of A you still talk about 8775 interracial couples 8776 and 8775 racemixing 8776 , but it`s the same in the East when they talk about 8775 bloodlines 8776 .
men- and women, to be fair can enjoy flirting, attraction and the buzz of seduction without actually wanting to see it through. i know i 8767 ve done it though not to the ridiculous extremes of lavender 8767 s case.
we need to keep our feet in reality and not go attributing to the person all kinds of qualities (shyness, fear of rejection, all kinds of complicated feelings) to explain why they don 8767 t want to take the next step. just accept that they don 8767 t want it and move along.
a more worthwhile question is why we burn up our time and energy on someone who is messing us about. what is it about that dynamic which is attractive to us? cos i think a person with good boundaries and solid self-esteem wouldn 8767 t give these jackasses the time of day. do we even recognise when we 8767 re being jerked around?
Here 8767 s my question. I was dating a guy a couple months and knew him almost 7 yrs. he was leery about having me around his daughter n always made it clear n then after awhile he kept bringing up his hair dresser who 8767 s allowed to be around his daughter n he was asking her n her son ( who is his daughters age) to train at his dojo n so on They have all this stuff in common n it freaked me out n I told him I just wanted to be friends Well I realized I was wrong n he asked why I bailed n I sort of told him just not all the details. So we have been talk g for a year n just recently starting hooking up again but now im not sure what to do because while I 8767 ve met his friends I spend time w him outside the bedroom He doesn 8767 t ask me on dates like he did before. I told him I wanted another chance to date n he said he wasn 8767 t rushing into anything which duh but I 8767 m still wondering what can I do to turn him around so we can actually go on a date or if he even likes me more than fwb
But could I fit in? Are there Swedish girls who want a traditional family and want to attend church and pray together (or at least can be missionary dated, lol, j/k). Many Christian girls in the US who want this are waaay too conservative, often superstitious, and do not think critically. I feel like I don’t fit in either way. Are there Swedish girls who have the best of both worlds who might be into my type?
I think dating isnt easier for either one. Women have a lot of pressure on them to look our best we also freak out thinking what if he doesnt like it. Some women do offer to pay for things but the man says no I got it which leads women to think well I wont have to worry about paying for the dates. We also think well what if I dont look good enough and his eyes find someone new to look at. Men have the same problems they have to find a place and look good. They freak out wondering if we will like it or like them. We both have a ton of pressure on us and we both think well he has it easy all he has to do is pay and pick a spot for us to eat or where to go. They think we have it easy cause all we have to do is show up and smile. You have to put yourself in each others place and realize no one has it easier we both stress out about the same things. So no one has it easier.
Absolutely not. Life is not only about how you view and perceive but also how you react to those things. I would say those who think they have it easier are missing some parts.
For instance: Sure, they realistically (most certainly more beautiful women) can decide who to be with. But what does choose really mean?
It is a known fact that humans (male and female) desire what they can 8767 t have, no matter what it is. It 8767 s also known that men are more visual
and females more about emotion/connection/etc. This is why, of course, the romance novels are so popular. I am male and I have read some and they
are not only full of emotion they are full of tension, excitement, and fantasy. Meanwhile, women also want to be led and they want a protector too.
They love confidence and they love to laugh and all of that is related to emotion too. What that means is they want a man who can fullfill their true
desires: emotional and physical (as in intimate) as well as having someone to listen to them and be part of their life.
As for who asks who, I hate to think that it 8767 s all so gendered, but I suspect that due to a combo of social and biological reasons (real and perceived) it 8767 s, on balance, better for the man to do most of the pursuing at the start, but not in a childish way I think if you 8767 re worried about making a misstep and calling him, you 8767 re probably not ready to date (ie skin is not thick enough yet to handle the sometimes-brutal world of dating) or else he 8767 s just not the guy for you (ie you 8767 ve picked up that he 8767 s one of those 8766 one false move and she 8767 s discarded 8767 types and you 8767 re being tentative for a reason). Good guys aren 8767 t so rigid about who calls who, especially after a certain time. If they 8767 re into you, they want you to call. It 8767 s a
Whatever you love to do, might love
to do, or used to love to doing are all areas you should explore in your
community. Log off the computer and open an alternative weekly paper from your
area and find people, places, and events that match your interests. It can be
difficult to connect with random people, but it can be significantly easier if
you stack the odds in your favor by frequenting the places in which you enjoy
doing what you love to do.(girls, women, don’t have to do this).
Loving your single life gives you
much more confidence when meeting girls. Since you already love your life, you
aren’t looking for a girl to ‘complete’ you, so you won’t be desperate for any
particular interaction to lead to a phone number, date, or more. When you’re
living and loving your life, girls always notice and they’re curious why you
have such a good time doing everything you do.