Posted: 2017-10-19 20:20
All I mean is if you sit in the corner of the room, never making eye contact with anyone, never engaging with anyone, never doing anything remotely outward of yourself but sitting and thinking it is going to be much harder for people to have the desire to want to get to know you in the first place. It sounds to me like you want others to do all the work, to look at such people and go, You know despite appearances and behaviour I bet that guy has all the qualities I m looking for so I m going to go over and talk with him and draw him out of his shell. You don t want to give any clues as to who you are underneath, but you want others to do all the work to dig.
Some women do judge men on height. It happens. It s not necessarily a bad thing because we all have our preferences but it does happen in life same as people get judged for all kinds of things they can t control. Bitterness and anger are sometimes poison but they are also natural parts of existence and fighting them is basically fighting the human experience. Accepting them and processing them is probably a better approach.
I m 5 66 and my friend is 5 7 and I know his height bothers him because he uses online dating sites like I do and brings up the topic of height sometimes. He thinks girls only want guys who are 6 5 and taller and he shouldn t have that mindset. I have read that 6 5 is the best height for men on dating sites so I do exaggerate my height by 6 inch to say that I m 6 5. With shoes on I am 6 5 so girls will never notice it.
I actually rather disagree with this. I think with a larger pool, you re just going to find more people who could give a rat s ass about height. I haven t found many men interested in me (a heavier woman) in real life or at least, not many who will approach me, which may be due to having their friends around, societal pressure, etc. But I ve been approached but many more online, because all of that stuff goes away. And while I ve gotten boring messages, overtly sexual messages, copypasta messages, and messages that make no sense, I usually don t get messages right off the bat that insult my appearance/weight maybe this is just because I portray myself as a complete goofball? (Of course, if I say thanks but no thanks , then the ur so fat n stupd n uglee comments come out)
I ve seen, on these types of threads, a lot of examples of women posting the harassing/abusive messages they ve received on dating sites, and I ve heard men talk in general about abusive comments/ignorance (quoted because an actual quote, not scare quotes!) received due to being short/fat/unemployed/whatever, but I m having a hard time understanding what the kinds of comments directed at men would look like.
I will be nice though. First, you need to learn to read. I did not say all short men have a Napoleon complex. Many do. Many keep it just under the surface. This is similar to how Ive noticed many black guys will seem cool, but at they will go on the attack very quickly. It 8767 s the same thing, just different names. The broader concept is the victim mentality. Deep down you feel injured. There is a tender spot there that if poked or prodded, elicits an explosive response. Some with a Napoleon Complex don 8767 t hide it at all. This is more an attempt to ward off aggression by other bigger men. It 8767 s an attempt to say, I 8767 m nobody to trifle with I 8767 m not an easy target.
Something that was helpful for me was to be clear about the differences between HOT(tm) and hot. I m short and dark and plump in a culture that values tall and blonde and thin. There are days when it s really hard. I m not stupid I know exactly where I fail at looking the way our society things I should look, and I know how much value society places on that (a lot). When it s hard, I say to myself, I don t want someone stupid enough to mistake a well-advertised standard of beauty for what they personally prefer. It s okay if they include HOT(tm) in their idea of hot, but they don t have to be the same.
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Amen to that, Using the term Napoleon complex just shows their prejudice. Short men we are damn if we do and damn if we don 8767 t. You can 8767 t win. If you don 8767 t always stand up for yourself than you are weak. If you always stand up for yourself than you have a Napoleon complex. Women will say just be confident and that will fix everything. Women will lie straight to your face so they will not seem shallow, since women are always accusing men of being shallow, they will simply try to cover up their own shallowness.
By the way, I am a strong, confident and successful guy, but for anyone to suggest because of such strength I am (or any short guy) 8775 Napoleanic 8776 is in need of some therapy. That 8767 s a stereotype that doesn 8767 t sell the short person short, but sells the believer in that concept short. A woman who is successful is not some power hungry b ch, but should be lauded for overcoming what are still strong (albeit thankfully decreasing) cultural biases.
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Whilst looking at a problem realistically and moving on from there, it doesn t help to openly make an issue of the problem in social situations. I have left social situations that trigger me but that s mostly because bad moods are toxic to social situations and I d rather they didn t ruin other people s enjoyment of the night. I feel I have a sense of what my barriers actually are. But I don t go around announcing them in social situations. I honestly don t. I may let them judge and influence my thinking but I don t announce my views on them to people. There are very few people in the world who know how much I dislike myself.
I understand that you weren t really posting to have this conversation. That you wanted to talk about how superficial women are and that all we want is looks, money and status, but I have to tell you, not everyone sees confidence the same way. And not everyone is confident for the same reasons. And if you only think confidence can be found through success you might want to change your outlook, because that s not a sustainable model.
Maybe Hes seeing your friend. If your friend is a girl. Why else would he care more about taking HER kids out shopping than when your acts of affection when given. Why even hangout. If he 8767 s gonna be like that. Kinda lame on his part. Kind of a head game. Most people who have dated and have been intimate find it hard like myself to just stay in a friends only zone if your brain is used to the way affection and hanging out used to be. I 8767 m not trying to be a rain cloud but have you thought of that possible scenario???
I don t think true preferences change, but when people are deciding whether they re interested in someone they don t know well (I ll put dating friends aside for this discussion), they re working with limited information. People using online dating have lots of information about people s interests, lifestyle, and beliefs, but are less sure whether they re going to end up sitting across a table from someone they find attractive. Since you can t gauge charisma or chemistry online, people tend to rely more heavily on height, weight, and age as metrics.
We get slammed/snarled at and have our social issues, but generally not to the degree heavier people get. For example, despite being built like a 67 year old girl, I could actually get a job as a shot girl and cocktail waitress at high end LA nightclub (as long as I wore a push up bra). Had I been bigger I d have been laughed out of the room. Not saying us skinny folks have it easy, but we do have it easier.
I 8767 m really confused by your post my dear! So you 8767 re saying this guy has been chasing you a LOT and that you are starting to like him. he has made every effort to be in touch and contact you. And now you are scared he has someone else. It seems like two seperate things. The only way to know if he has someone is to flat out ask him. Also, why if he is putting so much effort into you do you think he has someone else?
Perhaps related to this, since I have undestood that the willingness to take risks in a social context is seen among the most desirable traits a man can have, I find it to be absolutely objectionable behavior to take any sort of uninvited contact, especially in sexual sense, to your fellow human beings. Same way I see any sort of occupation of public space. It doesn t matter how well mannered you are when the act inself is fundamentally evil
I fell for a girl at the very first moment I saw both are in the same class in our liked her very much and so I used to give her eye best part was that she gave me eye contacts once,not twice,but many times!As time passed by,I realised she was interested in I couldn 8767 t go there and talk to am a shy and nervous been over years that we both been watching each other but we never spoke to each a year,she doesn 8767 t look at me like she did thought of her moving on scares don 8767 t even know if she has a boyfriend.
I love her so much but just can 8767 t express my feelings to just want her in my life so bad.
What do I do now?
Need some advice from you appreciate it.
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