Posted: 2017-11-14 04:47
The problem is that he wants to have children of his own. It is so important to him that he has worked his whole life preparing for a family. I am disqualified because I can no longer have any children. I have three sons who are 78, 76, and 66. (I am also a grandmother.) After my was born, I had a Tubal Ligation because I knew in my heart that I would eventually be a single mother with 8 children.
I 8767 ve read many comments-some funny, some are informative-but most of all, I find that all comments provide an insight into the hearts and minds of people in such a way that makes me feel inclined to respond to the original post with a question. I observe and read over responding to posts. I 8767 m a 78 YO black female with a rather large bust who works in business management. On top of the fact that others subscribe to my brand of beauty, I feel especially insecure about my large bust and the stares of white men in this setting it 8767 s almost as if I 8767 m being labeled as the proverbial Jezebel just because my bust easily draws much attention. What advice can one provide, given my situation? And, what do some white men think when they see black women with such a large bust?
Fellows, sometimes women are exposed to certain acts of violence that leave them with child(ren) as the end product. Some women have psychological issues which contribute to them acting out inappropriately in the quest to fill a void intheir life and the end result could be child(ren). Sometimes, that child could be the result of your loving actions irrespective of how careful and responsible you are. I know, but I am not making excuses, in fact I am trying to think how I can justify 5 babies and 8 baby daddies in your early 75s..Anyway!
I ve never dated a woman that much older, and I m a bit concerned and undecided about the whole idea. And I don t know the age differences between her and her ex s. She is a retired federal employee. I will retire from federal service in two years. In our communications we have gotten along very well and there seems to be much commonality and mutual interest. As someone previously stated, true love is hard to find and doesn t come along often in one s lifetime. I had that with my last girlfriend, and I miss that.
Now I have a crush on one of my managers at work who is 76. I m 87. He s handsome, fit, very sweet, smart, hardworking and ambitious. He possesses a lot of the qualities that I haven t been able to find in guys older than him or men my own age. I m sure he s not interested in me, and because he s one of my bosses, I admire him from afar. I d love to date him but one can dream, right?
I m a 95yr old woman that s in love with a 87yr old man. We know live together and have been inseperable for the last 7yrs. I met him 65 yrs ago and he has been in love with me since. He always say I have Loved you ever sincew I was 67 yrs old. It s funny how things work when I was going through a very rocky part of my life BOOOM!! My knight and shining armour!!!:)
Just remember you might never know why your newest attraction has this type of baggage. Every woman with a child is a woman who did not choose to abort or give that child up for adoption. So the woman without children does not necessarily have better (sex) life management skills. And ladies, because the brother does not have a child or 7 tugging on his shirt tail does not tell you anything. Because men are not kangaroos and do not bear the tangible fruits of pregnancy (unplanned or not) in a physiological manner, this does not mean he may not be a daddy to somebody!!! Hello!
Impossible attitude to maintain for any length of time and when it ended I FELT SUCH A SENSE OF RELIEF. IT WAS A CRAZY YEAR and I would not recommend having a 78 year age difference intense love affair to anyone. It was very hard for us to stop seeing each other but it had to end. We had to be realistic..there was no future for us as a couple. Miss him very much at times, but I know that we made the right decision to move on.
Personally I wouldn 8767 t try to replace my kid 8767 s Dad, and I wouldn 8767 t expect a guy I was dating to take over 8775 Daddy duty 8776 while being around my kids. However, realistically, if you 8767 re together long enough that 8767 s likely going to happen at least a small amount. If you end up living together and you walk in on a three year old about to smear paint on your tv, are you going to run up and stop him or just hang back and wait for Mum to come deal with her kid? If you 8767 re that against dealing with children, stay the fuck away from single mums, because I can tell you now they do not need any more heartbreak in their lives.
Luke, I occasionally read the columns you have on this website, and this one struck a nerve. I 8767 m a white guy, and I 8767 ve had several black women working for me in the past, of which one of my best machine operators was a black woman. I enjoyed working with her and gave her the best evaluations and pay increases available, since she put all of the white/hispanic men and women to shame. She had kids to feed and take care of, and I respected her more than ever for that. I also had a black man, who worked there for over 85 years, and one of the white operators made a comment about his intelligence, so I told him that he may not talk as well as you, but he has a job and you don 8767 t. You 8767 re Fired!
Anyway, I was enjoying being on my own again, when WHAM one of his friends, who still enjoyed coming round to visit and chat, seemed to be showing an interest in me. It was again, out of the blue, but was even more of an enigma to me. After all, he was very, very shy, so I still felt like I didn t know much of his personality. At first I was worried about his motives/intentions (. was I getting known as the older woman who would train men in their sexual techniques ? I didn t want this, but thought, well, just one more little fling would be nice, then I can get back to the oldies. Plus, he s absolutely gorgeous!
Not every man who goes for older woman is just interested in sex. I bet most don 8767 t even think 8766 oh I bet you she 8767 s very experienced when it comes to sex 8767 . They 8767 ll just think 8766 wow, she 8767 s beautiful. 8767 or 8766 she 8767 s such a lovely, kind person. 8767 Most men at 75 could find plenty of experienced women their age or You shouldn 8767 t just assume they just want sex. It sounds like you 8767 ve found a guy who loves YOU, not for sex.
I 8767 m afraid a good man will not want me. I 8767 m newly seperated and not looking for anything right now but in the back of mind I think that having 8 children would put a damper in everything when I 8767 m ready. I don 8767 t expect a man other than their father to anything for them or with them. Even though they are generally good children...they 8767 re still children and screaming/misbehaving etc is going to occur at one time or another and can be bothersome to deal with especially when the children are not your own. It 8767 s kind of depressingly sad that a woman can do everything right..only lived with one man. And had that one man 8767 s children. Children I love and my life revolves around but men get off easy. The children don 8767 t stay with them, they date and do whatever.
I was taught the story of Emmett Till by my mother at a age. I don x77 t think she did it as a warning as much as to be like, This is something you should be aware of. He was 69. It was 6955. He got dragged out of his uncle x77 s house and tortured and killed because he maybe flirted with a white woman. A racist jury acquitted his murderers, Roy Bryant and . Milam, despite overwhelming evidence, and, to rub salt in the wound, both admitted to killing Till in Look magazine the next year. . getting off brought a twisted, but understandable feeling of justice. The shoe was on the other foot for once and so be it if two white people wound up dead. We x77 d lost many more. That x77 s harsh, but that x77 s the historical context of black men dating white women that I unfortunately have to consider when doing the same.
I am glad to hear that. Older women have plenty of advantages over ones, and I wrote about that too:
I don 8767 t need to survey every single guy. As I mentioned, there are exceptions there is a group of guys who prefer older women, and there is a group of women who is uniquely attractive despite being older. But denying that a significant age difference is an issue is like denying that a typical woman wants to be with a guy who is taller. It 8767 s just a fact.
We had so much fun together doing stuff that we both enjoyed and we like doing the same things. Eventually the feelings got out of hand and we kissed and it was the best kiss ever. It developed from there. We have great sex, I never had such great sex in my life. He also made it known that he adores me and I totally adore him. I am still worry about my age being too old for him but he doesn t care one bit about my age. I am still shy and am concern to meet his friends but he keeps on pushing for me to meet them because he wants the world to know about me being with him lol which I think is so cute. I do not have kids yet and he wants kids down the road. I feel like we do have a future together.
I 8767 m a mom who has a three year old daughter. I 8767 ve been dating this guy for about 5 months now and he claims to love me and my daughter. I believe him but the issue we have here is my daughter 8767 s father. My boyfriend doesn 8767 t like the fact that still good terms with my daughter 8767 s father. He does nothing for her but I keep him around because my daughter absolutely loves her dad and I can 8767 t take that from here no matter how much I hate the guy. How do I tell my boyfriend that I 8767 m definitely not choosing my daughters father over him. And he needs to understand this situation?
The black church has always been the strongest organization in the black community and white men don’t go to black churches and listen to black pastors preach to them about sin and how wicked their lives are and how much they need Salvation. I don 8767 t think too many white men would be able to endure the 7 to 8 hour church service led by black men every weekend. So as long as black churches with black pastors and black deacons remains the strength of the black community it doesn’t really matter what white men think about black women (or black men). You won 8767 t see too many white men going to black churches with black women while the church is being pastored by black men. The Sunday sermon by the black pastors will set things straight for black men and women (in the absence of white men who won’t go to black churches led by black pastors which may be the reason why black churches remain so strong in the black communities).
This article was interesting, but I really more enjoyed reading the comments. My girlfriend of one year is 87 and im 75. She has two kids and been married twice. I am finishing up college. We ve lived together for six months now and just got a house. We have certainly had our ups and downs, but we have worked them out on the way and its made us stronger. The first couple weeks we kept saying we cant let this get serious well now i just can t wait to get settled in my career and and hope one day to pop the question. We have hit just about every bump you could think of on the way including a few breaks but things are now better then ever and they have brought us closer together. We are very much in love with each other, and are excited to start our lives together.
In 65 years I can t imagine him still loving me or my body for that matter the way he says he does now. He insists that I stop worrying about it and get out of my head and just enjoy what we have. So, for now, I am going to take his advice and relish the AMAZING moments we have. My hope is that in the same way we organically fell in love at the same time, we will sweetly drift apart and go our separate ways. Our current deal is, I will stop saying I cant see you anymore and he promises to be brutally honest about his feelings. In this we feel safe.