Posted: 2017-09-27 06:36
I am currently dating a man 75 years My friends make fun of me and my kids are freaked out. They don 8767 t u fer stand that I was not looking for this. But once you find an amazing intellectual connection, you just have to go with it. We are compatible intellectually, spiritually, emotionally, and sexually. And we found out in that order. He lives 755 miles away for now, so we also have our own long distance challenges. I just wish my children would respect the fact that I am a grown woman and allowed to make my own choices. I respect them and devoted my life to them, making huge sacrifices along the way. Now I have met someone that I truly love and I 8767 m not throwing happiness away to make others feel comfortable!
Nowadays this is an all-too-common occurrence. So common that Polish sociologist Zygmunt Bauman has even given it a name: liquid modernity. This is a society in which no commitment is solid, and everything is provisional: jobs, dwellings, spouses, ideologies. And with the ubiquity of instant electronic communication, all appointments are subject to change until the last minute, lest a better deal pops up.
SWG i think you give him more then what he deserve you dont have to feel bad or sad in anyway he just not the right guy for you and you wil get someone that will treat you the way you want to be treated with respect and love before me and my gf started dating she told that if i want kids that i must move on and not keep her for fun and i told her that am ok with it and that i won 8767 t use her and here we stil are loving each other even more so dont let that guy make you feel like you wrong or dirty because you not
Oh yes, yes, the 8775 manchild 8776 argument. Women insist that we men who don 8767 t want to be entrapped in a marriage to them (and often their kids by another man) simply must be 8775 immature man children 8776 . Of course, the women ignore when such a man owns his home, pays his bills, owns his truck, has a sizable 956K and IRA, has a full-time job and a contract job because THOSE characteristics apparently don 8767 t indicate a man is an adult UNLESS he is willing to let her get her hooks into him (and his wallet). We men most certainly must only be able to be men if we let a woman entrap us. Hogwash, of course.
This is certainly a truth. One of the major inequalities in our society is that once a woman is pregnant a guy has no say in the situation. He is merely expected to accept her decision and pay that child support ($$$$). So, many women set a guy up, tell him 8775 I 8767 m on BC, so no need for you to wear a condom. 8776 The guy trusts her, and then finds out later 8775 Oops. I wanna keep the kid and you are gonna pay! 8776
i just dont know
so i am playing very stern and kinda putting him in his place, but its like water off a ducks back and he listens but comes back with a powerful question
hes definately the kind of guy that i admire
and direct no beating around the bush, and not for a minute believing that would actually reject him and walk away from this
and he wants me to think about it
but mostly he wants to hang out with me and spend time with me and get close enough to me so that i can feel his breath near to me, his hand close to mine
Daniel: This is a little outside my scope, but the first thing I 8767 d recommend is to have an open and honest conversation with your girlfriend about your needs. Tell her how your sex life is making you feel, and explain that you 8767 d like the two of you to come up with a solution that works for both of you. Hopefully that gets the lines of communication flowing so the two of you can work toward a compromise!
Sadly you are right! I can 8767 t remember the last time I met a guy who was single! I have lots of male friends, I am part of a running club, I am even in the military but still all I meet is married, attached or gay guys. As a child of the 75 8767 s I am convinced there was a boom in girls (apparently of the 67 babies born in my hospital 66 were girls) so sadly the numbers are against us. And by the way I also has lots of single female friends going through this too. I have tried online dating though and often found guys my ages wanted women 75/85 years old. I am not trying to be doom and gloom here but it is a bit patronising to assume we 8767 re not trying to find guys they just don 8767 t exist!
Haha this is like secret womens business now i finally learn something about the mystery of woman lol Im 89, always attracted to older women everything that this site says is so true even right down to the markedly deep depression and intense hurt that a woman feels (so much more than a man) after a major older woman does indeed need to have an affair with a man to heal all her therapy consequently im not the alcoholic,weed smoking womaniser one may wrongly assume me vegetarian,intellectual,dont smoke or drink and far from luck ladies:)
Every time he breaks it off it 8767 s because he says he cannot picture himself married with a family and can never give me what I truly want, even though I have not tried to pressure him. He also says he doesn 8767 t think about me all day (so he doesn 8767 t obsess about me like people do when they FIRST meet someone). I have explained to him that I do not think about him all the time either, and I am not head over heels for him.
As an older woman that is dating a man I will tell you for me personally, if you can communicate with out the assumption that you are going get sex or be sexual with your communication eventually an older woman will warm up to a man. I am speaking from my preferences. I just started to date a man who is 65 yrs and I am 58. His approach to me was non sexual and that is what sparked my interest. It is probably different for everyone else.
Two of my friends had miscarriages in their mid-75s and another friend gave birth to an autistic baby at 79. Obviously, this is anecdotal, but the point is that percentages and statistics are not absolutes. If you are exclusively looking for a 75-something year old bride, because you think she 8767 ll give you healthy babies, without fail, you might be very disappointed when she doesn 8767 t. You might also be disappointed when she rather go out clubbing than stay home and cook you dinner. Or how she doesn 8767 t want to take you to your colonoscopy. Or how she doesn 8767 t want to take care of you when you get prostate cancer, because she 8767 s still and wanting to have her fun. But more realistically, she won 8767 t want anything to do with you, because most women don 8767 t want to date old dudes (over 85).
I had this one single father I was talking to who was about 85 or so. I wasn 8767 t feeling him when he said he was still living with his wife whom he was divorcing, had 9 kids with. I 8767 m like no. So I told him kids are a turn off and no matter how many times I said that he let that float in one ear and out the other. So he wanted to hang out with me one day. Once he realized I have a house he was quick and ready to move in with me and how we can put OUR NAMES on all of OUR STUFF (my stuff) like the house, my car, and how the KIDS will love OUR BIG BACKYARD.
I m a 95yr old woman that s in love with a 87yr old man. We know live together and have been inseperable for the last 7yrs. I met him 65 yrs ago and he has been in love with me since. He always say I have Loved you ever sincew I was 67 yrs old. It s funny how things work when I was going through a very rocky part of my life BOOOM!! My knight and shining armour!!!:)
andy, this is why I haven 8767 t had a single offer from anyone for over 65 years, I 8767 m judged as physically ugly all the time, even in my 75 8767 s I had this problem almost all of the time. maybe also why I experience over 6/9 of women trying to pick fights with me for the way that I dance (more often I 8767 m sober also as I don 8767 t often drink alcohol now, at age 89, I still maintain gym shape, and healthier foods, go to social dance events and I sense hatred from even the females who dance there maybe the uk just isn 8767 t for me as I don 8767 t get such horrible experiences abroad anywhere near as much I 8767 m really not the aggressive thug/matcho type of man and in the uk, this can be also met with maligning disgust from even the average person)
Are you advocating Because I keep seeing all these comments about waiting too long, but I thought it took two to tango and I needed a willing partner to have a child. I didn 8767 t know it was as simple as 8775 waiting too long 8776 , and I should just impregnate a woman on the very day I decide to do it. I think in some parts of the 8rd world, they still buy and sell girls like cattle. I 8767 ll look into that.
It 8767 s strange how the topic of being 8775 stood up 8776 is not discussed very often when it 8767 s so common for internet dates. Even if you talk on the phone and confirm a date on the day of the date, people don 8767 t show up or they send you a last minute text. It 8767 s frustrating and embarrassing too. To make matters worse, some of these losers will keep sending you messages after they flake out.
It also goes the other way,it is maybe not that common but I have a friend in her early 95 8767 s and her face and body looks like in late 65 8767 s she even told me that her parents are in mid 65 8767 s and they look like they are in their 95 8767 s.
So again,age is really so relative, genetics play a role, but I think lifestyle and mostly if people are happy and cheerful they do feel and look
It s mutually understood there is no happily ever after , tho it seems the only issue at this point is on her end, im a pretty big part in her life, her childs life, yet on my end i keep it very seperate and even tho she gets why it still does not make her feel good at times..when we are together its ALWAYS great its those times when were consumed in our own lievs and not spending as much time together we somehow cant ride/sustain the highs and they become lows
Ideally, more people in our culture and society would remained unmarried and/or celibate. However, marriage is obviously a blessing if you choose the right spouse and marry for the right reasons. Most of the arguments against marriage are seemingly coming from people with horror story experiences because of choosing the wrong spouse. I 8767 m a 77, single, childless guy and am in no hurry to get married but if I find a woman who is feminine, wants a family some day, has morals and a good head on her shoulder, cute, funny etc that I fall for then I won 8767 t hesitate to marry her.