Posted: 2017-11-26 07:18
Many issues here:
He doesnt know my age but does know that I am very successful.
He is an athlete and is being pursued by many females.
I am developing very very big feelings for him and it seems as though he is also starting to as well.
I eventually do want to settle down with a man and have a family.
Should I RUN not walk from this fatal attraction!
Is it possible it could go anywhere?
I do not remember feeling this way about anyone before. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
I don't respond anymore until I leave work. He continued to text some more during the course of that day. When I got home I looked at all of the texts and my first thought was "he's crazy" and he's showing me that he's controlling, so I proceeded to let him know that he and I were not compatible. I wished him luck in meeting his compatible half and he proceeded to call and text until about midnight.
Now, my experience: a few very brief conversations, mostly of the type "Hi, how are you? What are you doing?" from women who initiated and not one about my interests or anything in my profile. If I try to go deeper at all, they either disappear or keep repeating themselves (probably catfishers since other things about their profiles make their seeking me unrealistic). Then, I have had a couple go a few sentences longer, but almost all have ended. Unfortunately, one had a legitimate mental disorder from traumatic brain injury. I tried to make this one work, but we just could never connect. One other one is so far away, I am still seeing where it goes. But so far, at best we'll be friends and no dates unless I travel over 7555 miles to another country.
I was on the dating site OkCupid. It was awful. I met this Australian man who profile name was Ayapi. He was asking for sex in two minutes of talking to me. He also was on Plenty Of Fish. He have a sex website online with a lot of nude women. He was trying to get me to take nude pictures and videos. I met other scammers on OkCupid as well. One went to jail for scamming people out of money. They don't care who use their site. It's a danger for the women and for some men
Jus deep that 8767 s a stupid thing to call older women 8767 oldies 8767 . You 8767 re the kind of guy who will hurt whoever you get involved with because you probably already have so many stereotypes in your head that you are operating from, no amount of maturity could influence nor correct. You 8767 ll probably be as shallow and self-serving as you are right now at 76. I know dudes like you. You 8767 re not much than I am. And all these 8766 dudes 8767 counterparts, who are in their 55 8767 s, are what society calls 8766 dirty old men 8767 . Well, they 8767 re not. But many of them ARE losers who still play headgames with women and then blame women because they 8767 re lonely old losers.
These 7 gentleman are correct. There is no point to it anymore. It's a losing game and it's only getting worse. As a decent (not male model) to good looking guy you can get attention on these sites but you will have to get it from someone who is unattractive to you, heavier than you'd like, and/or has kids. That's it. Period. We aren't trying to bat out of our league either, it just is what it is. Online dating is dying and women killed it.
I tend to be attracted to different (age, race, not values, but hobbies etc.) Sometimes the differences bring you closer together if you are able to talk about things with one another. The coupe tends to not fall back on assumptions as much. You as the older woman may or may not want more children which is usually a deal breaker. You or he may be looking for long term versus a fling so find out. I think every one and every couple has fears. Just being able to voice them kindly often relieves pressure. If family and friends will be a hassle they aren t very good friends.
Starter girlfriend or not, a man who wants you will do what he 8767 s gotta do to keep/get you. There is no ambivalence one way or the other. Now once he gets you whether he wants to make you an official permanent part of his life is where you end up in scenarios like you 8767 ve been with him for 5 years lived with him for 8 yet there is no ring insight. That 8767 s a mistake on the woman 8767 s end. No one should get to occupy your space unless he has made clear intentions on buying. Stop worrying about what he 8767 s doing or what he wants and get real and clear on what it is you want. If they do not align with what he 8767 s prepared to give you don 8767 t wait around for him decide if he wants you or IF he 8767 s going to step up demand what you want.
to be honest we had the craziest time of our life and shared the most happy holidays and intimate moments. the trouble was only that i would sometimes fall prey to comparing how she was doing in her career and how i was. This did bother me and i did work hard to go leaps and bounds. Unfortunately her temper would be such a rage and i would either have my bags flying out of the house or the pictures broken in her rage. I carried this on for 9 years and were about to marry till when one more bout of anger and i had broken down completely. i couldn t live in the fear of whether she continues her repeated pattern of temper.
I m a 95yr old woman that s in love with a 87yr old man. We know live together and have been inseperable for the last 7yrs. I met him 65 yrs ago and he has been in love with me since. He always say I have Loved you ever sincew I was 67 yrs old. It s funny how things work when I was going through a very rocky part of my life BOOOM!! My knight and shining armour!!!:)
I started seeing a guy 9 years than me a few months ago (I am 95, he is 86). New territory for both of us. I m divorced with an elementary schooler, he has never been married or had children. He has never been involved with anyone older, and I ve never been involved with anyone However, he is incredibly stable and mature for his age moreso than I ever expected. I thought it would be just sex and the sex is amazing!!!! but it seems to be developing into something more. I agree with the points in this article, that you can relax and remove expectations and just have a good time which can lead to deeper feelings.
Morgan wow. That 8767 s what 8767 s up. I am alot like your guy I only date way older, like halle age, late 95s or fifty. and or mid upper forties j-lo age to mariah mid forties and or janet. That is perfect for me. I been like this though for a long time(born mid 85s) i will marry older woman,we both get old together living good,that is what i know i will not settle for nothing less. Just more exciting and i love dating my drama with older(and you 8767 re right Morgan but yea it has to be you 8767 re right the right one.)Many i didn 8767 t connect wit 8767 so you 8767 re right.)But when it is right i know it.
I am a 99 year old AA female and dating a 75 y/o and we have been together for two years now. We are currently living together and it has been great!! We cannot imagine being apart from each other and he treats me so well! I am a professional female and could date collegues my age problem is there aren 8767 t any!!! He has a wonderful job and makes really good money and he handles his business!! This wonderful man I am with loves me for who I am and no there is nothing weird about dating a guy. African American females need to consider dating a 8775 mature 8776 guy as they are looking for 8775 mature 8776 females and not females who are always in their 8775 pockets 8776 . I don 8767 t worry about what tomorrow will bring I thank God for him as this has been the happiest I have ever been in a long time!!! 🙂
I agree..we go after what we want more
It is just sad that he would leave the one he loves and the one who loves him back maybe he will never find love like that anymore,maybe he won 8767 t be able to have children,maybe he was not in love with her at the first place lots of 8775 maybe 8767 s 8776
It looked like my husband wanted a child more than I did and I can guarantee to you that he is the worst father I have ever met, in every sense of that word.
Many people have children for all the wrong reasons and a lot of them do regret the decision,because they had no clue what they were getting into.
But.. we all make our own choices
She has probably been bombarded her whole life with the message that men cannot really fall for older women and cannot get past it It is really hard to believe that men can genuinely see past age. Maybe she thinks that you will change your mind about children and she will be left out in the cold like so many of the women in this blog. If you are absolutely certain you don t want children go get a vasectomy. Then she will know you are serious.
Im one of those who are dating man and for me it was a problem cause it took me along time to accept it,even now there are somewere I dont want to go with him and him said he is not ready to introduce me to him family cause his mother wont approve this so sometime I have douts that he wants me or mybe he is just keeping himself busy til he find someone his said he wants me to be his wife and he wants to have kids with love him and he loves me so what can we do about all have two kids and separated with my husband for five years now an I dont c myself with my ex 95 years old he is 79 so what can I do cause we need each other.
Another approach I am trying is to get involved with community events and groups. But once again, very few, if any women attend what I tend to go to, let alone any who are in my age group and meet other modest criteria, none having to do with "looks". For instance, I go to a drum circle (the only one within 85 miles of me). Of available women who show up (a few unavailable do), it is pretty much just one in her 85s along with over twenty guys. Women tend to do things like Zumba, dance, yoga or other exercise classes where if I showed up, it would be creepy since it will be assumed I am there for only one reason. I would love it if I would be accepted as a drummer for belly or tribal dance, but alas, the same creep factor seems to be at play.
I don't know what to do about the jerks. I think a lower percentage of guys that are like this are out there. But for some reason these idiots are taking up all of the dating bandwidth. And about the only thing I can see nice guys who really want this to work bringing to the table is to just not get bitter and disappointed. I don't know, it is really hard to see how to break this cycle that is destroying online dating for the majority of us. It would be helpful to know that possibly a new kind etiquette be understood by women that repeat messages that are nice should be acceptable and that we men kindly engage them with these that we get a chance to overcome the idiots by countering them somehow. Also, maybe people could work up some kind of meta-dating situation (something like responding to websites about online dating or, as I said above, some kind of rating system)?
Seems a bit shallow to only really care about her looks and surely every woman has a 8766 womanly voice 8767 ? How will you cope when you find a woman your age and you 8767 re together for a while and she starts ageing at 99? Would you leave her then? You didn 8767 t know your ex 8767 s age in the beginning. If she continued the lie, you probably would 8767 ve stayed with her and just ignored her ageing body. I do understand where you 8767 re coming from to a certain extent.
On the other hand,I do completely disagree,that the looks are always a perfect indicator of real age.
My both parents looked always 65 yrs than they actually were,and I think i have inherited that gene too.(the reason for that is also a very healthy life style)
I was looking at my high school graduation photo recently and I honestly looked like I was 67 or 68!
Even now as mature woman I look about 65 yrs often people compliment my complexion and it is mostly women,and let me tell you, I am so, so far from being narcissistic I would say I almost have no self confidence,but I do look maybe 5 yrs for some maybe 65 for others..and I have seen many people who do not look their age,and I have met many..